r/sex • u/bigdickwelsh • 1d ago
Skill improvement Pushing down on lower stomach
A girl I was seeing a few months ago told me that putting a hand on her lower stomach and applying a bit of pressure would have a big effect on her and most girls.
Can anyone explain to me what this does, if it has any effect at all, how does it feel. I know all girls are different but if a good portion likes this then it would be good to know exactly what to do.
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u/momadance 1d ago
She's right and im surprised more people dont know why.
The clit is a large, wishbone-shaped organ that extends inside the body, not just the small external nub. Pressing on the lower stomach just above the pubic bone pushes external pressure inward. When combined with internal penetration (fingers, toys, or a partner), this creates a sandwich effect that increases pressure on the internal crura and front vaginal wall. Stronger and easier orgasm. Of course not all women find it as intense but it 100% works for me.
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u/bigdickwelsh 19h ago
Thanks so much for the detail there it's hard for is to really understand how things work/feel and being so detailed really helps a lot
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u/Dexterishere1 14h ago
this is how i feel too! we don't have the same equipment and that makes it really hard to know what it feels like on the other end especially when most of the sensitive bits are hidden on the inside, instead of on the end of a literal stick all exposed. 🫣
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u/momadance 6h ago
Make a open lesbian friend. We are always down for giving tips and info. Also, I had to search this info to figure out why it felt so much better.
If you scroll down just a bit on this there is a diagram on what happens inside with the clit.
Where the Clitoris Is Located and What It Does https://share.google/YqTEPRoXEM0bzPapf
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u/bigdickwelsh 28m ago
I have one and she was like "wtf dude no that'll just make me need to pee" so I decided to expand the data pool.
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u/BillieRubenCamGirl 1d ago
Dunno what it does but it definitely works on me. It’s more like upper pelvis than lower stomach though.
And works best when the thing inside me is pointed up.
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
Good to know. Having an upwards curve has certainly made doggy a bit harder but in missionary its had its advantages
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u/Ok_Rule2098 1d ago
Do missionary with her feet on your shoulders and you'll probably hit her gspot and/or make her squirt. I think the hand in lower abdomen works for a lot of us. Increases intensity and pleasure .
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u/bryanthavercamp 1d ago
This pressure actually presses on the bladder, which in turn puts extra pressure on what I can only describe as your "g spot" which feels good when you've got something inside. At least that's my logic on this technique.
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u/yoseppi 1d ago
Like a penis pointed up? Or a curved dildo?
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u/Unhappy-Tower-9851 1d ago
For those commenting are you getting pushed down on the lower stomach or more under the lower stomach where the bladder would be? I’m interested to try this
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u/CroCroNo209 1d ago
Usually the space under the belly button, not too close to the pubic bone, so anywhere in between there. But that's for me, id push around different spots and see what works for ur girlie
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u/PossibleExplorer1076 21h ago
for me it's like right above the pubic bone but also it depends when it's done, like i have to already be turned on and reasonably close
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u/Tough_Rich7435 1d ago
female here instead of pressing have a pillow under her. my fav is prone bone
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
Weirdly enough I find it easier to get in when there's a pillow under her, I curve upwards and for some reason that feels better for me too. Also helps to get my face in there.
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u/maxallergy 1d ago
Funnily I've been getting an ad for a product that does what a pillow does, but better as it's specifically build for bedtime fun
Wanna buy it for a common Christmas gift for my girlfriend and I hahaha•
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u/Lost-Nectarine-4062 1d ago
This works on me! I would easily squirt if a guy does this to me. So far, only one guy did it. He would put his fingers on me, and the other hand would push down my lower belly. The feeling and sensation was so good. He needs to accelerate in speed though when doing the fingering. All of those combined will def make me squirt! 😍
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u/reluctantdonkey 1d ago
For me, it pulls the skin over my clitoris more taught and pulls the hood up a bit, too/tilts it at a more accessible angle.
