I have a manager who, whenever I make a mistake on a task, or something happens like me arriving late, tells me that my “punishment” is to buy him coffee.

For context, I’ve been late 3 times in the past 2 weeks because of heavy traffic. I understand that being late is my responsibility and that there should be consequences or at least something in place to make sure I don’t fall into the same routine. I’m not trying to avoid accountability.

The first few times, I honestly saw the coffee thing as a bit of a joke and thought, “Okay, I messed up, fair enough.” But now it seems like every time I make a mistake or something goes wrong, I’m expected to buy him coffee.

At this point, I’m starting to feel like it’s getting too far. Mistakes are going to happen at work, and while I understand being held accountable, buying my manager coffee every single time feels pretty strange to me.

What do you guys think? Is this just harmless workplace banter/punishment, or is my manager crossing a line?

This happened a few years ago but I still reflect back on it.

So I used to work as a junior engineer for a large engineering firm. This firm had over 1000 employees across 100 or so offices. One day, the head of IT tells us to immediately turn off our computers.

Apparently, a scammer had hacked our entire data base and would not release it back to us until an undisclosed ransom was paid. For two weeks, we were paid to basically stay home and read up on company material offline. Finally we were told that the ransom had been paid and the IT team would be going over everything to ensure everything was in working order.

Not sure how much was paid but less than a year after that, people started to be let go. Most were receptionists or lower admin level employees but soon, CAD drafter and designers were being let go. Since I was a junior engineer in a specialized trade, I thought my job was safe.

Well one day I get a Teams invite from my office manager (who I never interacted with much) and he said that they were letting me go. I was upset but later found out more than 70% of my team was laid off and we suspected it had to do with the firm trying to salvage money after the hacking incident.

What made it worse was it was never disclosed who caused the security breach. I mean I guess that isn’t my knowledge to have but still, it’s never fun when you’re let go due to someone else’s actions.

Any thoughts or similar experiences?

I recently joined what is objectively a great company—one that I worked really hard to get into. But I am struggling to adjust in a way that feels extreme and honestly scary.

I wake up with intense dread almost every day. My heart sinks at the thought of opening my laptop, my chest feels heavy, and I sometimes start crying before work has even begun. I cry almost every day now. Even on WFH days, just knowing I have to log in makes me anxious.

The workplace itself is stressful and can be toxic in some ways. Other people feel the pressure too, but they seem able to cope and continue functioning. I feel completely consumed by it.

This isn't my first job. My previous job wasn't toxic—it had stressful and bad days, but I could manage and recover. This feels completely different.

I also moved far away for this job and don't have much of a support system here yet. I find myself constantly waiting for my parents to visit or for the next time I can go back home.

I'm already in therapy and seeking other support, but I feel like this job is sucking the life and zest out of me. The strange part is that once I actually start working, I can sometimes enjoy the work. It's the anticipation, emails, expectations, and constant pressure that seem unbearable.

I've decided I probably cannot continue. I was nervous about how a roughly six-month stint would look on my resume, but I don't have financial responsibilities that would trap me here, and I have enough family support to go back home if needed. At this point, staying feels like it's taking away too much from me.

But what is actually happening? Is this burnout? Anxiety? Have I become conditioned to fear work itself? And the question that scares me most: are all workplaces eventually like this, or is this particular situation just not sustainable for me?

Has anyone experienced something similar—where you feel intense dread and physical anxiety before anything at work has even happened?

TL;DR: I moved to Bangalore for a great job I worked hard to get, but within a few months I've developed extreme dread around work—I cry almost every day, feel anxious and physically unwell before even opening my laptop, and feel like the job is sucking the life out of me. I'm already in therapy, but I'm considering quitting despite worrying about how a six-month stint will look on my resume. Is this extreme burnout/anxiety, or do all jobs eventually feel this unbearable?

I’m sharing this reflection because I think it may resonate with some of the comments I’ve been reading here. If nothing else, those of you who are struggling with your careers right now are not alone. Some of us have been carrying this around for a while.

