TW: Discussions of disordered eating

I, 20F, decided about a year and a half ago that I wanted to lose some weight in order to feel better about myself. I was just on the bottom edge of overweight, and figured hey! I'll lose 15-20 lbs, be at a solid, healthy weight, and feel really good about myself. Easy, right?

Wrong. This led straight into the worst period of my life. For reference, I'm rather short, have hashimotos, and started with a pretty high body-fat%, so my maintenance calories are pretty low. Like most shorter women, I began at 1200 c/day. There was a lot of trial and error - a month goes by, and I've lost nothing. Okay, so I've been tracking incorrectly. All good, I'll get a food scale. Another month goes by, and although I'm meticulously tracking every gram of food that enters my body, I'm only down a single pound. Another month, two pounds.

Truth is, after tracking for so long, the numbers seem to show that eating at around 1200 c/day, I'm losing about a pound a week. There's nothing wrong with this, but at the time, this felt unbearably slow. Water weight covered most of my progress day-to-day. (Week-to-week too, really). One singular night of celebration seemed like it reversed an entire week's progress. I asked for help online, but all I was met with was that I *must* be tracking incorrectly (I've since done a body scan which showed my BMR at 1100 a day. Not sure how accurate those are, but feels in-line with my estimate of a 1500 maintenance.)

All this to say, my daily calories began gradually decreasing. And decreasing. And decreasing. Until eventually, I was in full-blown anorexic eating territory. Like it does for many people, a few months of severe undereating eventually led me into horrific binge eating. I somehow seemed to stagnate even further, maybe because the binges were counteracting the undereating. Food consumed my life. The food-noise was constant, unending, and vicious. In the initial period before the binging began I lost around 10 pounds, but this stopped, and I didn't see any real forward growth for months towards my stupid, stupid 'goal weight'. I saw a therapist, I got medication, I tried every different method and diet and routine the internet could provide me, but nothing fixed the underlying problem: calorie counting and excessive exposure to the bodies of strangers on the internet made me fucking hate myself and my body.

Finally, four months ago, after a particularly bad binge, I decided enough was enough. I was giving up on reaching my goal weight. The calorie-counting had destroyed my self-confidence and image completely. It had long been affecting my relationships, my school, my life. Enough is enough. It doesn't matter if I regain everything I've lost, because no number on the scale could possibly be worth how much this had fucking destroyed me.

And so, I stopped. The first month was particularly difficult. But slowly, and surely, the food noise reduced. I started eating the things I enjoy again. I forced myself not to care, or overthink, or any of that shit, and most importantly, I locked my scale up somewhere out of reach.

Well - this morning, just for fun, and out of simple curiousity, I decided to take it down. This comes after a night out with friends that included a massive Chili's triple dipper and lava cake, but I didn't really feel stressed or anything. I was weirdly kinda ambivalent, like, at this point, who cares, y'know?

Anyway. This whole past year, the goal weight I was killing myself over was 120 lbs.

Today, I weighed in at 119.

I don't really know how to feel. I don't have anyone I'm comfortable to talk about this with, or celebrate. It feels a bit weird to celebrate, considering the year of hell this bullshit 'goal weight' put me through. And I guess it's a bit ironic that after everything, it's when I decided to stop caring and stop counting that I made it.

I don't know. Maybe it's stupid to be coming to reddit with this. Or maybe this is the wrong sub. But this sub helped me out quite a lot throughout this past year and a half. There was one person in particular who called out concerning language in one of my previous posts, back when I was just starting, and warned me against a too-aggressive calorie deficit path. I so, so fucking badly wish I had listened. It sucks that even after this, there's still a little voice in my head that hates herself, and most days I'm not sure it'll ever go away. But every day, I'm getting better.

So I guess that's it. Word of advice for my fellow short women who are just starting out: don't go down the same path I did. Weight loss will be painfully, painfully slow, but if you stick to it, you *will* reach your goal. The time will pass anyway. Don't delude yourself into reducing your deficit by 100, 200, 300 calories, 400, 500, until you're obsessively scrolling TikTok for low-calorie recipes or doing tiny OMAD diets or whatever else the fuck. Trust the process. You can't hate yourself into loving yourself.

