So yesterday me (M22) & my gf (F21) were having sex. usually when we do it, we routinely do it in the missionary position and i usually finish and she’s able to have a good time too, but yesterday something unusual happened. As I was thrusting, I was having difficulty finishing – which is not common, since I usually am able to finish with no problem; but yesterday it just wasn’t clicking for some reason and I was thrusting for like 10-15 minutes. Then as I was continuing thrusting, all of a sudden I feel an enormous heavy pressure on my penis – the feeling was so heavy that, it was as if my Penis was being squeezed from all sides. With this enormous pressure on me I was finally at last able to finish & it was one of the best feelings ever. I looked over at my gf and I asked her what the hell just happened? & she just laughed and said “magic”

I’m still confused on what happened even after a day just passed since. Because we've been doing missionary for so long and nothing like this has ever happened. What do you guys think?

I hope this title doesn’t give off the wrong idea- just to clear a few things up, my partner(m) does not pressure me(f) in any sort of way to engage in sexual activities ever.

My question is, is it normal to have sex with your partner to satisfy their needs even if you’re not particularly in the mood? Now if I straight up don’t want to have sex I won’t but my sex drive isn’t nearly as high as his and sometimes I could take it or leave it. Is this normal/healthy or could this negatively impact our sex life? He doesn’t make me feel bad about it and is a great partner in every aspect of our relationship but I know he would like to have more sex. I don’t know how else to describe it besides me being fine with having sex. Like I’m not super horny and I’m not even worried about reaching orgasm I’m just okay with having sex to satisfy his needs. Is this okay? I don’t want him to feel bad like I don’t find him attractive or don’t want to have sex with him ever or like I just want to “get it over with” but my sex drive is just really not high at all and I want him to be sexually fulfilled in our relationship.

I've always been a little excitable and often when i'm snuggling with my girlfriend i get a boner and she always tells me she's sick of it but half of the time it just leads to dry humping or sex so i don't entirely think she's as annoyed by it as she says but if it bothers her that we can't just cuddle and watch stupid movies then i want to be able to give her that but it's kinda hard (pun intended, fuck you (pun intended)) when she does that little move where she scoots her ass right against my crotch. sometimes she doesn't even wear pants when she does it she just wears a 5XL t-shirt that i got from a t-shirt cannon at a curling match and then she still gets annoyed when it happens. i don't know if it's some weird humiliation ritual or what and with all the respect possible i'm not sure why she would expect to just press her half bare ass against my penis and i just remain completely flaccid.

I’m 30f. Sex has never been something anyone really wanted from me and now, after recent medical events, it’s become obvious sex will never happen again for me.

I’ve slept with 3 people my whole life. (1 one night stand, 1 two week hook up, and my current relationship of 7years. Had sex less than 35 times total between all 3.) It’s always been something I really wanted but it just didn’t happen for me, I’m just not someone people want to bang. And that’s okay! Not everything is about that, but as someone who always thought about sex and even idolized the idea of it, I feel like I’ve missed out a huge part of my life. I’ve never been given oral (despite being pretty obsessed with it), I’ve never came from penetration or fingers, and in the few dozen times I’ve slept with my partner it was very much a get it over with as soon as possible situation for them.

I realize this is an individual problem and I need advice on where to go from here. I’m willing to accept the fact I’m just not someone who is wanted that way, and now with a colostomy I’m trying to figure out how to handle these feelings and negate the want to be wanted as I’m now beyond unfuckable with this sort of disability. (It’s pretty gross so be warned if you look it up.)

I hope this doesn’t break sub rules as I need genuine individual advice for how to handle sex (or lack of it) going forward for the rest of my life. I don’t know where else to ask, if there are better suited communities for this, please share! Thank you so much.

I don't know if this is a kink or if I'm horny or if it's a natural feeling, but why do I sometimes look at my boyfriend and have an urge to penetrate him with a dick I don't have? I don't mean pegging, I mean I feel like I'm having a phantom erection.

My partner first asked me to do this last year, and I did it because I didn't really mind it then. I'm usually very open to trying new things in bed, as long as they don't trigger my trauma.

When I first did it, he enjoyed it, and I thought it would be something we would do occasionally but not regularly. It couldn't be farther from the truth.

He kept asking me to do it and, despite my discomfort, I did it every time for his sake. It got to a point where he asked me to buy him a dildo because my fingers weren't enough for him anymore.

