My life in the past month has changed so drastically even I couldn’t have predicted this.

I broke up with my long term partner a few months ago. I thought it would have destroyed me. It did the opposite.

I had my first £10k+ month. Have 4 clients and have been happier than I’ve ever been in my life.

I’m planning on moving in the next few months into my long term property, from there I’ll setup my roots and continue to become the best version of me.

I’m not quite ready for the dating scene, but when I move I won’t be allowing any opportunities to pass me. I’m so proud of me.

My days off from work go by so quickly. I relax at home for a while, and then suddenly my day off is over. Some days off I do get out of the house, but other days I mostly stay home and relax.

Does anyone else feel like their days off go by really quickly?

Person I knew passed and it really made me wonder who would miss me when I would pass. Of course rest in peace to them. Said person was a really chill person and likable, their gofundme has thousands of dollars of donations and their tribute post online has hundreds of likes. For me though, I'm not popular nor likable because of some stupid stuff I did in my past without thinking them through. I wonder if I'm wasting my life just wasting away at home. I'm still pretty young though (me and them graduated from highschool a few years back). Sorry if it's weird I'm making someone else's death about me it just really made me wonder

My school only recently banned phones and honestly I'm for it. A lot of kids don't like it but I agree because if they have a phone they'll almost automatically be on it.

We have a big school yard and there's space to play basketball and football and table tennis. They even got swings and something to climb on. So I like how the school made sure the students have stuff to do.

My friends and I have also recently started bringing beyblades to school and having tournaments with them. The janitor once teased us saying we're too old for beyblades but my teacher told him off. Idk I don't think we're too old, we're only 14-15 and it's better than watching tiktok all day or sum.

We're in 9th grade but we even got the 7th graders to play with us since a bunch of them are my friends. You can be on your phone at home, I don't think you need it during school hours.

I was in a public situation where everyone was at breaking point seemingly but nothing bad happened because we didn't jump down each other's throats for minor matters

I would’ve loved to grow up in the same house. No excessive moving around! Staying in the same house with both parents, having a best friend next door or maybe a childhood love interest. Going to same high-school and actually knowing the people at my prom. I would’ve actually stayed dedicated to an interest or hobby like academics or sports.

Don’t need to be rich in this scenario. Poor is even fine too as long as there is stability.

EDIT: Also want to add healthy/non-abusive parents lol. This would’ve been very nice too haha

Could be anything — travelling solo, climbing a mountain, going to a concert alone, falling in love, camping somewhere remote, volunteering, moving to a new city, etc.

What’s something you’ve experienced that made you think, “Everyone should do this at least once in their life”?

Looking for some ideas to add to my bucket list

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.

Do people genuinely enjoy being alive, or are we basically just expected to keep going because we accidentally ended up in this world?

I’m 20, and honestly, I don’t really feel like I enjoy life that much. There are things I can enjoy scenery, games, music, hanging out, etc. but sometimes it feels like I have to convince myself that I’m happy or enjoying something just so I can call it “joy.”

Overall, life just doesn’t feel that enjoyable to me.

What also bothers me is how people treat young adults. Sometimes it feels like people don’t take you seriously because you’re “just a kid” who is still growing and figuring things out. And then there’s this expectation that we should always have a positive mindset.

I don’t really understand that.

There are genuinely a lot of good things in life, but there are also a lot of terrible people, painful experiences, disappointment, loss, and memories that can stay with you. So why are we expected to look at everything through a positive lens?

And this is something I genuinely don't understand: if life is supposed to be so enjoyable, why do some people eventually choose to end their lives? Is it really their fault for not being able to find happiness in life?

I’m not asking this because I think I have the answer. I genuinely want to understand how other people see life.

What do you think life is actually about?

And if you’ve gone through a period where life felt pointless or unenjoyable, what changed your perspective? How did you learn to see life differently?

I’d really appreciate hearing honest answers, even if they’re uncomfortable or negative.

I’m nearing the end of my 20’s and I have been flip flopping on the idea of having a child. My husband and I have both agreed to wait 4 or 5 years until we start trying but I’m not sure if I’ll even want to have a child at that point. The idea is just so scary. You are responsible for an entire human being and everything is put on hold for them. I also just started a job working with kids and my experience at the job has not helped my view on having a baby.

As you get older, do you get to a point where you just know that this is truly what you want? I am just so afraid that if we decide to have a baby, we’ll regret it. All I know is right now, I definitely do not want to be a parent.