But yeah. I feel happy, I guess. Kind of bittersweet, too. Although I've deleted the posts, I wanna thank everyone on the r/loseit sub who gave me advice along the way. It feels like finally, I've come full-circle, and now I'm closing the lid on this box.

Thank you guys. And good luck to everyone still on their journey. :)

Thought I would share my milestone with this group as I have been lurking for the last few days looking for motivation. I am 38 M.

I was so out of shape when I first started in November, around 300 pounds (probably more, I had stopped weighing myself). I started to walk each day, always making sure to hit 10k steps. The park nearby has a giant hill each day I climb too. Several years ago I tried climbing that hill and was so out of breath after doing it. Climbing it each day now lets me know my cardio has vastly improved in the last year.

Biggest thing for me was to be consistent, even if I didn't feel good or didn't want to, I did it. When it became too hot or when time constratints didn't allow me to walk for 40-45 minutes I instead swam laps. I made myself do something each day.

As for food, originally I didn't change anything as I thought my biggest problem was not exercising, not so much food portions or what I eat (though I do eat a lot of fast food). But after spending most of the last two months hovering around 250 I finally started to count calories last week. That helped me shed 2.7 pounds, the most I've lost in a week in some time. I'm now at 248, a weight I haven't achieved in years!

The results are fantastic. I feel good and for the first time in a while, I like how I look in the mirror. After years of being 3XL or even 4XL I am now wearing 2XL regularly and it looks good on me. I'm starting to consider XL soon!

I'm going to continue working on this and I want to aim for 200. Any advice to get there would help. I bought some 50 pound barbells but I don't know the best way to use them or how many times I week I should be using them along with what I'm doing now.

So I began my diet back in may 16th and I was 98kg. Now down to 78.9kg today (yay). Whole time I ate

clean and made sure to drink 2 litters of water and walked 10k steps most days, 7k if time window was small

The thing that benefited me the most was quitting sodas. Ever since I was young I used to drink up to 4 cans (yikes) of pepsi a day and that pretty much led to my weight gain. But every since I started my diet the last 4 months I’ve only been drinking water and black coffee/green tea. That until yesterday unfortunately I was thirsty after long day of work and my water bottle was warm and the only thing that I could drink that was cold was my brother’s pepsi 😅 he still doesn’t know.

The moment I finished the can I immediately felt like my body reverted back to when I was obese (Im 171cm) and craving junk food like crazy so much that even the healthy meals that I eat everyday became not appealing

Thankfully I didn’t cave in and managed to end the day in a deficit but it’s crazy how calorie/sugary drinks can have such a negative impact on out weight loss journeys. I’m definitely not going back to drinking it even when I reach my GW lol. Most likely will settle with one diet pepsi a week.

Hello yall just wanted to share somewhere. As of today I lost 25 pounds. I feel like I was in a dark hole for so long and now I'm finally starting to see the light again. On July 1st I made a goal to walk 1200 miles by next July 1st 2027.

So far I have stuck with it and after 320 miles I lost 25 pounds! I know this is not possible for everyone but man I'm happy my routine is paying off.

My minimum everyday is 5 miles but I max out usually at 8 or 9 miles. And I also lift weights 4 times a week. So yeah here's to everyone on a weight loss journey may we all reach our eventual goal.

Well here I am 1 year and 6 months later and 6 pounds away from my goal weight. I started at 250 and am now 146 as of this morning and all I did was count calories and sit on my ass and wait. I did zero exercise because trying to eat right and keep up with exercise would have been a recipe for disaster for me so I just did what I could and it was enough. Before this weight loss journey I had no knowledge of cico or what carbs were, I knew NOTHING. I’ve learnt a lot because of this journey and feel more comfortable in my body now. I got my belly button pierced as a reward and all my clothes are baggy now. I’m so close to eating at maintenance and boy am I excited for it but more importantly I’m one pound away from not being overweight and having a normal bmi. I only wish I had done this earlier in my twenties.