I started to avoid having sex altogether because I just hate doing it.

I wish I could say it's not about stigma, but I think that's exactly the reason why. I grew up surrounded by conservative people and these kinds of things are uncommon to hear about.

I began seeing him as less than a man and I hate it. I started thinking about past crushes I had and even masturbated thinking about them.

I feel awful about doing this to him and thinking this way, but I no longer enjoy sex with him. My hypersexuality is making me have unfaithful thoughts constantly because of this situation.

Not only that, but I realized the problem isn't what he asks for, it's the fact that I have to do it. It turns me off to do it and he can't finish without doing it anymore.

I really am at a loss for this. Can someone give me advice on what to do? I really don't want to break up with him.

I’m (29F) newly back in the dating scene after a few years of staying away. Was in a long term relationship that ended a couple years ago, moved, changed careers and was studying for my licenses so dating just inadvertently fell on the back burner.

I recently started putting myself back out there and have gone on a few dates (5ish) with varying success rates. Some it was mutual no connection, some I declined, some were great. Most ended in a hug or a kiss, but twice I’ve wanted to continue the date and gone back to the guy’s apartment which is very bold and out of character for me.

However, in both cases we started making out and things got progressively more physical (to varying degrees each time) but each time the guy was the one to stop things and said some version of “I don’t want to have sex with you tonight”. Neither elaborated, and I didn’t ask in the moment because I wanted to respect their boundary.

To be clear, I’m actually glad they stopped things but it happening twice now in my small data set is quite shocking to me especially when they were the one to invite me back.

None of my friends have experienced this (some have hooked up on the first date and married their guys) so looking to hear others thoughts and experiences

30F. My previous post I talked about being newly disabled and how to move forward with never being intimate again with my partner.

I got a lot of great advice. I took some time to talk to him about understanding where we stood intimacy wise and what we could do together to try and maintain some sort of intimate contact.

He bought an AI pocket pussy that cost $60 and comes with a “girlfriend”.

My heart sunk. I got a weird feeling in my chest and tried to make light of it, but that was the nail in the coffin.

He tried to say it was because he didn’t want to hurt me, there is no position I can be in that’s comfortable for him, he can’t put pressure on me for fear of touching my colostomy bag, etc.

He gave up. Just like I knew he would.

So what now? Any advice on coping moving forward knowing my sex life is over for a pocket pussy?

I knew it would happen deep down. I knew the moment I woke up from surgery and saw my body.

I knew and it still hurts so much.

Thank you everyone for the wonderful words of advice. I appreciate you all.

Any further advice on what I can do going forward would be appreciated as far as sex (or rather not having it).

Last night me and my boyfriend were having sex, we've only been dating for a month and this was our second time having sex. I had never given him head before this. Last night I was just really in the mood to give head, and so I did. As he finished he fell back on the bed and fell asleep in like 2 minutes, I found it funny and didn't mind but it seems like he thinks I did, everything is really awkward between us and he keeps apologizing for last night. How do I make him comfortable around me again and how do I NOT make him pass out next time?😭

For some time now I’ve been seeing a new guy who is „quite” experienced sexually. I’ve always been open when it comes to sharing experiences, and hearing about him talking about fucking another girl turns me on like A LOT.

Recently, though, I learned more details about one of the girls he used to see - he told me how one of his previous girlfriends came so hard she started squirting at some point (first time in her life) and after that every sex they had made her literally shiver or how they had to do that standing up because the floor was flooded and that was a massive turn-on for him - and it unexpectedly started affecting me. The more I think about it, the more insecure I feel. Even though I know I’m not passive in bed and I have my own „strengths”, I’ve started worrying that sex with me might seem ordinary or “vanilla” in comparison.

On top of that, I don’t orgasm from penetration, and I’m afraid this might never change, which makes me feel even worse. For the first time in my life, I feel like I’m not good enough sexually. Even though he has never made me feel this way directly and literally tells me he adores me, I can’t shake the feeling that others were somehow better.

It literally got to the point where, when he’s going down on me, I shut down and pull him back because I feel like I can’t enjoy it the way I „should” and I’m embarrassed because of that.

Do you have any advice on how to rebuild confidence and focus on pleasure during sex instead of constantly worrying that I’m boring or not enough?