I’ve been thinking about why I’ve been so unhappy about my career lately, and I think I finally have a word for what is missing.

Compounding.

I’ve been in professional life for about 25 years. I never expected some perfect upward trajectory, and I certainly didn’t think anything was guaranteed. But I did expect the years to add up to something.

I expected experience to compound.

I started in accounting. I worked for one of the largest public accounting firms in New Jersey, with a good reputation and a large client base. It was the sort of place where people didn’t get laid off.

Then 2008 happened.

The auto industry collapsed, dealerships closed, and our firm had a huge automobile-dealership practice. Suddenly people were being laid off. It seemed like practically everyone under 30 was gone, including me.

And then something happened that I never forgot. I approached people I knew—including clients I had actually worked with—and some treated the layoff itself as evidence that I must have done something wrong.

“Good accountants don’t get laid off from that firm.”

I had followed the respectable path and discovered that not only could the path disappear, but people could blame you for being standing on it when it did.

What saved me was that I knew how to write code.

That became a second career.

And I don’t mean that I simply became a programmer. Over the years I learned software, systems, infrastructure, cloud, networking, security and architecture. I became deeply involved in what eventually got called DevSecOps.

DevSecOps had its moment as an industry fad, but the underlying work never stopped mattering. Software still has to be built, secured and deployed. Infrastructure has to work. Identity has to work. Networks have to work. Kubernetes has to work. Certificates have to work. Build and deployment systems have to work. And somebody has to understand how all those things interact when they inevitably don’t work.

I became very good at that.

But here’s the part I’ve been struggling to articulate: after 25 years, I expected being very good at something difficult to change my relationship with work.

I expected some compounding.

I expected that eventually I wouldn’t have to prove myself from scratch every time I walked into another organization. I expected my judgment to carry more weight. I expected more autonomy. I expected to be able to choose problems worth solving rather than constantly auditioning for the privilege of solving somebody else’s problems.

And yes, I expected some respect.

Not deference. Not a corner office. Not people telling me how brilliant I am.

Just the ordinary professional respect that I thought came from spending decades learning a field and becoming genuinely good at it.

Instead, my career has repeatedly reset.

Layoff. Acquisition. Reorganization. New client. New management. New technology. New hiring fashion. New set of people who have no idea what I’ve done before and aren’t particularly interested in finding out.

Start again.

Prove it again.

And now we have AI.

Once again I’m being told, implicitly and sometimes explicitly, that the sensible response is to reinvent myself.

Learn everything about AI. Learn the models. Learn agents. Learn the frameworks. Build things on my own time. Establish expertise before anyone will pay me for that expertise. Predict which technologies will matter five years from now.

Become the AI God.

And I don’t want to do it.

I’m perfectly willing to learn AI where it helps me solve real problems. That’s what I’ve done with technology my entire career.

What I’m no longer willing to do is assume all the risk of another professional reinvention in the hope that maybe, this time, the investment will compound.

That’s the part I’m unhappy about.

I thought that by this point in my life I would have accumulated some professional capital. I thought 25 years of experience would give me more freedom, more credibility and more control over what I did next.

Instead, I often feel as though I’m standing at the beginning of another career transition being told to start running.

And right now, I don’t know how to solve that.

But perhaps recognizing the actual problem is useful.

I don’t need to become the AI God. I don’t need another frantic reinvention. And I don’t need to pretend that I’m excited about starting over.

What I need is a way for what I’ve already learned and already done to matter in whatever comes next.

I don’t know what that looks like yet.

But that’s a much more hopeful question to me than asking what I need to become next in order to remain employable.

​I work in East Asia, in a country classified as a developed nation. This barbaric culture isn’t unique to one specific workplace—it is widespread. The following anecdotes are based on real, reported cases.