Looking for success stories, please. Getting discouraged.

There are numerous posts complaining about the struggle, but nothing really about success and what worked for them.

I have a doctor appt. tomorrow and I am considering asking for a glp-1 prescription since I have about 50 pounds to lose. I am nervous about that given the side effects. I am typically very sensitive to meds.

Please share if you successfully lost weight in the menopause years or mid 50’s.

I have been on a SNRI and feel maybe that has something to do with the weight gain, however the benefits of being on it have been significant.

I don't know if this is the right sub for this question but I thought that I could maybe find someone else that had the same struggles as me.

I lost around 65 lbs/30 kg and broke up with my ex boyfriend a couple of months ago. I'm definitely over my last relationship and I'd like to start dating again, but at the same time I'm terrified of the idea of meeting someone new. I have deleted every single old photo of me from my social media accounts and I'm a size 2 now and I don't have noticeable loose skin when I'm wearing clothes. I don't want to have to tell people that I used to be obese as I'm really ashamed of it and I feel disgusted about how I used to look, the idea of someone that I like finding out how I used to look makes me feel nauseous but at the same time I feel like not disclosing my weightloss it's basically catfishing. I'm also not used to the idea of being attractive and whenever someone shows interest in me I find it hard to believe, and I think it's some kind of joke. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Should I just give myself more time?

EDIT: congrats to everyone who lost weight and noticed the attitute shift, but i want to highlight that this post is NOT about receiving the "privilege", but rather the opposite of it and pain of noticing superficial behaviours.

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Hey all,

On this sub there is a lot of talk on how differently people treat you, how nicer they are when you lose weight. I'm not in the group of people who experienced that as I've been overweight and obese my whole life. But seeing those posts made me notice so much more how different people get treated. At the same time, it feels like i am projecting "everything to be about weight/appearance" and honestly if i would speak to someone about this they'd probably think I'm overreacting or am crazy for thinking it.

Specific situation was during a workshop me and my work colleagues did with a public person, who is conventionally attractive and spends a lot of time on screens, so clearly for her appearance matters a lot. During the workshop, there was a lot of discussions where she would ask some question and we would share some kind of story. I noticed she was giving more attention and feedback to some people than others, and would smile more when interacting with them. Initially I thought thats because their "stories" were more interesting, stronger, or whatever. So i started paying more attention to the stories, and there was not really anything that stood out - in fact in one case it was even problematic for the context.

But then i accidentally noticed that all the people whose stories didnt seem interesting, were women who were bit bigger. And that the ones who got the most attention were the conventionally attractive and skinny. Its funny how the magnitute of attention and smiling and interaction followed exactly the idiotic "out of 10" bs from social media.

I desperately want to unsee this. I dont know if this was the reason. Even if it was, i know there is superficial folks out there, but I feel like i am projecting, and i dont wanna be this type of person. I realise this can come across as childish, but its not about "wanting attention instead", just about learning how to not have this as a default way of thinking.

Any tips/stories are appreciated.

Hey all,

Floated around this place for a year now (272*->183) and have been thriving with the new lifestyle routine but need to vent about something. People who pulled it off, you constantly deal with negative comments from friends and family over your diet/body/whatever?

Like Im doing great. I feel like a million bucks and after being obese my entire adult life I'm finally back on track and enjoying myself again. I'm running up mountains, tons of attention from strangers and stronger than I've ever been, so Im proud of my progress but it feels like I'm the only one, everyone I know just has endless nasty comments to make.

Visiting my dad and was discussing how I'm considering a tummy tuck due to loose skin; "Maybe they can take some fat from your ass and build you abs lol"

Turned down some nasty totinos pizza toll salad at a party; "You're no fun now"

Hugged a friend I haven't seen in a year; "You're too skinny"

Mention calorie counting and macros in a convo; "This is an unhealthy way to approach food."

"You were healthier 70lbs ago"

"No man should be below 200lbs"

"You were tough before you lost the weight"

"Victim weight"

"WOW bud you ate a lot this weekend" (bachelor party plate watching????)