I believe we are hardwired to have one , im obsessed with the idea of it. Its killing me. I feel like I have nothing. I just want love from who I love.

So here what the t thing is ,I went for Mumbai for the first time in 2024 , in my College time , And that i Dreamed of So i want to live in mumbai , and want to drive car all over the city , and was totally a fascinated by the Vibes of Mumbai , lights , fashion, people, girls , Beaches , filmy , food , etc etc , it was in my College days. , I went for trip

So Now story turns upside down that ,
That I dont know Car driving yet perfectly to ride in City , And now Iam not yet Employed,
Cut to short that Realising the Value of Money , and Bit a anxious person being me , and seeing news and All , all my mind captured by the things like , money , responsibilities, not yet strong enough to live in that way , balancing, and taking care of the parents. , earning money, handling big responsibilities, all of this sudden made me overwhelmed to me where i was a little shy person , while my expectations were higher , now , when my mind captured by these all things , now i don’t find Any sense or find excitement in living that , Getting a job itself a hard task now , and that it felt distant or unreachable, in reality !!! means kind of I lost the way I was before Chasing things ,
Money and health keeping the main goal ,
I am not really enjoying the things that happening to me , means i feel i don’t even enjoy if i go there now , just my mind changed me , the way things i once felt

I’m not sure if emotional is the right word here. For example, I’ve noticed the past year the I’m trying to see the good in people even if they don’t treat me right or if their behavior isn’t okay. Of course I set limits and I don’t justify bad behavior or actions but in my mind, the very first thing I do instead of getting mad, is to think why they act like that. What led them to say or do whatever that was that they did. What can they be going through, perhaps it might have been a shitty day for them. They might have gotten bad news just earlier. Who knows right?

Not just with people. Animals too. I always loved animals but lately I can’t even kill a giant spider in my room. I was very scared of them but know I find other ways to get them out. I’m helping strays too. Or when I watch the news I feel bad for whatever I’m seeing. I find myself easier to tear up even in movies. I was never like that. Ever. I have been described as a very cold and serious person throughout my entire life (I’m 25 now). I mean I am serious and I’m not crying in front of everyone but I was never this sympathetic? Not sure if that’s the right word either. Anyone can give me advice?

It seems like the older I get (24f) the less ambitious I become. I grew up very poor and all I ever wanted was to be rich. The more comfortable I am (not rich just have some savings) the less I want. I have traveled a lot over the years, and I truly feel like there’s nothin else I want. How can I maintain my ambition? Is it normal to not be this ambitious at this age? Or am I just burnt out haha

I see a lot of people constantly asking what the meaning of life is, why we’re here and what we’re supposed to do with our lives. I’ve had this thought in my head for a while and honestly, maybe it’s much simpler than we make it. Maybe the whole point of life is just to be happy. Time is limited and goes by ridiculously fast, so why not try to get as much happiness out of it as possible?

And I don’t mean that everyone has to find happiness in the same things. Someone might put money, status or success before happiness, which honestly seems crazy to me. You can be broke and still be the happiest person in the world if you’re doing things that genuinely fulfill you. For someone else it might be money, a career, family, video games, travelling, whatever. There’s no universal formula for happiness, and that’s exactly why I think you should stop caring so much about what other people think you should be doing.

I especially respect people who are unapologetically themselves and aren’t afraid to say what they actually think, even if other people don’t like it. At the end of the day, we all end up in the same place anyway. I’d rather spend my limited time doing what makes me happy and living authentically than spend it trying to impress people or live a life that someone else decided is “successful.”

I haven’t really given 100% into finding another job, and if I’m honest not even 50% but every day I am stressed out when thinking about the future. I quit partly because I was burnt out but mostly because i didn’t get any fulfillment from my job, and i fear that the career as a whole won’t ever satisfy me because I feel like it’s just not for me. If it isn’t this (accounting), I dont necessarily know what else I am good at. I have a wedding i am planning for in less than 6 months. Pushing 30. Have mortgage. Health insurance is a bitch to pay for. I want to travel and be on vacation forever. I feel like ive lost all my confidence and have all of a sudden no ambitions. I don’t know what to do. I am so lost.

Hi guys,

Is might be weird but after longs years of thinking what i wanted to do with my life, its finally came before bedtime.
I struggled a lot with stress, self doubt, comparaison, and all of the things that a young person is going trough because of social media.
I know there's a lot of people right there who are still in this situation so i wanted to help as i can..