​First, in the public sector, even if someone submits an utterly ridiculous complaint, you must answer them politely and cannot refuse. A parent complained to a teacher asking why children were allowed to play sports in the sun, arguing that sunlight is a carcinogen. The teacher had to write a formal response explaining the situation and report it to superiors. Even completely useless information must be investigated and provided if requested through Freedom of Information laws. Information regarding the specific brands and manufacturers of pens used at city hall isn't digitized, but if a citizen asks about it, staff must manually investigate each item, digitize the data, and provide it. Inmates in prisons, simply to harass corrections officers, demand data on the country of origin, price, and animal welfare certification of all ingredients used in prison meals over the past year. It is a complete waste of time, yet there is no legal basis to deny these requests.

​Second, greeting your superiors in the morning is strictly mandatory. Failing to do so is considered disrespectful. Even if a boss intentionally ignores your greeting to humiliate you, you must still greet them. Otherwise, you are considered rude. One boss told a secretary, "Even if I don't respond to your greeting, you still have to do your job. That's your duty."

​Third, those with management authority privately infringe upon employees' personal lives. Late at night, while drinking with executives from partner companies, a manager makes a bet. He calls a subordinate and tells them to come to the venue. When the subordinate arrives, the manager chuckles and boasts, "See? My subordinate was the fastest. Your staff lacks loyalty."

​Fourth, abusive and insulting remarks are made all too casually. Recently, a woman made a joke to an intern, asking, "Did you grow up poor?" When the intern turned red and couldn't hide their distress, she blamed the intern, saying, "You lack the basic fundamentals for professional life." No matter how insulting a superior's words are, employees are expected not to get visibly upset and instead just laugh it off.

​Fifth, job training is superficial, yet accountability is immense. When employees ask superiors about work procedures, they are told, "You should figure that out yourself—don't you even have that level of competence?" But when a problem occurs, they are blamed with, "Why didn't you ask before acting?"

​Sixth, large corporations exploit small and medium enterprises (SMEs) and subcontractors. They schedule meetings under the guise of an "idea workshop" or potential deal, only to launch a product identical to that idea a few months later. The SME eventually goes bankrupt while fighting a legal battle. If an issue arises with deliveries from subcontractors, executives from large firms call in the bosses of those subcontracting companies and make them stand in the hallway. These owners in their 50s and 60s are forced to endure the humiliating stares of 20-something and 30-something employees walking past.

just got the email about their new pricing structure and my jaw dropped. we're paying almost 40% more for the same seats starting next billing cycle. i get inflation and all that but this is getting out of hand.

we're a 12 person sdr team doing mostly outbound to tech companies. need good mobile numbers since email reply rates are trash right now. been testing a few apollo.io alternatives this week - prospeo's mobile data has been solid so far, way better connect rates than what we were getting. also looked at seamless.ai but honestly the reviews scared me off. zoominfo is probably out of our budget which is annoying because my manager keeps asking about it lol.

the lead enrichment on prospeo looks promising too but haven't had time to really dig in yet.

anyone else making moves? what's better than apollo for your team right now? we need to decide by the end of the month before the price hike hits.

I work in a factory, night shift. During the fall production slows and they cut this shift.

Some people get transferred to different shifts others get the bucket.

I’m 7 months new, I have one of the more technical positions on the line but I’ve taken 3 weeks off (doc recommendation) due to an ear infection.

Idk if I’ll be transferred or laid off, my company is allowed to give 1 week notice before doing so.

Given my situation, do you believe I’ll be kept or not.

Is this a normal first-job experience, or am I being unreasonable for feeling frustrated?

I recently got my first ever job and at first it seemed really great. It's remote and part-time, which I was really excited about because I don't have much work experience yet. But honestly, I'm starting to feel like I'm being taken advantage of and I want to know if I'm actually being unreasonable.

The pay was originally only $7/hour. I told them I couldn't realistically pay any bills making $7/hour, and after that they increased it to $12/hour. So already, the pay is pretty low considering the amount of work I'm being given.

I try really hard to do everything correctly, but it feels like they constantly find tiny things to criticize and then tell me I'm doing a bad job. The biggest problem is that a lot of the expectations aren't communicated to me beforehand.

There have been multiple times where I'll work on something for hours, only to be told afterward that I wasn't supposed to do it that way or that there was some time limit/rule that I was never told about.