Told my family I'm wearing a size 30 belt, with there reaction you would think I told them I killed someone.

All the above is whatever but the concern trolling is the thing that's killing me. I don't have an eating disorder. Im eating at maintenance, making enough time to lift 2 hours a day and making sure I get my steps in but I'm in a recomp phase, so I've stalled out at ~180lbs and Im working on reworking the remaining fat into muscle without moving the scale around too much. I know what I'm doing and Im doing it healthy but the constant negative pressure from everyone is slowly driving me nuts.

Can anyone else relate to this bs?

I know body weight fluctuates with water and the like, but weighing in each morning can be confusing. I stayed beneath 1800kcal this week every day except Saturday when I went up to 2900kcal. (2230kcal daily allowance to lose 2lbs a week) and all of the lost weight throughout the week was erased once I weighed myself this morning.

Is this just the body correcting itself over time or does one day going over really erase such a deficit throughout the week? I know it’s just a numbers game but I’m curious to know if anyone else has any explanations for the disproportionate loss/gain.

I’ve struggled with weight gain the past few years, but recently gained over 20 pounds pretty rapidly this summer after starting lexapro. I’ve come off of it now, and I can feel myself slowly losing the constant need to eat eat eat.

My problem is, I’m now in the habit of eating eating eating. I went to a nice dinner with friends and had a 3 course meal that left me very satisfied. I recognized that I felt full and was not hungry. But I still got a gas station snack to eat on the drive and I got takeout to eat at home. I felt sick afterwards from being so full. It was unnecessary to waste the time & money (& calories) on this extra food after I had a nice fulfilling dinner. How do I kick this habit??

I'm 5'9", 31M, approximately 180lb or more with some muscle who has been unfortunately gaining weight over the years due to a sedentary job and too many cheat days and late night snacks despite a modest weight lifting habit.

At my worst I'd mindlessly eat piles of almonds or pretzels at night without thinking about it, or get large portions of pasta or hibachi at lunch or dinner, brushing it off saying I eat healthy most of the time. A few big portions or late night snacks didn't even dawn on me as a bad idea.

After a few years of complacency, my clothes were starting not to fit and I looked bad in photos more often than I looked good. I realized I had to start making changes, but I was scared that I wouldn't be about to adjust to a regimented diet after years of eating anything whenever I wanted.

I started tracking calories about 7 days ago, and have had an extremely methodical approach since then. 1500 to 1600 calories on weekdays, starting with oatmeal and coffee in the morning, salad for lunch, a protein bar for an afternoon snack, and chicken with a small side of rice or pasta for dinner. At night I've had carrots with tajin seasoning for another snack. Over the weekend I went up to 1900 to 2000 calories and I felt pretty stuffed.

It's only been 1 week, but I'm actually surprised how good I feel. I'm thinking it might be because I space my meals throughout the day and have lots of fiber and protein. I also feel like even though at each meal I stop before I'm completely stuffed, after about 30 minutes I feel pretty full, at least enough to make it to the next meal.

In your experience has dieting at a deficit been a bit easier than expected during the first week, especially if you have lots of fiber and protein? Or is it too early to assume it will always be this easy? At my current height 5'9" and weight 180+ is 1500 to 1600 calories a reasonable deficit?

I've (29, Woman) lost 90 pounds (woo) and I'm firmly in a healthy BMI for the first time in my life. I have a lot of muscle mass and have found a sustainable leaness for my lifestyle.

Problem is, I AM COLD. I have never faced this issue before. I live in Northern Canada and autumn has set in (again, woo) but I have been breaking out the wool, layers, and hot water bottle. It is barely September. I am nervous for prolonged bouts of -40 degrees this year. I spend a lot of time in the winter alpine and am considering investing in a very expensive mid-layering system just to give me a chance. I USED TO THINK MY LEAN FRIENDS WERE DEEPLY EXAGGERATING. Oh man, I am rétroactivement sorry for ever doubting them.

