Conversely. I'm the friend who constantly shows up, is there when people ask, shows up with gifts and surprises and makes the plans just because it makes them happy and get bupkiss back.
I'm done putting firewood into a fire they have no intention of helping maintain and only come to bath in it's light.
This has been my problem for years. I will put a lot of effort in my friendship, drive long distances to see them or go to concerts they like, move stuff for their schedule, etc. But then I don’t get the same level of response back. I have to be the one to initiate everything or they are always too busy and I have to wait for the single pocket of time they are free every four months.
It gets exhausting having to be the one to constantly be the one to reach out, and then also worry if you’re annoying them because they don’t respond quickly or with enthusiasm.
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u/FloppieTheBanjoClown 13h ago
Being a good friend is foundational to having good friends. You will never build real friendships of you arent the kind of person who shows up.