For example, I worked about 3 hours on EACH logo I made for them. I actually tried to be nice about it and only put down 2 hours for each logo instead of the full 3. They then got upset and told me they would only pay me for 1 hour per logo because that's apparently how long the logos were supposed to take.

The problem is that nobody told me beforehand that I only had 1 hour per logo. If I had known that, I obviously would have worked within that limit. Instead, I spent hours working on something and only found out afterward that most of that time wouldn't be paid.

They've also cut down the amount of time I'm allowed to put toward other tasks and will only pay me for 1 hour per task, even if the task actually takes longer.

Another thing that's been really frustrating is communication. A lot of our work communication is supposed to happen through email, but apparently emails aren't consistently reaching people. I had previously been wondering why some of my questions were being ignored, only to find out that my boss and another person I work with weren't even receiving many of my emails. We originally used WhatsApp, but I was told that work communication needed to stay on email, so I'm now stuck trying to communicate through a system that apparently isn't reliably working.

My responsibilities also haven't always been very clear. I've been expected to do things like graphic design, surveys, short-form videos, weekly reminders, and help coordinate a high school initiative, but I feel like I'm still figuring out what exactly they're expecting from me as I go.

And the biggest issue right now: I still haven't received my first paycheck. I've been working there since the beginning of August and it's now September.

I know I'm new to having a job, so I'm wondering if I'm just being overly sensitive or if this is actually an unreasonable way for an employer to treat a new employee.

Am I valid for being frustrated by this, or is this just what having a first job is like?

Im welder. I work 40h a week so not too much but god damn this work place made me suicidal after a month of working there. I was going in the bathroom of the job to find way to die. Now it's getting better (not suicidal) but I still wish to get injured at work to have a few days off. I like my job ( welding) but I hate the workplace.

God forbid I was observing how the boss was doing stuff I didn't know how to do instead of "anticipating what to do". God forbid I take 3 second more to do stuff my way ( same results and we were not in a rush) womp womp I cut the plank before making the holes in it.

And it's not like my coworkers are toxic or stuff like this. They are chill asf.

I just needed to vent a bit

Hi Everyone,

So I have been at my current job for nearly two years and it's time to move on. Leadership is beyond toxic and in this role I have felt gaslit, manipulated and had inflation of fault to a ridiculous degree. I even had to take an FMLA to deal with the mental health issues that this job has caused me. But I have been here two years. I have no reason to believe that either of my bosses would give me a good reference so...

In all realism, should I rage quit or two week them? Reasoned, non-visceral responses would be great!

I have like 1 sick day left and I need to help my mother move but I already gave in my 2-week notice a bit later into my shift (like literally an hour and half before my shift lol). I work from home so I pretty much just e-mailed HR and my bosses.

I completely forgot I had to help my mother move and will need that whole day so I'm planning to take a sick day.

Is this like.. frowned upon? I mean sure I already quit and was planning to talk with my bosses and HR tomorrow about how this will go down but I mean..

I'm in Canada if that makes a difference?

About a week ago I started studying again part time/remotely in addition to my fulltime job. I only have a high school diploma and I do intend to still get a degree.

I've been avoiding telling my boss about it. Kinda because I don't really know how to, but also because studying is typically seen as a bad thing when you're already working a "real" job, because you might leave soon and/or won't be as committed anymore.

It is true I'm casually looking at other jobs, but they don't need to know that. But I don't feel like I'm suddenly getting worse at this job because of that. Anyway, in relation to looking at other jobs, I've been thinking about for example putting it on my LinkedIn. But my boss can and almost 100% certainly will see that. So then how's that conversation go from there?

If it matters for context, it's a BSc in business, fully remote so you learn in your own time using the textbooks/digital tools. I've been at this corporate customer service job for ~8 months, just got my contract renewed until March. Since I only have a high school diploma it's really hard to get a non-physical job, and I can't really do physical labor due to chronic pain, so I really can't risk this job or risk not getting the contract extended. But also it would be a relief to not actively have to keep this a secret.

