r/Habits 3h ago

The difference between discipline and anxiety with a schedule

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A lot of "discipline" online isn't discipline . It's anxiety wearing a routine as a costume.

Real discipline holds up when life gets messy: you miss a day, you adjust, you come back. The anxious version collapses completely the moment the schedule breaks, because the schedule was never really about the goal. It was about not having to sit with a feeling underneath it.

One way to tell the difference: ask what happens on the day it falls apart. If missing one morning routine makes someone feel like a failure as a person, not just behind on a habit, that s not discipline talking. That's something else wearing its clothes.

Anyone else notice this in themselves or in people who talk a lot about their routines?


r/Habits 10h ago

30 days of waking up at the same minute as a group of strangers. (Built my own wake-up group)

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r/Habits 16h ago

Day 7/10 Screen Time Reduction Check-in

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Day 7

Screen time today: 6h 42m ❌

Goal: <4 hrs/day (Previously: 15 hrs/day 🆘)

Challenge duration: 10 days

Purpose: To get my attention span back and spend less time mindlessly scrolling.

Progress:

Day 1 - 3h 30m ✅
Day 2 - 4h 48m ❌
Day 3 - 5h 15m ❌
Day 4 - 9h ❌
Day 5 - 6h 38m ❌
Day 6 - 7h 36m ❌
Day 7 - 6h 42m ❌


r/Habits 21h ago

I’ve been consistently drinking water this month and I feel so great

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r/Habits 21h ago

A habit of scratching one's ankle with the toes of the other foot?

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Standing on one leg and scratching the ankle with the toes of the other foot is a habit I've seen in some people, but one I never saw discussed (unlike, say, nail biting or foot tapping). I was curious what is the significance behind it?


r/Habits 1d ago

My older brother told me to track my doomscrolling like an addiction I thought he was being dramatic lol

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Last summer was rough. Not dramatically rough, just that kind of grey, low-energy rough where nothing is really wrong but nothing feels right either.

I was spending most of my evenings on my phone. Scrolling through Instagram, Reddit, YouTube shorts, back to Instagram. I wasn't really enjoying any of it. I'd look up and two hours had gone by and I couldn't tell you a single thing I'd seen.

At some point I mentioned to my older brother that I felt foggy all the time and couldn't focus on anything anymore. He's the kind of guy who reads a lot and tends to notice patterns in things.

He listened for a while and then said something I thought was ridiculous.

He said I should track my doomscrolling like a streak, like a habit I was trying to quit. Give it a number & make it visible.

My first reaction was basically "it's just my phone, relax." 😂

But he'd already thought about it. He said he wasn't expecting it to fix anything magically, he just wanted me to try one thing: track every day I went without mindless scrolling. Not delete everything. Just notice the days and give them a number.

So I said fine for you I'll try it.

The first few days were weird. Not hard exactly, just uncomfortable, my hands kept reaching for my phone without me deciding to. I'd open it and then remember and put it down. Over and over.

Around day ten I started noticing that my mornings felt different. I wasn't starting every day already behind on everyone else's opinions. I was just... there present in whatever I was doing.

By day thirty I was thinking thoughts that felt like mine again. Not reactions to content. Actual ideas that came from being bored and sitting with it instead of immediately filling the silence.

192 days later and my brain rewiring at 100% !

My brother was right. It didn't magically fix anything but that grey fog I was living in? It lifted. Slowly and then all at once.

So if you've been feeling foggy lately and can't figure out why try this for 7 days. Track the days you don't mindlessly scroll.

I can't promise it'll fix everything but you'll probably feel at least a little clearer.

And maybe that's enough to get you started.


r/Habits 2d ago

72 days in and it still isn't fun. I just stopped arguing with myself about it.

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Day 72 of working out at a park near my apartment.

I started in late June, so it's been about two and a half months now.

Still 11 PM. Still the outdoor workout equipment five minutes from my door. Still about 20 minutes.

At the beginning, even 20 minutes felt like a lot.