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
I did try pushing the pubis back a little while going down on a girl and she seemed to really like that. Guessing it doesn't the same sort of thing for you then
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u/reluctantdonkey 1d ago
No, I love it-- the spot I like is right above the pubis, lower part of the belly. During penetration, it also seems to get the a-spot and p-spot (fornixes of the cervix.. though my favorite is the right-lateral fornix) more accessible, which would make sense if it's pushing the uterus up so the lip around the cervix is more extended.
And, of course, my partner likes to feel his penis moving stuff around in there.
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
That description is brilliant. Thank you for being so specific because I don't share the same anatomy sometimes its hard to figure out where things are and how things will feel.
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u/4urinals 1d ago
the nerve receptors of the clit go all the way up in there so pushing down on the lower stomach also helps create more friction between u and the upper wall
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u/roshniph 1d ago
Well, not pushing, but my partner placing his hand on my lower tummy is intense-not because of the pressure, but it's symbolic of him laying claim on my tummy... I think it is more psychological than physical. Yes it is hot !!
If that hand placement is slightly lower, like on the naval, or upper pelvic bone, then, by God, a bit of pressure makes the feeling of him moving inside me that much more pronounced.. all sensations are amplified and drives my brain into mush very soon !!
Actually, this works in the doggy position too.. when my man pulls me into a hug around my waist, him holding my lower tummy gives me similar vibes. Maybe it's a lot to do with what each person finds attractive !
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u/tinsleytina 1d ago
I've never understood it. I've had it done to me and feel nothing but I've heard it helps with stimulation.
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u/kinkyshibby 1d ago
Yeah I've heard of it and tried it and I hate it. So definitely not a one side fits all move.
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
Different strokes for different folks I guess, is there anything that you really do like that's similar?
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u/Octosatan 1d ago
My man did this to me and I honestly only thought bro who told you this (I can’t make my mind up if I like it but it’s def not a game changer)
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u/rchllwr 1d ago
I’ve had it done to me too and it’s honestly pretty uncomfortable; it doesn’t hurt, it’s just not pleasurable at all. My husband though is on the larger side so maybe that has something to do with it?
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u/tinsleytina 1d ago
I just find it odd. Like thanks for holding down my stomach while you bang me...I guess🤣
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u/WillingnessGloomy301 1d ago
It certainly has an effect on me, it’s essentially massaging your pelvic floor which for some women who can cum from G spot stimulation feels really great
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u/scaredghoul 1d ago
Im embarrassed bc my bf started doing this and i thought i had to explain to him that he cant feel his dick in my pussy from outside like hentai but now i know it was for my benefit aww. Hes getting it tonight lol
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u/kllquist 13h ago
Depending on his size, which doesnt have to be huge, you can feel it on the outside though lol
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u/Mike_Shenanigans 1d ago
If you put you fingers inside as far as you can and press up towards her belly button, and then press your fingers down on the other hand just above the pubic bone, you can feel your fingers move. I think as other posters have said, this put pressure on the uterus and vagina and is pleasurable for some women. That pressure can also cause squirting when combined with gspot stimulation.
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u/Russian_Doll_888 1d ago
Some you don't need to go in as far as you can - gspot location can vary and can be only 1-2 inches inside.
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u/Mike_Shenanigans 1d ago
Right, but if the OP wants to feel where his fingers are from the outside, you have to get all the way in-- like one would stimulating the a-spot.
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u/SpareSquirrelGurrrl 1d ago
The way we need y’all to stop shoving your fingers inside as far as you can… please for the love of all that is holy, don’t do that unless she asks! Best to start shallow and let her tell you to go deeper.
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u/Specialist-Ad4388 1d ago
Also please stop thinking thrusting fingers or other things straight in/out faster or harder is always a good idea. Some of us like that, not all.
