What did my partner just do?

[u/OkTough6333]

So yesterday me (M22) & my gf (F21) were having sex. usually when we do it, we routinely do it in the missionary position and i usually finish and she’s able to have a good time too, but yesterday something unusual happened. As I was thrusting, I was having difficulty finishing – which is not common, since I usually am able to finish with no problem; but yesterday it just wasn’t clicking for some reason and I was thrusting for like 10-15 minutes. Then as I was continuing thrusting, all of a sudden I feel an enormous heavy pressure on my penis – the feeling was so heavy that, it was as if my Penis was being squeezed from all sides. With this enormous pressure on me I was finally at last able to finish & it was one of the best feelings ever. I looked over at my gf and I asked her what the hell just happened? & she just laughed and said “magic”

I’m still confused on what happened even after a day just passed since. Because we've been doing missionary for so long and nothing like this has ever happened. What do you guys think?

[u/Secretlysidhe]

Two possibilities:

Kegel muscles. She tightened them. It’s something us women can do, and we can work on them too. It’s actually good for us to do that as we age and after having babies to help with other things.

Or she orgasmed, it can tighten things when orgasming too. More of a reflex.

I took her reaction to mean that she did it intentionally so my guess is… kegel.

[u/Unl3a5h3r → u/Secretlysidhe]

Kegel training is good for everyone. Better orgasms, better pee holding, better regeneration after birth, better sex.

And it can be done discreetly all the time. Bored at a meeting: Kegel training. Bored in public transport: Kegel training. Bored in front of the TV: Kegel training. Bored on a long drive: Kegel training. (I think everyone gets it now.)

[u/implication-sofa → u/Unl3a5h3r]

It can be harmful for those with already overtoned pelvic floors! Sometimes reverse kegels are actually a better option

[u/Fickle_Stick_3153 → u/implication-sofa]

I understand what Kegels are and I’ve practiced them, but when it comes to reverse Kegels, I have no idea. Is it like when you try to pee without actually peeing? I don’t understand 😭

[u/implication-sofa → u/Fickle_Stick_3153]

Sort of! When you do a normal kegel you squeeze upwards essentially and the “release” of that is the reverse kegel. It’s mostly by taking deep diaphragmatic breaths where you inhale using your ribs/abdomen which naturally relaxes your pelvic floor. You can also gently push out as you are describing