EDIT: You guys are too sweet. This post has picked up a lot more traction than anticipated.

I have endometriosis and closely monitor my labs. I have good iron/B12/ferritin levels.

Also, I am giggling at all the kind souls trying to teach a Northern Canadian how to layer and what wool base layers are. I am not trying to be mean, but this is very cute and quite funny to me.

I did a body recomp two years ago and have maintained above average muscle mass (according to my GP/Kinesiologist). I think the issue is that I am quite lean and also a smaller woman. Lean enough for hamstring striation and visible abdominal ridges. A girl is chilly, IYKYK. Big S/O to the others who have chimed in about this unique kind of cold.

Anywho, this post was just a vent to express my shock. Nothing serious. Take care everyone!!!

Hi team Euro accountability, I hope you’re all well! For anyone new who wants to join today, this is a daily post where you can track your goals, keep yourself accountable, get support and have a chat with friendly people at times that are convenient for European time zones.

Check-in daily, weekly, or whatever works best for you. It’s never the wrong time to join! Anyone and everyone are welcome! Tell us about yourself and let's continue supporting each other. Let us know how your day is going, or, if you're checking in early, how your yesterday went! Share your victories, rants, problems, NSVs, SVs, we are here!

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For reference to my experience, I’m 19F. I know I’m still young, but I feel like my weight gain ruined my body in many ways. I was always healthy growing up, a very skinny kid and when I went through puberty my body maintained 140 for most of my adolescent years. I decided to go on birth control because I was tired of my painful and really heavy periods, and it feels like I put on weight so suddenly. I have a hard time even remembering this time period because of so much trauma that happened then. I don’t know what changed, but whenever my depression developed is only when I started to see how much I gained. It was only 20 lbs and everyone told me I wore it well, but it changed my body so much. I hated how I looked so much. I don’t feel like I’m attractive, but I thought losing weight would help. After losing 50 lbs, I’m more insecure than ever. My thighs and hips are covered in stretch marks, I went from a 36D cup to 34B and I hate how my boobs look, I feel like I need a breast lift to like myself. I don’t think I could ever show my body to someone and feel comfortable, I haven’t worn tight clothing in years because I still feel like how I was when I was bigger. I still feel like the girl who got made fun of for her stretch marks and never got looked at by guys. I feel like it’s done so much damage to my self esteem and how I feel both physically and mentally about myself. I still never got out of the depression too. I’m sorry I just felt like I needed to rant to someone, or see if someone has a similar experience to me. Does anyone else struggle with trying to get out of this mindset?

I'm 17f I weigh 216 pounds at 5'8.

I've been trying to lose weight my entire life I can remember being 6 and wishing on my birthday candles to be thin next year. I've given up and tried Again more times than I can count. My mother has been really rude about it my whole life .

My main problem is I have a biggg binge eating issue and I'm very inconsistent/indisciplined. Also a major self sabotager will lose 5 kgs and then immediately start binge eating again and gain it back.

I need help please.

I leave for college in 9 months and want to go looking like a new person. Is it too late?

I’m currently on a weight loss journey. I am f 5’4 and currently 195. I don’t even know where I’d like to end up bc of this:
I feel like from when I weighed 135 to now I genuinely don’t look any different. I feel like I carry my weight in such a way that I don’t look how much I actually weigh. I Was looking at pictures today and I swear I look the exact same with a 60lb + weight difference aside from my aging face. (I was only 15) what could be the reason for this, and How can I remedy it? I feel like part of why I got this big is because of how my body doesn’t change much with huge weight differentiation. As well as my clothes still fitting as well. Do I need to have a full body recomp somehow? I’ve always been athletic and active and am genuinely confused how this can be the case. Thanks!

I’ve struggled with binge eating/compulsive overeating for a very long time, and I’m at a point where I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore.
I’ve gained quite a bit of weight and I feel really uncomfortable in my body. I want to lose the weight, and I don’t think I’m at a point where I can just tell myself that I need to accept my body and forget about weight loss. I genuinely want to become healthier and more comfortable in my body.
The problem is that whenever I try to start a calorie deficit, even a moderate and objectively reasonable one, the first few days feel absolutely unbearable.