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u/DrRonnieJamesDO 1d ago
Have had multiple GFs say a little pressure from my palm on the pubic bone while fingering her clit was a game changer. Think it's kind of "reassuring"
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u/InnerRadio7 19h ago
It makes sense anatomically for sure. Pressure on lower pelvis while there is internal stimulation. Look up what a clit looks like under MRI, and this will start to make a lot more sense.
I personally hate this though. I have endometriosis, and for me certain types of pressure feel awful. The skin on my pelvis has become sensitized after years of pain to the point where I don’t want to wear jeans, so you know…never assume that a move is universally loved, but I’m sure this one provides extra sensation for many women.
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u/Ok-Pitch-287 1d ago
I do this to girls often, espically whilst going down on her. Pushing gently on lower stomach and if you use fingers at the same time, slightly pointing up, it puts more pressure on the g spot.
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u/Charming-Low5547 22h ago
It’s where our G Spot is. When fingering a girl, it can usually only be accessed when inserting your fingers and curling them up towards here belly button. So when you have a straight penis going in, accessing that exact spot is difficult. So when you press on the lower abdomen, it pushes onto the penis therefore grazing the spot and oh boy. Is it intense. Definitely recommend if you want to blow a girls mind!!
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u/Creepy-Garden8674 20h ago
It pushes the g spot down so it's easier to feel you hit it, 10/10 amazing trick
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u/zcjtfe7 18h ago
Women showing men how to be better at sex is such a vibe, even if it didn’t work out between you she shared her knowledge so you can be a better future lover to others.
As someone who is into this there is defs a correlation with the feeling of this done right and squirting, it causes G-spot stimulation. We’re not all the same tho, some of us are more sensitive than others. Like others have said, consent, personal preference, etc. Refreshing to see a man asking questions re a women’s perspective.
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u/bigdickwelsh 18h ago
I agree 100% she's a lovely girl I don't say anything bad about anyone I've dated but with her there isn't anything negative I could say even if I wanted to. Getting enthusiastic consent is something I've been really big on after dating someone that really struggled to say no.
I guess I see it as I can only control how i make my partners feel so that's what I should focus on a bit more
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u/zcjtfe7 17h ago edited 17h ago
I’m guessing I’m a bit older than you - prefacing to avoid sounding patronising - but in my experience great sex isn’t about what you can control (unless bdsm is your vibe!), it’s more about finding a partner that is as enthusiastic to have sex with you as you are them, where you have strong sexual communication where you both share and try to learn what the other likes, and ultimately both try to maximise one another’s pleasure. Like how the OG woman was telling you what she especially likes. She felt comfortable to share her kinks. I’m guessing she asked you what you like also? I’m imagining a baddie! When you both have that attitude towards sex and treat it like an equal partnership it can be fireworks.
Sadly personally I have found this kind of sexual chemistry to be rare, and tho some of the sex has been amazing it hasn’t yet aligned with someone that also aligns with my values for longer term relationships. Hoping one day to find both in the same person!
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u/bigdickwelsh 18m ago
Yeah I guess control is a bad word for what I mean more so trying to influence sexual relations in a positive direction. She was wonderful on the front of communicating about the whole shebang. It was sort of the polar opposite to the girl I dated before who would say yes to everything out of fear of offending which gets a little worrying I adored her but that was a major problem. So this was definatly a breath of fresh air. And yeah a baddie would be an accurate discription I'd write her a glowing reference any day.
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u/Ill_Comb5932 1d ago
Definitely ask before adding this to any sex session! I would personally hate this. It can be stimulating the clit or just something that feels good to her. Did she describe why she likes it? There are a lot of nerves in the pubic region so it makes sense.
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
Oh yeah id ask if they like it first, I've been a bit paranoid about asking recently after I dated an extreme people pleaser. It's good to know that it isnt universally loved.
She didn't go into much detail and we don't talk any more so I can't really ask her
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u/K_Pumpkin 1d ago
Yeah this would make me nauseated. A lot here seem to be a fan but I’m glad nobody ever tried this on me.
