Hi all! Firstly, thank you for your service. I’m hoping for advice around supporting my husband, please. He left the police recently as he became so burned out (the usual) and no matter where he transferred to within the police to try and get some let up, the pressure kept mounting greater and greater each time. It was so severe he could work 3 weeks straight with no days off and 18 hr days consistently.

He initially felt so happy in his new private sector role. However, over the last week he has become extremely down and says how he regrets it and should have put up with the stress etc.

For me, selfishly, the changes have been incredible. Our marriage is better, he sleeps so much better (without dreaming of stressful situations), he looks healthier and he’s not stressed all of the time. I’ve also noticed that he has started picking up his long-lost hobbies and actually enjoying them again. Positively, he also doesn’t get inundated with phone calls and texts on his days off (or have his days off cancelled).

I feel like I’m getting the person I fell in love with 9 years ago back. But at the same time, he’s feeling down and grieving what he once had. It breaks my heart to think he feels this way and there’s nothing I can do about it.

While he’s feeling down and struggling to adapt, I’m sitting here noticing so many positive changes and having a vastly different experience to him.

I completely understand how policing, especially in his situation, becomes your personality and identity. He was genuinely so broken when he decided to leave, as he never thought he would decide to. To be honest, it was a shock to everyone around him, including colleagues, because he’s amazing in the police and his personality is everything you’d want in an officer coming to you at a time of need.

Sorry for rambling on… the point of my post is, how can I support him? Is the regret normal? What helped you or your loved one during your transition?

Thank you!

Hi all, hope everyone’s doing well! Bit of a weird one:

Last day on response tomorrow and not entirely sure what cakes to get… I’m not a great at making my own anyway and have probably already left it too late.

I was thinking of getting some Krispy Kreme doughnuts but wondering if anyone might have some suggestions? Thanks

As many will be aware, several protesters interrupted speeches at the Reform UK conference recently, and there is video clearly showing some of them being assaulted by other conference attendees. (Allegedly?)

When asked if they'll get in contact with the police as a witness, one of the attacked protesters said they're considering it, but "the police have all they need" - presumably meaning the video (and maybe they've sent in the pictures of her bruises and torn shirt).

Presumably interviewing and getting a statement would be desirable for building up a fuller picture - but if she refused to make contact could it prevent further investigation or prosecution?

I reported someone very recently and there is currently an active police investigation. The person is on police bail.

I remain concerned about my safety for a number of reasons, including the fact that they work somewhere I will need to attend for unrelated reasons over the next few days, as well as some other concerns I don’t want to go into publicly.

I feel it would be important to know whether this person has any previous history that could be relevant to assessing my current safety.

I have a couple of questions:

Is it appropriate to submit a Clare’s Law application while there is already an active investigation involving the same person? Would the ongoing investigation affect or duplicate the Clare’s Law process?

If there is relevant information about their previous history that could potentially be disclosed under Clare’s Law, would the investigative team already have access to that information and would I necessarily have been told about it already? Or can the Clare’s Law process identify/disclose information separately from what the investigating officers have discussed with me?

Thank you

I think this could be a sign of a move in the right direction. I think the public feel particularly with recent events that there needs to be a firmer stand taken with motoring offences.

As far as I am aware, the Strategic Roads Network Wide Order has been in place since 2022, a culmination of an interim order from the Insulate Britain protests of 2021.

We've seen action taken against JSO blocking the M25 later in that year, some receiving 3 year prison sentence.

I wonder why no action was taken yesterday, zero arrests reported by Kent Police, given breaching a High Court injunction can construe contempt?

Is being called a clown worth being put through a potential internal disciplinary

Hi, I’m looking for clarification regarding my annual leave and rostered rest days over the Christmas period.
When I originally booked my annual leave, the system stated that my existing rostered rest days could not be protected due to resilience issues. What does this mean in practice, and does it mean those rest days remain liable to be cancelled/changed?

I subsequently found an additional day of annual leave available between/adjacent to my existing booked leave. When I booked it, the system stated that my leave had been “joined” to my already booked days. Does this mean that the period is now treated as one continuous period of annual leave, including the rest days between the leave days?

If my rest days fall immediately before, between or after a period of approved annual leave, are those rest days protected from being cancelled or changed? If so, under what circumstances can they be changed?
If I make personal travel arrangements, such as booking flights abroad, based on my approved annual leave and rostered rest days, can I subsequently be required to return to work during that period?