I hope i'm posting in the right sub.

I work a job in construction, so the way my day to day operation works is different. For starters, the jobsite varies almost daily, so my boss texts us employees the morning of to tell us where we ought to go. This has been the established pattern since the day I started (I am now 3 months in).

So now to the weird bit. Lately I haven't been getting the texts, and when I have​ (repeatedly) called and texted my boss, he tells me no work today, and that he plans on calling me about it. Spoiler, he hasn't called back. Its been about a week now, and I haven't been paid since the app (with built in tracker) that we use to clock in requires us to be in established work zones to successfully clock in. I've read that this may qualify as "constructive dismissal", but I've also read that those cases are very hard to win, and very stressful to endure. What are my options here?

I just started a new job in a sand mine, I’m 60 year old male, my crew lead is 20 years old.
What really annoys me is taking orders from a 20 year old kid.
I see the work that needs to be be done, he goes on the radio “ I want you to knock that pile down”, “I want you to take the loader and do this for me” .
How does anyone else feel by being lead by a 20 year old old, that only has 1 year of work life under his belt vs a 60 year old that has 40 plus years of work experience .

Hi there,

I am wondering how everyone is getting by with the recent changes to technology. I am trying to figure out what career might be sustainable in light of how bad tech has gotten.

I am routinely spending more than an hour a day now fighting to just be able to perform the same tasks I could perform in 5 minutes 2 years ago.

I just got off the line with Zoom support trying to figure out why Zoom had stopped providing transcripts of my meetings, which are a deliverable I need to do my job.

Earlier this week there were multiple tasks I was unable to complete because of multiple layers of multi-factor authentication that simply were not working.

My colleagues in other industries are reporting the same thing.

A graphic design colleague is so alarmed by how much more difficult to navigate and less functional Canva has become over the last few months that he is looking for an alternative.

A colleague who works in social media now needs to have three separate apps to be able to create TikTok ads, and has to be excruciatingly careful with how they manually arrange the settings each time because otherwise the settings will default to targeting options that don't produce results.

How are you folks hanging in there with the onward march of tech getting worse and worse every week?

My job is admittedly unusually tech heavy and has historically relied on me understanding how to use half a dozen different software suites, and that simply no longer feels possible. I don't know what to do.

What is your average commuting time? Mine is 45 minutes most days from Kentish Town to Streatham. I am getting tired of it and wondering what others find acceptable.

Looking for some advice on how to navigate a sudden boundary shift with leadership.

I work in a non-sales support role. In-person client meetings are strictly for sales or account management. We recently lost our AM, and while I've been helping cover internal operational tasks for the account, field meetings are completely outside my scope.

I’m uncomfortable taking this on with zero prep, and I definitely don't want to set a precedent where my support role absorbs field sales duties.

How do I professionally push back on an executive outside my chain of command here?

I’m early 20s M and recently finished an internship at a large law firm in TX. My direct manager was almost 30, and there was another male intern around my age.

My manager has a pretty intense personality. She’s very outgoing, competitive, unfiltered, loves gossip/relationship talk, openly says she likes attention.

Early in the internship she was unusually warm with me. She initiated chats, asked what my dating “type” was, asked whether I was a fuckboy, commented fairly often on my hair/clothes/smell/appearance, and asked questions about my dating life.

One of the weirdest examples: at an event, an attractive woman from another department happened to be sitting beside me. The next day my manager told me she had actually looked the woman up because she wanted to know who was sitting beside me, and then asked whether I found her attractive.

She also repeatedly (10-15 times) told me stories about guys hitting on her or asking for her number that were from the same-ish ethnic group. In group conversations she would occasionally describe the type of guy she was into in a way that basically matched my physical build, while I was sitting there.

She also seemed to expect little forms of special treatment from me: holding doors, hyping her up during games, bringing her snacks, etc. Once she asked whether I would have shared something with her the way the other intern had, and I jokingly said no.

The thing is, I was actually very nice to her professionally and personally. I brought her snacks/drinks sometimes, checked in when she wasn’t feeling well, offered help, complimented her work, invited her to socials, etc.