I have beautiful teeth (probably my best attribute imo) that I take very good care of, however, I’m actively mistreating them and I need a solution. Hubs will tease and edge me for hours on end. I cum so intensely several times throughout the process:: all while clenching my jaw and basically gritting my teeth to push through it. I’ll catch myself either during build up and stop myself but then I’m focused solely on my stupid mouth and how having missing front teeth would be the farthest thing from sexy OR mid release I’m doing it and try to stop bc it hurts but then it ruins my orgasm. Is there a mouth guard or tool out there anyone knows of to help? Preferably something that won’t have me looking like I’m lining up to take a snap under center! This is nightly so I’m starting to worry and have soreness.

So I (35m) caught my (14f) year old daughter having sex and I have no clue how to deal with it. I love my daughter and I’m a single dad her mom is not in the picture we have a great relationship and she has recently been telling me about a boy she likes. Well long story short I walked into her room with lunch and saw her having sex with a guy who looked much older maybe 16-17 and I have no idea how to deal with it. I don’t want to shame her but I also don’t want her to think that’s okay I did not say he could come over so he must have snuck through the window i’m not going to lie that image will probably haunt me for life I was absolutely not ready to see my baby girl like that but here we are. I immediately closed the door after freezing for a second and she quickly screamed for me to get out and I heard her and him start to get dressed and I am currently sitting on my couch they have not come out yet probably embarrassed I meds advice on how to deal with this please!

Update! First I want to say thank you for all the messages and replies they really helped and sorry if I didn’t respond to them all

So about 20 minutes after I made the post she came out of her room red as a tomato clearly very embarrassed. the guy behind her also walking out and when I tell you he was at least a foot taller then her she is 5,3 and he was at least 6,0 I am I big dude 6,4 since I last checked and this guy was not much far off my me. after my daughter shoved him out of the front door she set down next to me and it was silent for a while till she spoke first says she was sorry and I told her that it was okay but the first thing I asked was how old the guy was and she said 17. I’m not sure how they met but I was very upset I told her that he was way to old for her and she ended up nodded and said she knew that but just wanted to know what sex was like. After talking to her and having a very awkward conversation I found out that she had asked him and lied about her age my daughter looks very mature so he believed her. and they were indeed wearing a condom thank god. She apparently had grabbed one of mine from my cabinet and that’s what they used she apologized and we ate some ice cream like you guys suggested and she said that it wasn’t super enjoyable. after we finished talking and eating ice cream she laid on my chest and we watched a movie. Thank you all for your help this was definitely a weird situation.

Hey guys I wanted to update again because I have tons of feed back so i figured I go more into detail.

I have had people say I’m doing great and others saying I was to soft I would like to say that I told her that I want her to wait to do anything else and I understand that teenagers just fuck sometimes. For everyone say birth control she is already on it for other reason but it is still normal birth control. She got her period at 11 and I think that’s fairly young so she already now all about that for the people wondering. Some people have said go to the police but my daughter lied about her age and after asking she told me she said she was 16 so I don’t think he did anything wrong per say. I explained to my daughter he could get into he could get into huge trouble with the police and she immediately started apologizing again and I could see a slight panic is her eyes so I don’t think she will be trying to lie about her age again. I’ve talked to her about safe sex and suggested she not sleep with anyone for a while. I’ve also had people say to buy her a sex toy but I really don’t feel comfortable with that or giving her the money for it I think she would be uncomfortable with the whole situation and I do t like that thought of it so I’ve decided not to do that. Also for people saying I messed up and rewarded her no I didn’t I parented my child how she needed I’m not going to yell and scream or set sold boundaries because we already have them this was a weird situation but trust me I’m not just someone my daughter lives as a friend I still parent her. So back to what else happened I ended up asked to see the messages between them and she said yes so after getting onto them I went up to the top and started to scroll down and man talk about love bombing this guy was saying how much she loved her on day three showering her with attention saying how beautiful and pretty she was but then started to ask for nudes and things which she never sent. I have always told her to never send nudes because in my opinion you can and most of the time always will find out who they are if the nudes get around. Plus my daughter has a very distortable birth mark on her right arm. I can confirm that she said she was 16. It was in the messages Even tho this guy was a piece of work he thought he was sleeping with a 16 year old so I really don’t think it’s his fault there. But he is still in fault because when he first asked to come over she originally said no because I was home and she didn’t know him that well. My daughter is a very soft spoken and a people pleaser so after him begging enough she reluctantly agreed which led to him coming over through her window and after a while of him begging her for sex she said yes to that too. I do think my daughter is still at fault for letting him come over in the first place and she got in trouble for that but I know in her head she thought she had no choice. I’ve talked to her about consent aswell and told her her she can say no anytime no matter what she said previously. Anyways that all of it thank you all for the advice I really appreciate it.

