I accidentally came out to my transphobic religious grandpa in a Zaxbys 4 years ago because he had put my deadname on the order and then I ignored them calling our order out twice (I’ve gotten to the point where I barely respond to it anymore). When he said “they called your name, do you want me to go grab it?” I was so confused for a split second before saying, out loud, “oh, right, I forgot you put that name on it.”
That combined with my general appearance over the last few years finally made something click in his brain. We had a very uncomfortable drive back to his house.
Funnily enough he is my landlord now because I am renting his spare home, and i started testosterone the second I moved in. He said something about me being trans the day I moved in, I said something back to the effect of “you can still see me as your little girl as much as you want, I’m not going to stop you, but you saying that is not going to stop me either. I love you, but I’m not going to have this conversation with you anymore.’ and he has not said anything about it since.
My parents are also transphobic, not in the ‘I hate you and I’m going to kick you out’ kinda way but not supportive by any means. I’ve been out to them for nearly 7 years now, still see them like twice a week but they’ve learned to stop taking their stupid pills when I’m around because I will get the fuck in my car and leave if they start up about it.
My grandmas (maternal and paternal) are my most supportive immediate family members, aside from my cousins. They’re the only ones I’ll have a legitimate conversation with about that aspect of my life.
TLDR is they’ve learned to just leave me alone when it comes to gender. I keep them at arms length.
Understandable and thank you for answering my questions. So glad your grandmothers are there for you. I lost mine in 2017 but at some point I let her know I was ace without saying I was ace and she was super cool about it. She was one of those old ladies who cuss like a sailor and didn't take anyone's shit. I miss her.
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u/TheFirePea2013 Quirked up darkner , busting it down rude style 4h ago
how do you accidentally come out