So i did a lot of jobs and every time it didnt work as well for me. I felt really tired, didnt go to work and stuff. But you know what, thanks to that, i figured out what i might like.

I did some list of the person im and what i like to do. For exemple, i like to read, play at video games, speaking foreigns languages, fashion and photography. My hobbies inspired me.

But what if you do have any hobbies ?
I dont know if its possible and im not jugging anyone out there but you might like at least something in your life, it can be gaming, cooking, creation, maths, something like theses.

My advice will be to let you the time to know you. Spend time with yourself. Not on social media scrolling. Just doing activities, note about yourself, etc.

I think self confidence helps me a lot, and what i mean by that its not physically but mentally because i grew up in a city where there's almost no people around my age so i was by self most of the time. And this time helps me a lot even though i was bored af...

I started to learn korean, playing video games, sport, reading, etc.

Because of social media, real life feels like a race between each other but if you started to compare yourself to other, then stop using it and start to focus on yourself.

Be gentle with yourself because you'll be always with your own person.

Thats what i wanted to read when i was 19y old.

I hope i helped. Thank you for reading me.

Love

Hi everyone. I’m a 21-year-old guy trying to build my life from scratch, and I’d really appreciate some advice.

I’m a high school graduate and I don’t really have a profession or any significant qualifications. I only have about three months of experience working in a kitchen. Right now, my goal is to get a job at an accounting/tax consultancy office, but I haven’t been able to find any openings. When I look at similar positions in other cities, most of them require a university degree in a related field.

Do places ever hire high school graduates and train them from scratch? If not, are there any courses or training programs that are actually recognized and useful in the accounting field?

I’m not necessarily limited to accounting either. I’d also really like to learn a practical trade or skilled profession, but I assume becoming truly skilled at something like that would take 5–10 years.

If none of these options work out, I’ll probably get a job as a waiter or something similar, get my driver’s license, and then try to get into real estate by joining a real estate agency. If that doesn’t work out either, I guess I’ll become a courier.

I’m open to all kinds of advice, both positive and negative. I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts and suggestions.

Last night I wrote down some things ive been feeling/ struggling with for the last few years and I ended up gaining a new perspective on the way. I think I'm getting to hit the redo button in a certain area of my life and im pretty excited about it.

Ive been in this weird mindset of feeling really empty and alone the last few years, same way I felt as a child growing up. Once i left my parents home I looked for friends and family to fill the emptiness inside of me without ever filling it myself. Ive never loved myself and if I did it wasn't in the right way.

But last night I realized I need to love me first, I cant expect people to love me or "fill me up" when I don't feel the same way about myself. My childhood was full of abuse, neglect, isolation, etc and I got myself out of it on my own. Realized I've been feeling the same sense of neglect and isolation and now today im seeing it as a positive.

I (f26) am on my journey to self discovery today. Relearning myself just like I did when I moved out of my parents house at 16. Now that I have a little more perspective I know that I cant discover who I am without loving myself at the same time.

Life is so fucking crazy because im literally leaving for a solo road trip in like 3 hours. Ive never driven more than 2 hours by myself and today of all days im driving 30+ hours on my own. I mean the timing is just insane. Last night I find out what I have to do to better myself and the next day Im going on this road trip that Ive had planned since the beginning of the year??

Fuck, life is so cool. The universe really does move in mysterious way.

Currently studying Biology course at one of the most prestigious universities in my country. But instead of being happy, I feel my passion seeping away.

Biology used to be my favorite subject, but I have a terror professor and that prof made me too anxious as she did not let me in on the laboratory activity after being late for only minutes. It is my fault yes, but road construction that caused traffic delayed me so much even if I left 2 hours early.

And now I am just always anxious, scared, worried that I am gonna fail.

Can I ask how can I break this cycle and just study happily and for the sake of enjoying it? Thank you

I’ve been struggling in a relationship with an incredibly inconsiderate man for almost three years now. At this point, I feel stupid, unheard, unseen, and honestly embarrassed by how much of myself I’ve invested in this relationship.

He’s currently unemployed, so he doesn’t contribute financially. I was genuinely okay with that because I understood that people go through difficult phases. What I haven’t been okay with is realizing that he doesn’t seem to contribute emotionally either.

I constantly feel like I’m asking for the bare minimum—affection, attention, concern for how I’m feeling, some sense that my emotional well-being actually matters to him.