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
It's been interesting to see the variety of reasons from the people that do like it I think. It's one of those things where I would only be doing it for the enjoyment of the other person so if they aren't into it then there's no point
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u/hadleyv90 1d ago
I had an old boyfriend do this to me and when he did it he had this look in his eye like he knew all the tricks.
It unfortunately didn’t have any effect on me and I was just confused.
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u/synDKate98 1d ago
I had never heard of this until now but I do see the logic behind it, so maybe it is a thing.
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u/Starspangledass 1d ago
It’s like when a cat shows you their belly—do not believe her, she just wants to claw the shit out of your arm.
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
That is very convenient timing. Ive had this on and off my mind for months now and I've only just made a throwaway account to post it on here.
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u/Fun-Commission707 1d ago
idk to me its more of an optics thing, like the guy is holding me down and i find that hotttt af
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u/Cityofooo 1d ago
The rest of the clitoris is high up behind the mound so putting pressure there is much more stimulating.
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u/Kumazoku 1d ago edited 1d ago
Clitoral nerve network extends out above (head-ward) the pubic bone, intertwines with the vagus nerve, involving a direct connection to the brain stem. Different networks lead to different experiences.
Be gentle, be firm, work the entire belly, check in. Do all the other usual activities while keeping touch with her center. Check in! A very vulnerable feeling for trusted partners only.
Some times a firm SLOW pull on her pubic hair (Oh Please leave some!) will have an interesting effect,
Massage that lovely area called the pubis.
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u/ExistentialDreadIt 4h ago
I did not know this about the vagus nerve.
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u/ExistentialDreadIt 4h ago
Actually, I just looked this up and there isn’t a direct connection to the vagus nerve, but rather to the pudendal nerve.
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u/Valuable-Drummer6604 1d ago
Probably pushes the parts that feel good into greater contact with your penis. I’ve been told the same thing about pressing on the lower abdomen (directly above the pubic bone.. I think) and as I can feel my penis moving in her whilst pressing there.. I feel like this is probably happening imho
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u/blinddruid 1d ago
if it is what I think she’s talking about, it actually is applying pressure via a palm over the MONS. This is pleasurable because part of the clitoral. structure runs up through there. Look up the full anatomy of the clitoris and you’ll understand why. There is much much more to it than just that little love button that you see.
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u/Lbethy 1d ago edited 1d ago
For me, it helps release the sexual tension build up and i get a deeper full body orgasm.
For clarity, i am talking about my stomach. Not my pubic mound. Centrally below the belly button - most people’s hands will cover the space between the belly button and the groin. Touching that part of my stomach seems to be an erogenous zone for me anyway but the pressure just helps me reach the next level.
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u/POV_mei 23h ago
Yep, it can make the pressure/stimulation feel stronger for some girls. Just don't go full CPR on her stomach
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u/Visible_Meeting6170 20h ago
Me and my bf do this lol. It feels amazing. Makes anything inside feel more pronounced.
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u/CroCroNo209 1d ago
To me, it's like pushing on the uterus wall so it's rubbing against your member more and adds more friction/feeling for us (might make it feel tighter for you?) Also my bf does this even without being inside me and it feels like he's fucking me from the outside just from pushing the walls in to each other like a massage. It feels great
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
I tried it a little with another girl I couldn't notice much difference but I didn't push down much as I was a little preoccupied.
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u/tawneyalbatross 1d ago
It’s a turn on just like if I apply pressure at the base of the balls and right above the cock for men.
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u/bigdickwelsh 1d ago
The way she said it made it sound like some mortal combat combo haha, where is best for this I'd imagine above the pubis would almost make you need to pee
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u/tawneyalbatross 1d ago
It has a bit of that sensation but considering how close the urethra is to the vaginal canal, it’s kind of all in there. But she’s teaching you something - take it and use it!