But now, the workout itself isn't really what I think about. What I notice is simply whether I went outside or not.

I used to care a lot about volume—how many sets I did, how much I worked out that day.

These days, I just walk to the park, move around for 20 minutes, and walk back home. That's it.

The strange thing is that something this small has changed my evenings.

When it gets late, it just feels like it's time to go out.

And if I end the day without doing it, something feels missing. Not exactly guilt. More like I forgot to do a small thing.

To be clear, it hasn't become fun.

There are still plenty of nights when I don't want to go.

What changed is the amount of time I spend arguing with myself.

I used to think, "I should work out. I really should work out," for a while before actually doing anything.

That part has mostly disappeared now.

I just go.

When I started, I told myself I'd do it for one month.

Somehow, it's been 72 days.

I'm thinking about 100 days as the next milestone, but more than anything, I want to keep it small enough that I can keep doing it.

(The screenshot says 0/3 for today because it's still afternoon here. All three of my habits are evening habits.)

Has anyone else reached that point where a habit stops feeling like a decision?


r/Habits 2d ago

250 days sober! 🔥

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r/Habits 1d ago

Habits without visual effort

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Hey guys!!! I'm searching some habits, hobbies or activities that doesn't use that much effort for my eyes. Like, I love reading, I love drawing, scripting, and some other stuff, but those things have the specific component of keeping my eyes so focussed... and my eyes hurt so much right now that I can't do those things.

What are those habits, hobbies and activities that keep your eyes relaxed, OR, what are those habits, hobbies, or activities that serve as an eye detox for you, restoring their freshness and "health"??


r/Habits 1d ago

I default to "start over" almost every time something gets messy, and it's usually the wrong call

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Noticed a pattern in myself. Project feels off, workout routine stops working, a long working session gets tangled, first instinct is always wipe it and restart clean. Feels decisive in the moment. Half the time it's actually the lazy option, because it skips the harder question of whether the thing underneath is still fine and just needs the clutter cleared away.

Started forcing myself to answer one question before restarting anything: can I state, in one sentence, what I'm actually trying to accomplish right now and what's still true from before. If yes, that's not a reset situation, that's a cleanup, keep what's working and cut the rest. If I can't get that sentence out because I'm not sure what's still valid anymore, that's the real signal something's actually broken at the root, not just cluttered.

Wrote up a longer version of this test focused on a specific case (long AI conversations) but the underlying question applies a lot more broadly than that: https://medium.com/@nagatomopedro05/reset-or-clean-most-people-guess-heres-a-better-question-e67e764030c7


r/Habits 1d ago

I built myself an alarm that goes off at bedtime, and films you if you ignore it

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Alright so I kept downloading all these wake-up apps. The push-up one, the math one and imma be honest, none of them worked because the problem was never getting up at 6:30am. It was that I was wide awake at 1am and then "trying" to wake up on 5 hours sleep.

So I built the other half. You set a bedtime. It goes off and won't stop until your phone is face-down and still for a few minutes. If you'd rather stay up, you record 15 seconds explaining why, and it keeps the video.

The archive is the part that actually works. Before you record a new excuse, it plays you last night's. Hearing my own excuse from last night makes it a lot harder to make the same one again.

Everything's on-device so there is no account, no server, and works offline. The videos never leave your phone unless you share them yourself and the more it builds up the more I'm like damn I really need to be better about sleeping on time haha.

I built this whole thing solo on AlarmKit, which shipped in iOS 26 and made this possible at all. Happy to answer anything about that if it's useful or any suggestions/feedback are welcome!

Currently under review to app store so lmk and i can share the waitlist to join if interested! Hoping it’s released soon!! 😁


r/Habits 1d ago

Day 6/10 Screen Time Reduction Check-in

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Day 6

Screen time today: 7h 36m ❌

Goal: <4 hrs/day (Previously: 15 hrs/day 🆘)

Challenge duration: 10 days

Purpose: To get my attention span back and spend less time mindlessly scrolling.