If I can be recalled from annual leave, who has the authority to authorise this and what circumstances would justify recalling an officer from approved annual leave?
If a rostered rest day is cancelled or changed after I have booked flights or other non-refundable travel arrangements, what compensation or reimbursement would apply?
Could you please confirm specifically whether I can rely on the Christmas dates currently showing on my duty roster when making non-refundable travel arrangements?

Help! It has recently come to my attention that my ex has tracked my location. I know this as he sent me a link to somewhere I was in google maps last weekend and then when I moved he turned up where I was alone parked in the dark with no houses around knocking on my car window. Now he’s told me it’s not a tracker on the car and I don’t share anything location wise via my phone with him. Im not sure where a tracker could be on a car but I’ve looked around the wheels underneath the bonnett and can’t see anything obvious and checked everywhere in it I can think of. I had on occasion when we were together I shared my location for limited time periods via WhatsApp but I’ve checked that all definitely off.

He advised he had an old ‘contact’ (I don’t know where from but he did royal marine training 20yrs re ago which was unable to complete so wonder if from someone related to that) he got a favour from using my phone to locate me, but the thing is he was still able to find me after I moved locations suggesting he was able to access live tracking of me so I don’t know if to believe this contact explanation of his and if he’s just saying it so I don’t catch him out for somehow hacking my account since we split or from when we were together worried. I have has a look through my phone and not seen anything obvious and changed passwords and now turned my location off entirely for absolutely everything. For clarification at the end of our relationship he panicked I was pulling away when in reality I was overwhelmed by my now late mothers illness busy visiting her in hospital for nearly 3 months and his prior insecurities and trauma got to him not perceiving the situation correctly, and he ended up doing the thing he feared I would do and cheated on me shortly before my mother died. Her funeral was only earlier this week.

I’ve checked using Airguard no obvious tags and I have a very old iPhone he has an android phone. It is really bothering me and he said he won’t do it again and stated he didn’t have a tracker on my phone, me or car but he’s told other lies so I don’t know and if he still has a way to track me even though I’ve told not him not to. Is there anything I can do to make sure he cannot track me ongoing as it’s really caused me distress.

For a while I’ve been trying to sell my Rolex Daytona. I’ve posted marketplace ads, got valuations at pawnshops and other jewellery marketplaces. A few days ago someone replied to my facebook ad who was interested, we then transitioned the conversation to WhatsApp and agreed to meet in a cafe to discuss further. Big mistake on my part, should have asked to meet at an office or home. He seemed professional, wore a nice watch, and seemed to know what he was talking about, made himself trustworthy. He offered me the best price anyone has offered before. I accepted his price and he then supposedly transferred me the sum, I put my details into his bank, and I saw him send it. The transfer did not go through instantly, this was strange because all transfers normally go through straight away, I thought this might have occured due to the sum being very large. We both called our bank (we were both with hsbc). And asked why it’s not gone through yet, they explained that it can take a full working day.

He wanted to take the watch that day, I was very reluctant so he sent me a picture of his drivers license, and showed me his business account. This eased my nerves a little bit so I decided to trust him. Again, big mistake on my behalf, I know.

Anyways, now it’s Saturday and the money still hasn’t come through to my account, I’ve tried contacting him through his WhatsApp number, but to no avail. I’ve already reported it to the police and sent them all I know.

For the evidence I have, a picture of his (supposed) drivers license, his (supposed) company name and account, cctv footage of our interaction in the cafe, text messages confirming the transaction.

What should I do from this moment forward?

I’ve got an upcoming interview for dogs Sergeant and just wondered if anybody could offer any advice or tips?

Currently on response so not sure how much it would differ?

Thank you

What do you guys think? My force announced a trial to hopefully in the near future change our fleet to EVs only.

Does anyone have any recommendations for independent financial advisors specialising in police pensions?

Got my 30 in next month and still don’t know what to do.

Not desperate to leave but have noted if I stay in longer than a month that my lump sum starts to decrease.

I realise I should’ve sorted this out some time ago but my eyes glaze over when it comes to pensions.

Still enjoy the job and am 53.

Would like someone to explain my options in plain English.

Happy to stay in the police family post retirement, if I go. I want to work.