My (22F) husband (23M) is the only person I’ve had sex with but I’m not his so I need a little advice. I’m not sure if this is a problem others experience often.

For context husband had a botched circumcision as a baby and was left with scar tissue in that area which I believe is the reason he isn’t as sensitive as the average guy. I haven’t had sex with others but I have done foreplay with previous partners and there is definitely a noticeable difference. Not saying this to shame him at all I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed about it’s simply a difference.

Whenever we have sex, he finds it almost impossible to finish from vaginal because he says I’m too wet for him to feel anything and he needs more friction. He can finish fairly easily from anal but I’m not a big fan of it. We’re planning to start trying to conceive next year as well so I need him to be able to finish vaginally without having to put it in the other hole first cause that raises problems with cleanliness.

He says he’s only had this problem with me and not the 4 women he’s been with previously but I really don’t think I’m producing a crazy amount of liquid, I’m just attracted to him so ofc it gets wet.

We have tried him wiping us both off with a towel before continuing sex but I’ve found that to be very painful as I need the full amount of lubricant that I produce, even if he pulls out for a minute and puts it back in I can feel what feels like micro tears inside me and I end up having to stop everything all together cause it’s too painful. He has a hard time finishing with a handjob and/or head as well so that’s not much of an option either unfortunately.

Has anyone else experienced this? I just want to figure out something that works for both of us so that he can finish inside of me without pain.

I don’t know if this is the right sub for this question/matter.

Recently I (26f) started going to the gym and while I do certain exercises I feel like I’m gonna cum. Is there a way to avoid this? I don’t want to cum in front of everyone!!

Help

My boyfriend has recently become curious with, well, putting different objects up his butt. At first he started experimenting with just his fingers, which was ok, he was very open about it and seemed genuinely interested in making his sexual experience better. I also encouraged him to get to know himself better. But then, the objects he put up there startes becoming more and more weird.

Some of his creations are:

• cucumber/carrot that he puts a condom on

• he specifically bought a slim and long TV remote (???), wrapped it in toilet paper so the shape resembles a dick, also put a condom on it

• ...toothpaste tube, also in a condom and wrapped with paper (he said the sensation is cool because he can feel the toothpaste move inside??)

• he put a fuzzy sock on a hairbrush handle, condom on top

Now, I am not shaming him. I bought him 3 different shaped and sized dildos so he can use something safer but he refuses to use them, he hasn't even unpacked them. When I ask him why he just changes the subject. Is that normal??? The objects keep getting weirder and weirder and I am definitely not sure how to feel about it. At least he's very careful and uses lube. We are both in our mid 20s. What do I even do? Do I just let him go crazy with the DYI? 😭

EDIT UPDATE: I have now spoken with my gf and we had a deep conversation and she admitted she's never been with a guy before and she has just been having sex with a strap on. I told her how I felt etc and she apologised and said she doesn't find penis appealing but likes the penetration so in the end we admitted it would be better if we just remained friends as our needs weren't really being met :)

I wanna thank everyone for their advice and I will leave this post up here incase someone is having a similar issue or needs this to relate to and they can read the multitude of good advice that you guys have provided below. thank you again.

(using a burner account because some of my friends follow my real one)

I'm M (22) and gf is F (21)

just as the title says my girlfriend doesn't like my penis unless it's inside her during sex. anytime she brushes her hand against it etc she whinces, starts saying ew and the like and talking about how gross dicks are.

for context my girlfriend and I have been together about 2 months now and have been having sex for about a month. besides the sex she's a funny person and we have a lot in common and we were friends for about half a year before getting together so we are quite close. the sex is pretty good except there's no foreplay apart for making out, but even then I can't get too close to her or go behind her because she feels my dick and starts making a deal out of the fact I have a boner.

to clarify, I'm an athlete I have a good diet so I don't think my cum should taste bad and also because I'm an athlete and sweat a lot I shower very thoroughly including my ass and dick and I know nothing smells down there. also when I'm hard I'm about 5 and something inches big so I don't think that's a huge size or at least huge enough to be scary or something ?