Progress:

Day 1 - 3h 30m ✅
Day 2 - 4h 48m ❌
Day 3 - 5h 15m ❌
Day 4 - 9h ❌
Day 5 - 6h 38m ❌
Day 6 - 7h 36m ❌


r/Habits 1d ago

I created app to avoid doomscrolling - spirkz.

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I realized that one of my worst habits was not necessarily “using my phone too much” — it was what I was consuming while using it.

I would open TikTok, Instagram, or Shorts for a few minutes and suddenly 30–60 minutes were gone. The scary part was that most of the time I couldn’t even remember what I had watched.

So I started thinking: what if the scrolling habit itself could be redirected instead of completely eliminated?

That idea eventually became Spirkz.

spirkz.com - check it out here.

It works like a short-video feed, but the content is focused strictly on learning — science, history, technology, psychology, useful facts, etc. The content is also controlled and moderated, so the goal is to avoid slowly turning into another entertainment/doomscrolling platform.

The habit I’m trying to build is simple:

When I feel the urge to scroll → open something educational instead.

I don’t think every habit has to be removed completely. Sometimes it might be easier to replace the reward with something slightly better.

I launched the app at the beginning of August and we recently passed 150 users organically, which has been really motivating.

I’m still trying to understand whether this actually helps people change their scrolling habits long-term, so I’d genuinely love feedback from people here.


r/Habits 1d ago

What's a money habit you kept for years that turned out to change nothing?

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r/Habits 2d ago

What habit reveals the most about someone’s personality without them realising it?

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r/Habits 1d ago

Week 4 Completed: Hit my 10km PR, brain fog is gone, and 30-day stats are glowing

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Week 4 of this clean-lifestyle challenge is officially in the books, and the physical payoff is incredible. Removing caffeine, snacks, and sugar has completely transformed my baseline. My energy is completely stable throughout the day, my focus is significantly sharper, and the brain fog is entirely gone.

Beyond losing weight, my overall strength and stamina have noticeably increased. I wanted to validate these lifestyle improvements out on the track, and I ended up running 10km in 1h 4m with an average pace of 6:25. That is a brand new personal record!

I am super motivated to keep improving every single day. The next higher goal is to hold these habits until the end of the year, but I am taking it one successful week at a time. Looking at the contrast between last month's stats (dark image) and today's dashboard (light image), the consistency is paying off:

  • No Caffeine: 39-day current streak. Flawless 100% completion rate for the last 30 days.
  • No Snacks: 35-day current streak. Just officially hit the 100% 30-day progress mark.
  • No Sugary Drinks: 31-day current streak, locking in another perfect 100% 30-day success rate.
  • No Sugar: 5-day current streak. The birthday cake break is in the past, and I am actively building this streak back up exactly as planned.

Feeling happier, healthier, and ready for Week 5!

Everyone is welcome to join the journey and build some discipline together:

iOS:https://apps.apple.com/us/app/evolve-next-level-you/id6596775233
Android:https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co.humanrevolution.evolve
Discord Community:https://discord.gg/YnAs4wHZ7Q


r/Habits 2d ago

Relax before bed

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I'm trying to make my night routine something I actually look forward to, rather than just a list of things I "should" do to sleep better.

Skincare is a good example for me: I genuinely enjoy doing it at night, so it makes going to bed feel a little more special.

The problem is that I also get bored if I do exactly the same thing every single night. So I'd love to have a few different relaxing things I can rotate depending on my mood.

I'm looking for things that are enjoyable and relaxing but not so stimulating that they make you want to stay awake longer. So ideally not things like starting a great TV show or reading a book you can't put down 😅

What little rituals or activities make you actually look forward to your evening/night routine?

I'd especially love ideas that feel like a treat or a small pleasure, rather than another healthy habit or chore


r/Habits 2d ago

Anyone else notice how certain songs trigger old habits instantly

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So I quit smoking about two years ago and thought I was completely over it. But last week I was driving and this random song from 2019 came on shuffle, and within like 30 seconds I had this insane craving to light up. It wasnt even a song I associated with smoking consciously, but apparently my brain had other ideas.