As the title suggests I am in need of help with niche. I've transferred from an Athena force to a niche force. Is anyone in possession of an idiots guide to niche that I could keep and refer back to when doing jobs or cases. I have had people help in the office and a very brief whistle stop tour of niche that hasn't really helped. If I had a document that said click here and do this for the general day to day things I would be in a much better position. If anyone has something like this please DM me. Heeeelp.

Hello everyone!

LEO from Canada here. I’ll be in London (with a day trip to Dover) from Sept 9-13 and was hoping to meet with some LE/Military that would be interested in a patch trade.

Anyone interested please shoot me a message and we can organize something!

I would LOVE for a police force to be brave enough to do this.

Maybe with body worn video footage accompanying it:

"You used excessive force to detain me" whilst the officers fight with someone wielding a weapon.

"The pursuing officer forced me to drive dangerously", whilst a driver repeatedly rams out of a TPAC.

Etc.

Hi everyone,

For context, I’ve just started duties in Metland. I started this role after working a relatively dull yet stable job within the private sector, and I wanted to give it a go to see if I could do it and for the potential career paths you can take.

In short, while I thoroughly enjoyed the 17 weeks of classroom training, including the assessments and role plays, I’m now not so sure about my future as a PC. It’s like everything has become a bit real if that makes sense? Like all of a sudden it’s sunk in that I’m gunna be sacrificing a lot of my life to this role, I’m gunna be under fire a lot of the time through complaints and all sorts, and I’m gunna be run ragged.

Outside of work I have a fiancé and we’ll be marrying late next year. I’ve always had a concern that my job would impact my relationship, and while we have talked extensively about it and we are resolute people, I can’t shake the feeling that it’s going to be a problem.

I guess my question is: have other people here had similar wobbles right at the start? Is it worth sticking it out or going with my gut?

Good Morning All :)

Bit of a strange one this one but thought I’d throw it out there and see if anyone else has ever experienced something similar and if people have what advice they can share,

I’ve been a frontline cop for near 6 years now. I’m in a home office force and have exclusively only ever been on a response team. Genuinely love what I do, and could not see myself in any other career.

That being said I sometimes randomly get hit with waves of negativity, feeling really unenthusiastic and find myself reflecting on past incidents quite vividly, almost like a cheesy flashback in a movie and then before you know it. I’ve snapped right out of that moment almost like it never existed. Sometimes this happens at work, briefings. Behind the wheel or sometimes randomly when I’m out on the weekly shop or walking the dog on rest days?

If anyone has been through something similar and feels comfortable sharing I would love to see how different people manage and live with all the side effects that policing brings 😅

I’m sure in not alone out there

Hi folks, as I get older I find policing is more and more difficult for me, and like many others, I would like to move out of the police eventually. Perhaps within the next two years.

If you were me, what would you do to improve your chances of successfully transitioning into the private sector?

My job experience consists of the bog standard neighbourhoods, ERPT, with stints as a detective in CSU. Nothing fancy. Currently a skipper.

I am based in London. I have an undergrad degree and a master's in software development. Unfortunately the software / coding market is absolutely cooked so I don't think this is a viable route.

Security manager roles seem a good fit for my experience. Are there any qualifications I should look at? Likewise investigator roles.

I also looked at working on the railways but there seems to be a dearth of opportunities at the moment.

I cannot get over how wildly incompetent my local force Federation are and wonder if anyone else is feeling the same sense of utter frustration?

They don't help with the day-to-day issues that officers struggle to manage on their own, offer little to no real support and if I'm honest, even getting a reliable reply without multiple chasing emails from any of the 'reps' is like trying to get a blood from a stone. Surely this can't be how officer's wish to be represented.

Accepting that they're is no current alternative, there must be something we can do to lobby the Home Sec on this? Surely in light of all of the continued evidence of corruption, if officers join together we can demand a statutory reform?

If I coordinate this effort, would others be willing to assist (likely just sending an email to your local MP - template to be prepared - demanding independent regulatory oversight or an end to the single-association monopoly)? At least this would generate some momentum on the issue.

While I know it’s probably a stupid question, got my second refresher coming up next week, I’m naturally a very sweaty person, is there anyway to stay cool, original course and first refresher were the most uncomfortable days of my life and I just want to try and make this one slightly different.

Hi guys, just wondering if anyone could provide any advice I’m looking to join Traffic / road crime and have an upcoming scenario and interview in the near future.

I’m wondering if anyone could shed some light on what to expect with the scenario and interview (first ever internal interview process), and if anyone has any tips would be greatly appreciated!!