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u/PrimalMan30 1d ago
Pushing the lower stomach just above the pubis mons during sex stimulates the clitoral nerve receptors. These extend far higher than just the clitoris itself and are also linked to her gspot. This triggers enhanced orgasmic pleasure for most of the women Ive been with and thats why women love it
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u/ReyandJean 1d ago
Pushing hard down just above the public bone while simultaneously performing the "come hither" finger action internally is a common technique to induce squirting. I've no idea why it works.
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u/AskModernMagpie 1d ago
you can toss a firm pillow under her hips or lower back. it tilts the pelvis automatically, mimicking that same pressed-down angle and giving better g-spot contact with zero physical effort on your end.
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u/The_greatest_manboob 1d ago
I've found when going down on a girl and applying gentle pressure above the pubic bone with my hands(where you'd expect the bladder to be) seems to have a good effect.
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u/Specialist-Ad4388 1d ago
I haven't had sex in a long time to try it yet but I'm assuming it has something to do with making the penis have more contact with the woman's g-spot. Kind of like if the penis can't go as far into the vagina, maybe the head rubbing more at the entrance inside just feels better?! I'm looking forward to finding out.
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u/LongDickPeter 15h ago
This is one of my biggest tricks that lead to orgasm. Also if she likes a finger in her bum you can use that finger to push your penis down through her butt to apply pressure to the back of her clit.
do this from the back and have her rest over a pillow or wedge.
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u/maraq 1d ago
The mons pubis, yes, the lower stomach, no. There are no sex organs near the lower stomach.
God people will do anything to ignore the clitoris for some reason. Instead of pushing her stomach, touch her clit! It will bring her to orgasm which is better than pissing herself.
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u/bigdickwelsh 19h ago
The quest for the clitoris shall start at the belly button, we ride out at dawn!.
I guess it's good to have some alternatives to pushing the clit like the buttons on Tekken in an arcade. One girl got a little too sensitive down there after a bit of a marathon.
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u/thedarkestbeer 1d ago
I had a girlfriend who loved it. I think it hit the internal clitoris. Does nothing for me, though. I actually find it kind of unpleasant. Like anything in sex, some people will love it and some people won’t.
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u/damagedgoodsx_ 1d ago
Odd question.. but does this work as someone (who is a fat girl)? Like my stomach takes a lot of space so where would my husband "push" at? The Fupa area or lower stomach?
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u/bigdickwelsh 19h ago
I sadly don't have the equipment to test this, if I were you I'd test out a few different options to see what effect there is on you. Consensus seems to say just above the fupa area so I'd start there and try higher and lower. If you do have any findings I think we'd be interested to hear back. Larger girls deserve good orgasms too the more info out there the more likely they get them.
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u/GrizzYatta 17h ago
I’ve a question about this. My wife wants to squirt but she can’t figure out how to “let go” of the pressure
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u/Putrid_Hedgehog_5731 1d ago
I've been having sex with my wife for 40 years and I just figured out that pushing hard on her stomach gets her off if I'm going down on her or if we're having penetration. I'm not sure if it's a sexual stimulus or an emotional one. I can also bar my lower leg across her chest and that gets her off too. I think she just likes it cuz it's kind of rough and unusual. If you're nailing a girl with doggy style try putting your foot on the side of her face. That's a classic move too. I'm not saying I understand it I just know what works.
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u/roskybosky 1d ago
And, please don’t call it “nailing”.
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u/Putrid_Hedgehog_5731 1d ago
I must have missed that in the "rules"
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u/roskybosky 1d ago
It’s coarse and vulgar and dismissive.
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u/This-Cookie5548 1d ago
This is such a dumb thing to do. You are just making me want to pee. It is terrible.
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Pushing down on lower stomach
A girl I was seeing a few months ago told me that putting a hand on her lower stomach and applying a bit of pressure would have a big effect on her and most girls.
Can anyone explain to me what this does, if it has any effect at all, how does it feel. I know all girls are different but if a good portion likes this then it would be good to know exactly what to do.
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