It got me thinking about how weirdly specific triggers can be. Like its not just the obvious stuff like seeing someone else smoke or being at a bar. Sometimes its a smell, a time of day, or in this case a song I probably heard a hundred times while driving to work back when I smoked in the car.

The craving passed after a few minutes but it was wild how strong it felt in that moment. Made me wonder what other random things are still lurking in my brain waiting to pop up. Has anyone else experienced something similar with a habit they thought they'd fully moved past? Doesnt have to be smoking, could be anything really. Just curious if this kind of delayed trigger reaction is common or if my brain is just being dramatic.


r/Habits 2d ago

Quit nicotine pouches and alcohol - anyone on a similar health journey wants to track habits together?

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Hello! I'm 9 days off nicotine pouches and 6 days off alcohol. This is my 4th-ish time trying to quit nicotine pouches (Zyn) in a more systematic way and this time around I am trying to remove trigger points. Stress is one of them and alcohol the other. The last 2 times I have started using nicotine pouches because I was really drunk and couldn't resist walking into a convenience store.  I stacked a few other things on top of it too, drinking 10 glasses of water, walking 10k steps every day, actually going to bed instead of scrolling tiktok until 2 AM.

So the headaches, cravings and lack of focus I can deal with since this is not my first time trying to quit nicotine. The big problem for me is that I am currently working remotely since I relocated and besides my cat and parents I don’t really have a big social circle at the moment. Nobody in my life is doing this with me. Nobody notices when I don't have a pouch in and sometimes I wonder why this even matters. But I want to prioritize my health and I am sick of having to rely on nicotine pouches to feel “normal”.
 
So I'm asking here. Does anyone want to actually track habits together? I am using Improve habit tracker on iphone and this is my friend code: eb34f498-f739-4502-ada5-eead292aee57


r/Habits 3d ago

Habits that makes you grow

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r/Habits 2d ago

Day 5/10 Screen Time Reduction Check-in

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Day 5

Screen time today: 6h 38m ❌

Goal: <4 hrs/day (Previously: 15 hrs/day 🆘)

Challenge duration: 10 days

Purpose: To get my attention span back and spend less time mindlessly scrolling.

Progress:

Day 1 - 3h 30m ✅
Day 2 - 4h 48m ❌
Day 3 - 5h 15m ❌
Day 4 - 9h ❌
Day 5 - 6h 38m ❌


r/Habits 2d ago

i tried every doomscrolling blocker i could find over the past year. here's what actually stuck and what didn't.

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my problem was always the same: phone goes off at 11pm, i tell myself just five minutes of instagram before bed, wake up at 1am having watched two hours of nothing. tried fixing it with apps for a while, wanted to write down what actually happened with each one in case it saves someone else the same year i spent.

opal and forest were the first ones i tried. both fine as long as i actually wanted to stop. the second i didn't, which is most nights, i just deleted the app or hit "skip session" and kept scrolling. turns out a blocker only works on the version of you that doesn't need it.

one sec added a breathing exercise before you could open the app, which helped some nights, but it's still a "continue anyway" button away from doing nothing. screenzen was similar, customizable limits, but i could always just loosen them in settings when i was tired enough not to care.

the pattern i noticed after a few months: anything i could turn off in the moment didn't survive the moment, because the whole reason i needed it was that i have zero willpower at 11pm specifically. ended up building my own app, twilock, that just doesn't let you disable it once the window starts, no skip button, no settings escape.

curious if anyone found something similar that held up on the nights you didn't want it to.


r/Habits 3d ago

After 6 years of building a reading habit, I no longer read to become smarter

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For many years, I wanted to read books but never actually took action. Maybe because I found it time consuming, or because other hobbies of mine (like playing League of Legends) were too addictive to let go of.