I was also very competitive and generally strong at the work. A few times I respectfully pointed out mistakes or disagreed with her on technical things, and turned out to be right. I always tried to do it politely, but given how competitive she was, I sometimes wondered whether that created some ego or status friction between us.

I was guarded around the personal/dating stuff because she was my manager. When she told me about guys hitting on her, I often just went quiet or responded neutrally. I also made comments about my own dating preferences that, in hindsight, may have made it sound like she wasn’t my type.

At one point she directly asked me, “Why are you so serious?” That confused me because she already knew I was very social and joking with everyone else. Near the end she also joked that it was my last day so I might as well finally “open up.”

After the first part of the internship, her behavior toward me changed a lot. She stopped initiating nearly as much and became much closer with the other male intern.

He was extremely quiet, introverted, and rarely approached her himself. She was also noticeably taller than him, although I don’t think that necessarily mattered. She would constantly seek him out, lead the conversations, show him photos/reels, talk about relationships, gossip and weekends, call him cute, make heart signs, and ask him to sit beside her. From watching them, it felt like his very passive/receptive personality let her completely control the social dynamic, which seemed to suit her and probably fed her need for attention/validation.

At the same time, she would still make little bids for my attention. She might spend an event mostly talking to him, then suddenly ask why I wasn’t holding a door for her anymore, want something I had offered another woman, or ask some question that seemed to test whether I would treat her specially.

Eventually I got annoyed and pulled back because she didn't expect this from the other intern. I stopped seeking her out and started working more with other managers. She noticed and didn't like it. After that we barely spoke for a while.

She also chirped/teased me professionally a lottt, especially when I was confident or getting praised. Once she made a joke that crossed the line and I purposely went completely quiet. She immediately started backtracking and reassuring me.

After another tense social event, she asked me for a small form of special treatment. I responded more detached than usual, and the next day she told me, “I was thinking last night, and you’re actually really chill.” That stood out because it sounded like she had been replaying our interaction afterward and reassessing me.

There were also several times when, if I was giving another coworker a lot of attention, she would suddenly insert herself into the conversation, join whatever we were doing, or noticeably redirect her attention toward the other male intern. I couldn’t tell whether that was jealousy, competitiveness, normal attention seeking, or me reading too much into it.

What made the other intern dynamic especially confusing was that they never communicated outside of in person work interactions. Yet when I was physically there, she would make their closeness very visible by calling him cute, making heart signs, asking him to sit beside her, loudly asking whether he was coming to events.

Because so much of that happened directly in front of me, I sometimes felt like she knew it would make me jealous and was deliberately leaning into it to get a reaction if I cared. I can’t tell whether I was seeing intentional reaction testing or just overinterpreting a very public friendship.

Question:

1. Was my manager flirting with me, did I accidentally make her feel rejected, and did she start using the other intern to make me jealous?
2. Why did my manager go from being very warm and personally interested in me to distant and much closer with another intern?

I need some advice on coping with what will hopefully be my last month or two at my current job.
To keep it vague, my role involves deep-dive analytical work where I have to find specific insights to present every single week, rain or shine. I’ve been doing this for about six months (I’ve at this job for much longer than 6 months). The problem is that my boss's standards for "good" work keep getting higher, yet I receive minimal direction, collaboration, or human interaction on a day to day basis.
The work interests me so little that I’m constantly distracted and reaching for my phone. I think it’s a strong sign of burnout, and frankly, my goal right now is just to do the bare minimum. I have things outside of work that stimulate my brain in a much more positive way, and I can focus on those perfectly fine.
I’m on track to get a new job in a month or two. It will be a pay cut, but it suits my interests much better.
If you’ve ever been in a similar situation, how did you cope? How do you gather the mental energy to meet demanding requirements when you can't just brute-force your way through it?

There’s a weird workplace dynamic where the people who consistently finish things quickly and solve problems reliably often end up getting handed even more responsibilities.

Meanwhile, being efficient rarely means getting any of that time back.

