What did my partner just do?

[u/OkTough6333]

So yesterday me (M22) & my gf (F21) were having sex. usually when we do it, we routinely do it in the missionary position and i usually finish and she’s able to have a good time too, but yesterday something unusual happened. As I was thrusting, I was having difficulty finishing – which is not common, since I usually am able to finish with no problem; but yesterday it just wasn’t clicking for some reason and I was thrusting for like 10-15 minutes. Then as I was continuing thrusting, all of a sudden I feel an enormous heavy pressure on my penis – the feeling was so heavy that, it was as if my Penis was being squeezed from all sides. With this enormous pressure on me I was finally at last able to finish & it was one of the best feelings ever. I looked over at my gf and I asked her what the hell just happened? & she just laughed and said “magic”

I’m still confused on what happened even after a day just passed since. Because we've been doing missionary for so long and nothing like this has ever happened. What do you guys think?

[u/implication-sofa]

It can be harmful for those with already overtoned pelvic floors! Sometimes reverse kegels are actually a better option

[u/RareEarthMagnets → u/implication-sofa]

Can confirm. Apparently it’s possible to prevent yourself from getting orgasms by overtoning your pelvic floor, causing your kegels to never fully relax. I have a therapeutic wand now to stretch my vaginal muscles while doing deep breathing exercises and trying to force my muscles to relax. T_T One day I’ll get to experience an orgasm…

[u/Used-Tumbleweed9734 → u/RareEarthMagnets]

What kind of wand? I’ve been dealing with excess tone/vaginismus, and I’ve been using dilators and small dildos. I also haven’t orgasmed. It’s good to get confirmation that the two things might be related, so the second might get better as I fix the first.

[u/RareEarthMagnets → u/Used-Tumbleweed9734]

Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand
The company is Intimate Rose. It’s thicker on the short end with a bit of a point to hit the shallower muscles right around the vagina, and a long thin end to hit the deeper muscles in your pelvic floor.
It’s used in conjunction with lube and breathing/relaxation exercises.
I would recommend consulting with a pelvic floor specialist physical therapist before use just to make sure it’s a good idea and to give you an idea of how to do the exercises properly—there’s a very informative instructional card that comes with the product, but it took my PT actually demonstrating on my arm the amount of pressure I should be applying with the device to make me realize how mean I had been to my pelvic floor (and why it cramped up so badly) when I attempted to use it the first time. (I was treating it like a deep tissue massage, where I look for a knot and then apply pressure to beat it into submission… pelvic floors don’t like that, it turns out)