Anyhow, I have become an avid reader over the last 6 years. For the past 2 years, I have read at least 2 books every single month.

Some might think this isn’t much, but I would say reading 2 books a month alongside work, family and various other commitments is pretty good.

My opinion on why I read has changed, and I want to document that here. Who knows, my thoughts and feelings might change even further over the next 6 years. It’s nice to document and share these thoughts.

Here we go.

Year: 2020 | Total books read: 4

I wanted to read more books because there were so many good stories out there.

I also thought reading books would make me smarter and help me articulate myself better. I felt like I should read because it was a “productive” activity. It was better than playing games or wasting time through other means.

Reading was something I felt like I should do.

Year: 2024 | Total books read: 47

Reading books had become like any other hobby. I read simply because I enjoyed it.

Everyone says you should read because it’s better than other hobbies like playing games or listening to music. People say you should read if you want to become “smart.”

I used to believe this too, but I stopped caring about it. That was no longer my aim. I no longer felt that reading was a hobby that was superior to other hobbies.

There was no hierarchy. Reading was simply something I enjoyed doing.

Year: 2026 | Total books read: 70

My reasons for reading have not changed much since 2024. I still do not read books in the hope of becoming smarter. The main reason is still enjoyment.

But I have noticed a difference in how I see things and how I think about things. Is that because of reading, or is it just a natural part of growing up? I’m not sure.

I enjoy nonfiction just as much as fiction.

When I say nonfiction, I almost entirely mean books in the self-help, improvement, business and productivity space. There’s sometimes a negative connotation around these genres among people who mostly read fiction. I think some people assume that if you read these books, you’re not doing it for enjoyment. You’re only doing it for utility.

I disagree with that sentiment.

A self-help book may never give me the same feeling as a really good fantasy story like The Way of Kings by Brandon Sanderson. But that does not mean those books are not enjoyable in a different way.

The practical system behind my reading is now very simple. I always have an audiobook and a physical book on the go. Whenever I finish a book, I already have the next one ready.

There is never a point where I have to restart the habit or find the motivation to begin reading again. There is always something waiting for me.

I’m confident that reading is not just a hobby anymore. It is a lifestyle habit now, and I can’t imagine ever letting it go.

In fact, I sometimes get this sad feeling when I realise that there are literally thousands of amazing pieces of literature out there, and I will never get to take in all of them.

It’s okay though.

I’m grateful to have built this habit.

I’m grateful that I find so much enjoyment in reading words on a page.

I’m grateful to be able to read the thoughts and stories of people who lived decades, or even centuries, before me.

Tracking how much I read and which days I read has helped me stick with the habit for years.

I started with simple tick boxes in a notebook, then moved to an app. I use Three Cells because it has journaling and habits combined. But you can use whichever app that fits you best.

Has anyone else found that a habit became easier to maintain once you stopped treating it as self-improvement?


r/Habits 2d ago

If a habit only survives with a tracker, is it really a habit?

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I’ve been thinking about how you actually know when a habit is built.

At first I thought it was pretty simple:

You do something consistently for long enough, it starts feeling automatic, and eventually you stop tracking it.

But then I realized something.

What if the tracker itself has become part of the habit?

Reminder pops up → do the thing → check it off → repeat.

Maybe it feels automatic partly because the tracker is still there nudging you.

So I’m wondering if the real test is just:

turn the tracker off for a while.

No streak to protect.
No daily check-in.
No box waiting to be ticked.

Then see if the habit still happens.

If you still go for the walk, read, work out, etc. without really thinking about it, maybe that’s when it’s actually become part of your routine.

And if it falls apart, that doesn’t mean you failed. You just start tracking it again for a while.

Almost like a graduation trial instead of saying “you’ve done this for X days, so you’re done.”

Curious if anyone here has actually tried this:

Have you ever stopped tracking a habit on purpose just to see if it would survive without the tracker?


r/Habits 3d ago

HOW CAN I ACTUALLY BEAT DOOMSCROLLING?

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