basically whenever I brush against her and she feels my dick she gets mad, she also gets mad whenever I have a boner outside of us having sex because she thinks it's weird. she doesn't want to give blow jobs or handjobs because she doesn't like the feel of it and says it's weird. now I'm not forcing her to do any of that, but during sex I'd ask if she'd like to put it in or something to spice things up but she would always get so childish about it and start saying "ew no".

at this rate I'm writing this not because I'm desperate for my dick to be touched by her, but because I'm starting to feel insecure about it and it's starting to hurt my libido. I've tried to have conversations about it to her and ask her why she acts the way she does and her only response is "because dicks are just weird".

any advice would be appreciated 👍

The title pretty much sums it up but I hate it. I don’t feel any pleasure, when he does touch me down there I just want him to stop. I’ve been with him for 10 years and we’ve spiced it up and stuff but nothing helps. What do I do? I can’t speak to him about it either he gets easily offended over this type of stuff. I’ve tried before. I feel like I just do it for his sake and I want it to be over as soon as it starts.

I think my husband found my vibrator. He’s very against using toys but our bedroom has basically died since having kids. He refuses to do anything when I’m pregnant so this has been an issue since the summer of 2021. I thought it would get better after giving birth but it’s just excuse after excuse from him.

He never wants to do anything but receive head from me. I bought this toy in 2020 ( I didn’t know he was against them when I bought it) because I was curious and I ended up liking it. I didn’t use it much in the beginning because I was satisfied but now I find myself using it all the time because he’s never up for anything.

He had to move my hiding place to access something and I think he might have found it. He’s been acting off ever since. I don’t want to ask him and give myself away and idk if he’s going to bring it up… he’s really against toys and has said there would be problems if I get one… I did tell him months ago if our sex life didn’t improve I would be getting something.

A pro is that since he moved my hiding spot he’s been super helpful… just with a weird attitude. He did bath time, loaded and started the dishwasher and put our two year old to bed. Like I didn’t have to ask or get on him to help me for five minutes. Idk.

EDIT: I’m editing this to add some context because these things keep coming up.

1. No I’m not going him head anymore because I am upset with our lack of intimacy. Please don’t assume I’m not because I’m raging about it. I’m very frustrated.

2. “There will be problems” he didn’t say this in a threatening manner what so ever. His body language was casual and he was even smiling while he said it, but he was serious.

3. I am a SAHM and I personally have a lot of guilt over him helping around the house. I argue with myself daily that he lives here is in a WFH position and does contribute to the daily mess so he should be helping. I understand my irrational brain is taking over here and I’m not allowing myself to graciously accept help. If I choose anything I want him to bond with our daughter over cleaning the home. And me getting after/nagging him is me asking him 10 times in an hour to play with his kid.

4. He wasn’t raised in a strictly religious household but he grew up exposed to it. He’s Hindu but doesn’t actively practice now.

5. Sex during pregnancy: I’ve explained it’s safe and so has my Dr but he’s not comfortable with it so it’s just a boundary I don’t push with him. It’s a short period of time and it might be frustrating to go without but it’s okay. The frustrating part is the lack of connection AFTER.

Im 19F and I have this weird kink and i don’t know what to do about it. I really want to tell my boyfriend because I don’t think I could live life without having these urges fulfilled but I feel like he will leave me. Please don’t make fun of me in the comments but I really am into prostitution and people paying for sex. I have done it in the past and it just turns me on. It’s not even the gathering of money that gets me it’s the fact that people WANT to pay for me idk how to explain it and I feel like an awful person for being into this. How can I tell him ? What do I do if he breaks up with me ?

We've been going raw for about 4 months now. Recently we have been a bit dumb, and cumming inside a lot, both consensual, both knowing shes not on birth control. We kind of had a check-up with each other a few weeks ago and decided that it was really irresponsible so we stopped doing it, she even took a plan B pill after we talked about it.

Since then we've been doing the pullout method, but recently we were having sex and I asked her where she wanted my cum. I asked her "inside or outside?" and she said "wherever you want" and i came inside her again. She didnt even bring it up or talk about the Plan B pill or whatever.

Im just wondering, in a moment like this, is she basically placing me in the category of men she WANTS to impregnate her and pass offspring? To be honest, I cant necessarilly say I wanted to put a baby in my recent ex, even though it was at the time a good relationship. I just didnt subconsciously want to. Ive looked into this, and i realized just because a girl consents to a guy cumming inside, its not necessarily a reproductive urge. Its just hot, sexy, intimate, etc.