Recently, he crashed at my place for several days. I repeatedly asked him to leave because being around him had become unbearable for me, but he simply wouldn’t go. It reached a point where I was crying, begging him to leave and having what felt like an anxiety attack right in front of him. I was completely breaking down, and somehow even that didn’t seem to make him understand the seriousness of what I was feeling. There were moments when he would even laugh or make light of me being upset, which made me feel even more insane and humiliated.

After days of this, he finally left.
The last night was particularly ugly. I had been drinking with my flatmate and came back tipsy. I initiated an argument and said some genuinely horrible things to him, including things about him and his family that I regret. I’m not trying to excuse my own behavior or pretend I handled everything perfectly. I feel guilty about it.

And now that he’s actually gone, instead of feeling peaceful, my head is a complete mess.
This has been our pattern for years. We have horrible fights, I decide I’m done, and then eventually I answer one of his calls or let him back into my life. Somewhere along the way I think both of us started assuming that no matter how bad things got, I would eventually come back.
This time I desperately do not want to.
But I feel weak. I feel lonely. Part of me is still wondering whether he misses me, whether those three years meant anything to him, whether he was ever actually attached to me. And I hate that I’m even thinking about those things after everything that has happened.

There’s also another part of the relationship that has destroyed my self-esteem. I would feel sexually rejected by him constantly. There were times when he would rather watch porn alone in the bathroom than have sex with me, and I would be left feeling sexually frustrated, undesirable and confused. It wasn’t just about sex—it became another way in which I felt unwanted while simultaneously having this person constantly occupying my space and my life.

I don’t even know what I’m supposed to feel anymore. Angry? Guilty? Heartbroken? Relieved? I somehow feel all of them at once.
And please, I’m not really looking for “find a hobby,” “go to the gym,” “focus on yourself,” or a generic “just move on.” I know intellectually that I need to move on. That isn’t the part I’m struggling to understand.

I need something more real from people who have actually been through this kind of attachment.
How do you get through the first few days or weeks? And how do you deal with the horrible question of whether you ever actually mattered to them?

I think more than anything right now, I just need somewhere to talk and get all of this out.

Soooo, I am female 20yr, also bi😅. So in this 2 weeks: i start a little situationship, one guy come back after some months without talking and start flirting with me, also i had a date with other guy and we maybe have second date on the weekend. And last one it is that my girl friend with who I a some time flirt with, she flirt with me too, come back from Poland and yesterday I in talk with her friends (she been in this talk too) found out that she in global want to reletionship with me, and while we talk about us in this conversation she blush a lot, by the way she say yes to this topic when we asked if we can start talk about it.

Aahhh, I am so overwhelmed and don't know what to think and do. By the way, guys, she said to me before go to the Poland (some months ago) that she doesn't wanna reletionship 100 procent👀

It's all a lot to me, and if you can say some your thoughts what to do in all this situation what i have, i will be interesting to read it, cause it's all weird, in more global what i heard about her feelings, because i didn't thought that she thinks about reletionships with me, and also i like that date with guy what i had

I am a recent college grad, and I am feeling a ton of regret for not applying to more internships earlier in school. From now on, I want to start planning early and seek more clarity in life. Is there any advice for recent grads, or just for people in general in their 20s? It could be career-related, relationship-related, or life-related. Greatly appreciate any advice.

I feel like with the passage of time I am becoming dumber. I feel barely under control with the choices of my words to anyone and everyone.
Also, comprehending anything has become a task.
My mind remains engrossed with different thoughts (mostly negative) and that’s because
A. I feel utterly dissatisfied with my work life. As I am progressing with my no of yrs of experience, it’s pressurising me to lead which in turn impacts my performance. I don’t see leading as the issue but rather multiplicity in the nature of work I am dealing with. I has caused something wrong inside, it feels.
B. My relationship with the me within is quite toxic. I’m mostly afraid, negative and unable to work myself out in tough situation. I’m not able to gain enough confidence within me despite the fact that earlier I was doing really far better in terms of both personal and career life.
C. I remain disrupted with the worries about my boyfriend’s future. For context he is preparing for entrance exams for Master’s and the other hand I’m working like my ass off where I’m barely feeling good. Our chapters and pages in life are poles apart and it’s tough understanding one another. There is many more but I would confine myself to this itself.

Can someone suggest, what steps shall I take to be better self.
I want to move out of this job that’s suckling me up too. I work in one of the B4s for reference.
I was so full of different colors and likings. Slowly and gradually I feel being stupidly possessed with all that I feel drowned with. My creativity is at par given I have very less strength to give it a shelter.

Would really appreciate your views to get this through this.

Thanks!