It’s not necessarily physical hunger. It’s more like my brain suddenly becomes completely preoccupied with food. I start thinking about food constantly, cravings become extremely intense, and I get this overwhelming feeling that I need to eat. I also feel like I cannot tolerate the moment of just being. It can feel almost like I’m fighting myself all day. Eventually I usually give in and binge, and then I feel horrible about myself and feel like I’ve failed again.
What makes this especially confusing is that I don’t necessarily think the problem is that I’m starving myself beforehand. I can eat a normal amount of food during the day and still experience this reaction when I intentionally try to eat less than my maintenance.

I also use food very heavily as a coping mechanism. When I’m sad, stressed, bored, lonely, overwhelmed, etc., food is one of the main things that gives me temporary relief. So I think there’s also a psychological component to why reducing food feels so incredibly difficult. It feels like I’m taking away one of my main ways of coping while also asking myself to tolerate the discomfort of being in a deficit.

And honestly, this has gotten to the point where I feel pretty hopeless. I can push through difficult things in other areas of my life, but when it comes to food I feel completely powerless. I can tell myself “just don’t binge” or “just get through the first few days,” but in the moment the urges can feel overwhelming.

I’m wondering if anyone here has experienced this specific conflict: wanting/need­ing to lose weight because you’re genuinely uncomfortable with your body, but finding that even starting a moderate calorie deficit causes such intense food thoughts, cravings and emotional distress that you end up bingeing.

If you’ve been through something similar:
Did you eventually become able to tolerate a calorie deficit without it triggering binges?
Did you have to work on the binge eating/emotional eating first before weight loss became possible?
What actually helped make the initial period of eating less feel less unbearable?
Were you eventually able to lose weight without falling into the binge/restrict cycle?
And if you have successfully gotten to a point where food feels less compulsive, what changed for you?

Would love to hear from other people struggling or have struggled with the same as I feel completely hopeless now. Thank you for reading

Last November I decided I was going to start yet another diet. My heart wasn't really in it and, to be honest, I genuinely believed I was going to give up within a week. I can't even explain why I actually chose to go through the motions in the first place, but I gave it a half-assed start with basically zero motivation. Somehow I blundered my way through it, and this morning I weighed in and realized I've lost just over 100 lbs.

I'm kind of shocked. I feel more shocked than happy, weirdly enough. I didn't think I'd ever actually get to this point. Every time I've tried in the past, I'd just give up the first time I saw a slice of pizza. I haven't really been exercising or even counting calories beyond keeping an estimate in my head, but I've managed to lose an average of around 2.5 pounds a week for the past 10 months. I still have a lot to go (my starting weight was almost 400 lbs as a 6 ft tall male), but I think I might actually be able to reach my final goal weight. I think I can do this.

I hadn't told anybody I know IRL about my diet, but yesterday my extended family all got together for dinner and an aunt I hadn't seen in awhile mentioned how much thinner I looked. It opened the flood gates for the rest of my family to complement my progress and let me know how noticeable my weight loss is. It was the first time anybody had ever actually brought it up. I was both incredibly proud and deeply embarrassed at the same time.

If you're reading this, I appreciate you giving the time to an internet stranger's rambling. I just stepped off the scale and felt like I just had to make a post about this, to acknowledge it somehow. If you're somebody who is struggling with your diet, keep at it, it is possible to find your success. Somehow I did. Not that it's been incredibly easy for me, there were a couple months in the middle where I fell off the wagon and regained 10 pounds, but I kept at it and managed to reach the first major goal I set for myself as of this morning.

Wow.