But this context is a bit different, especially because we talked about it before.

I know it sounds silly, but is this what's going on here? She couldve told me no, but she put destiny in my hands, basically. Was this like a test or some sort?

So I’m stoned, and was super horny, so I decided to read some smut. I did, and I think I just came in my pants. I wasn’t doing touching anything, I didn’t feel it coming on, it just… happened. I’ve had lots of trouble finishing n the past, so I’m really shocked, I had no idea I could do that. I suffer from chronic pain, so I’m always in pain to some degree, but now I just feel good, warm, cozy. I don’t even know why I’m posting this, I guess I’m just happy. :)

(F21, M30) we've been dating for 4 months now and this is my first relationship but he's been in a lot of relationships, even a long term one in which he lived with her for 5 years. So the thing is even when i touch his face a little or when i hug him or touch his hair or whatever i do, he gets hard. Yesterday he was like this is not normal, why am i being like this, when i touched his face a little with my fingertips lol. I mean he might be joking about it not being normal and i'm not complaining i love it actually. But i always wondered if that's how guys are generally. Do you get hard with every touch from your girlfriend?

Casual Sex

For the longest I've been wanting to get laid casually and just feel so desired and wanted. And well that happened.

I matched with a guy on Tinder today, we met up and the vibe right away was just like amazing. we went to the beach and we went swimming . it was so much fun. then we went back to like his Airbnb (he's from California and he's only here for one more day , so we were both on the same page about a one night stand )

we ordered food, he put on a movie and you know a little dance happened with him wanting me to get closer, me being shy blah blah blah.

but then he kissed me and it was just like fireworks went off in my stomach. it was perfect he did everything right, the way he touched me, the way he was like super reassuring, the way he cared about like my orgasm ..it was just all really good. we had sex that was nice also , cause I didn't know him that well so it wasn't rough or kinky the way it would be with someone I've known longer.

but somehow after i I still feel like I went through some type of drop. and I know with BDSM you go through subdrop, but this was plain jane regular vanilla sex. and like a drop happened.

he gave me aftercare and we cuddled for a good 2 hours and he talked to me and like made sure everything was okay and he wanted to make sure he didn't do anything wrong which I thought was really sweet.

and I just straight up told him that I just felt kinda slutty , we sat in silence and he kissed my forehead. eventually I told him I have to go and I left, got home, took a shower , then made myself a cup of tea.

he messaged me I haven't replied back yet. I think I'm just feeling so empty and hollow, like something is missing and I don't know what. like my chest feels heavy, I thought I wanted to cry but I don't really want to cry. I just feel completely off. so now I'm just thinking maybe casual sex isn't for me. I know I don't want a relationship, and I don't want like anything serious with anyone.. but maybe I need more to it than casual sex and I don't know what it is that's missing for me.

I guess I'm just wondering what kinda drop did I possibly go through? like what is it called and just any advice or support on what it is I could possibly be missing ? I've been wanting to get slide it out for like 2 months now that it happened I kind of I don't want to say hate myself but I don't know..

Edit I do not consider this to be a birth control method in any way shape or form! We are discussing hormonal birth control and that would allow us to experiment with things like following scenario.

To start my girlfriend has been contemplating different forms of birth control for a while now. Which for me as a guy is pretty exciting, you can probably imagine. And I don't really fancy paying for condoms if there's way around it. Also there is no way I'd risk anything without protection.

Anticonceptions and not wearing condoms brings us to next point which is you can actually cum inside your partner. And my girlfriend recently came to me with the question of if I would theoretically be willing to clean her up after crempie.

We are taking about oral cleanup of partner after cumming inside her.... I can see two problems there. Both of them being mental on my part. One is that this represents kinda of a act of submission? I can't explain my feelings about it better. But basically I feel like I might lose face I've built up with her by this. Which I know is stupid and I won't I know her good enough for that and out relationship goes words deeper than only intimacy. Also she wouldn't ask about this if she didn't find it arousing. And second being I can get behind the idea BUT basically only during the act of sex or masturbation itself. The moment post nut clarity hits I'm reformed man and I can't imagine finding it hot.

What do?

Is it normal to sometimes want to look at my wife's vagina when we're relaxing and laying on the couch? If she's in short shorts under the blankets and nobody is around I'll ask for a peak, usually it's a no and I took it for her being shy about it. Today she revealed it's because of childhood trauma it brings up and now I feel dirty for even asking.