At some point, “they can handle it” quietly becomes the reason one person is carrying significantly more than everyone else.

It seems like workplaces often reward competence with workload instead of autonomy, compensation, or actual breathing room.

That feels backwards.

Today I finally mentioned to management about an issue thats been ongoing.

A co worker (ex friend now obviously), yanked my seat out from behind me whilst sitting (my bottom was literally on the edge as I was leaned in looking at my screen). I almost fell but quickly caught myself. He tried to pass it off as a joke but I made clear it wasn’t a joke and I didn’t take it as one.

This came the day after I addressed him about taking over work that was mine (marketing / sales / higher commission type thing).

I told him many times I didn’t like how he behaved - in the moment and after. No apology. Instead he started behaving strangely, theres like 4 of us on our team, he’d greet each of our team mates Individually with all 4 of us sat there and skip me each time. During this time he could have apologised, obviously was not sorry. After a week of this I tried approaching him again one on one to resolve the issue (should’ve been him but tried to be the bigger person). He wasn’t really interested in discussing how he acted and when he did kind of apologise, it was more of a “fine, whatever“ type apology.

After the 2nd attempt to resolve I tried to let things naturally cool down but he continued the obvious isolating.

There were other stuff too in between but I raised the main aggression issue. The managers did nothing.

He came out of his meeting with management practically singing. Later on during the day he was singing and chatting with people so normally it was clear he didn’t even get slap on the wrist. He was in a better mood after his meeting than after.

I shared a lot of specific details in my complaint with dates, times examples of hostile behaviour and then obviously the out right physical aggression which they barely read. The manager herself told me she didn’t read it entirely before she spoke to me.

im so disappointed and embarrassed that I even said anything as it was bothering me but I was worried about retaliation and stigma of reporting around the office. I told them this, I don’t think they cared.

I requested an informal approach / said I didn’t want anything to happen to his job, just accountability. Not even a full read of why I was reporting.

I feel terrible and like I was better off not reporting.

Edit: Left out our ages, I’m a late 20s F he’s a mid 20s male.

Theres a coworker who keeps acting like my supervisor telling me what to do and is always rude to me. She singles me out trying to micromanage me and gets mad at me for no reason like when she sees me not working because im not supposed to because ive either clocked out or its not time to clock in yet. Im the only one she does this to. What can i say to advocate for myself the next time she harasses me? I always emotionally shut down and feel bad for something i didnt even do wrong when a stranger gets mad at me

Those who work longs hours mostly sitting at a desk, have you felt like long sedentary lifestyle affects your libido and how you think?

Since I’m in IT even when I’m traveling I need to sit somewhere and work on a laptop and I feel like it’s affecting me both physically and mentally. How was your libido and overall mood before and after long desk job and sedentary lifestyle.

i havent worked at this job for very long only for a few months and im already planning to give in my weeks notice before the end of november. ive only worked at this place so that i can support myself during my studies abroad next year as im not going to get a lot of money from the government.

the thing is, im also going home to my country for the first time since i was a kid, and the company requires us to work 2 days out of christmas eve/ day and new years eve/day and the deadline is october. everything is booked already and im not sure if i was wrong to not bring this up before i was hired but i cant do anything about that now.

im still young so i dont really know how to bring this about to the general store manager, as im kinda scared of them and ive told my co worker and manager and they agree that im going to have to bite the bullet lol.

btw, i dont think theyve ever asked about christmas until now and so i havent told them anything about going home, neither about my studies.

any advice on how to approach this would be so helpful 🥲

Can she fire me for this? I’m told it is a health hazard because she can’t tell if I’m sick on top of having allergies. I do take medication for it but I still have symptoms. When she told me to go home and that she doesn’t want everyone getting sick, I asked if I could get a doctors note. She just told me again to leave and said I am making everyone uncomfortable.

I have a bad cough and congestion. Without the meds my eyes and throat swell dangerously, so the meds are helping.

I’m a field technician with minimal interaction with my colleagues, I’m in the office for an hour per day and I’m the field alone the rest of the day.