Hey,
I have been losing weight for almost 5 months now, starting at around 103 kilograms. Now I weight around 89, which is a little bit above the upper border for normal weight. The thing is, I just feel... the same? I mean, the clothes fit better, my facial features have become more defined, but I still feel like a sad lump of fat that I used to be.
I started weight loss in mid-april, mainly to become a better version of myself for my now-ex girlfriend. Been having some ups and downs during this adventure, due to personal stuff, but now I manage to roughly stay in a calorie deficit. I put myself in a roughly 500-600 deficit, as I calculated my maintenance to be 2700, I eat 'round 2100. Of course, I give myself sometimes lee-way to eat more, just so I don't go insane.
My weight loss was mainly eating less. Also, started to walk more. Used to walk often back then as well, but now I have a rough goal in mind, and that being 10k steps a day. Despite not doing strength exercises, actually at all, my muscles are roughly well defined, thus avoiding the "skinny fat" phenotype. The only thing I need to work on are abdominal muscles.
I have had problems with self-esteem for as long as I remember - the thing is, I don't think anyone has caused them, they just sort of spawned naturally in my head. I thought that losing weight will solve them, and initially they did, but then they returned. And that's the problem - I still don't really see any change with my look after losing weight.
Is it a normal thing, or should I seek help? My goal is 85 kg for 190 cm btw.

so since january ive been eating at around 1500 calories a day with the goal of trying to get skinnier. Ive lost 5 kg since then and my waist has gotten smaller (60kg to 55kg) im trying to track my calories using a tdee and its saying my maintenance is 2000. Should i be eating at a maintenance or should i be eating less (eg. 1800 or 1500 calories) bc i feel like 2000 calories a day is so much . rn my goal is to lose my belly fat and just get a little more toned. im 18M, 169cm, 55kg and i workout about 2-3 times a week. im not too worried about the number on the scale its more about how i look i think i would be classified as skinny fat.

I’ve lost 150 pounds and it’s literally like pulling teeth to get my boyfriend of 12 years to even notice. I’ll mention wow look I’m wearing a size 12 now (i was a 30) i will get compliments from others when we are in the same circle and he doesn’t say anything. He doesn’t say she looks great, I’m proud of her nothing. Now I don’t need praise but you would think after loosing a whole person I wouldn’t be practically begging for a compliment. We are very sexually active, nothing has changed, I’m 10 years older than him and he’s very tall 6’2, I’m 5’2 so you can imagine a short round woman with a tall lanky fella, he’s gotten a belly but not huge, he’s around 220, which has gone up like 20 pounds in the last 12 years, but he doesn’t seemed bother by it and neither am I. Maybe it’s different for men than women, I don’t know.

But as a woman loosing 150 plus seriously that is THE BEST THING EVER!! No medicines, no surgeries just watching my intake and eating what I want just not too much. I exercise from time to time, but that’s mainly walking. I don’t have loose skin cause I’ve lost it slow.

I notice when we are having sex my legs are much smaller, my behind is, my stomach is, but he grabs onto them like he has before. What am I missing? Everyone that sees me literally will talk about my weight loss and say how amazing I’ve done it, my face, my body, everything has changed! And he just doesn’t interject with anything.

Maybe I’m just lucky that he loves me skinny or heavier. But my heart hurts when he doesn’t even say anything unless I ask him if I look nice. Any suggestions? Maybe I just need to be selfish and focus on myself and know what I’ve done has worked and it doesn’t matter if he compliments me.

As a woman, I can tell you, I’m told just about every day by coworkers that I’m very pretty even at my heavier stage. I’ve got an amazing personality and it shows through all my layers, I’m thankful for that. Just wish he would look at me and be proud of what I’ve done.

A few years ago a friend loaned me a walking treadmill. It was a great idea i set it up infront of my TV and switched it on. It seemed fine, but when i stood on it it went straight from Tigger to Eeyore. The thing sounded a volt away from a complete nervous breakdown. I had to give it back as i was terrified of breaking it. Also, it felt quite narrow, so made me walk with a destictly femanine gate. 🤣

I'm 190cm tall (6'4") and weighed 150kg (330lbs) at the time (down to 125kg (275lbs) now through diet.) But i have stopped losing and need to add in some more exercise.

I would REALLY like to do walking but am really struggling to find a compact machine that isnt expencive as all hell.

Im in the UK, has anyone come across a walking machine that can handle my kind of weight/height?