I feel confidence comes from success, it can not be faked after failure.

If you've done it before you can do it again, or if you've done well at something similar.

But if you repeatedly fail, and fail to improve over and over it becomes natural to lack confidence. Knowing the worst is likely to happen again.

On the other hand you can be oblivious. You're going to fail, get turned down, lose a game, make a fool of yourself in public and still believe your all that.

I let things so fast, not overthink and remind myself I will do everything that I want for the things I want until I want to do it, and whoever else says anything about it to me its not my business.

its not embarrassing if its intent was connection

im amazing I look great and I have a great personality

I approach people, have a little chitchat, even if I am not perfect at it yet, I attempt and I let my personality out because theres a place for me in the world.

I listen to people, ask questions and even follow up, I complement, and laugh and smile just as I enjoy company.

what else should I do to feel more confident and charismatic within myself and with my presence?

The phrase I got this speaks volumes. It says you have the confidence to do whatever it takes to do whatever it is that needed to be done. "I GOT THIS."

Before you had the confidence you have today, has anyone ever had to tell you, you got this before you believed that you had it?

Just Asking!

I can't avoid overthinking what other people think of me. Especially with my physical appearance (I'm just an average looking girl, not conventionally attractive). I actually had an acne breakout and whenever someone talk to me, I feel so conscious when they look at my acne🥲.

How to not care about other people's opinion of me?

All things considered, I don't think anybody would say I have anything less than a good life.

I'm doing well in school; I have a job; I have a relatively healthy social life.

That being said, I can't help but feel completely and utterly alone. I have 3 or 4 friends, but I don't talk to them about anything deep or meaningful. It's been years since I've talked to someone about feelings or mental health (longer than I've known these people). It's a weird feeling to explain but I feel like I'm not close enough to them to say anything about loneliness or mental health.

Maybe it's something about the way I was raised, but I also feel like an incredible burden whenever I reach out to my friends about something cool I saw or thought about. They respond over text like they don't care, and even though I know that's just how they text (they're 10x more interested if I were to tell them in person), it's caused me to stop reaching out. In turn, I don't receive any messages at all. It's so much effort and I'm fucking tired of it.

There's a girl I've been talking to and her friends say she really likes me but I'm not really getting that feeling. Last week I introduced a friend to this friend group (of the girl I'm talking to, another of my friends, & their friends I don't really know) and it feels like he's already closer to them.

I don't know if it's something wrong with me but it also feels like nobody even cares enough to make an effort to have me open up.

I'm sorry if this post doesn't make any sense I'm super emotional right now but I'll be happy to answer any more questions to clarify anything. :)

17M

Like I am not feelind sad or anything its just bugging me off, making me feel bad about myself, how to get over it?

Yeah so all my life i’ve always been extremely nice to people to the point of them walking all over me. I’ve been aware of this for about 7 years or so and it’s gotten a little better but i’m not there yet. I remember at one point i people pleased my way into accidentally getting into a relationship and i was so scared of breaking up with them because i felt like an asshole. It took me a whole year and when i did it i cried not because i was sad about the relationship ending but because i was sad that i was being “mean” to them (this was in 2022 though). I have been in other relationships where my boundaries were constantly being pushed, they probably knew i was like this from the start and used it to their advantage.

I also had a best friend at one point who at times were being very controlling and rude to me but i forgave her time and time again just because “her life was hard”. She also called me a doormat at some point.

I genuinely don’t think i’m worthy of self love, i see everyone as being above me. I have no talents, no hobbies, i’m not very fit or athletic, i’m average looking, never get compliments from strangers, haven’t really accomplished anything extraordinary, not super social or charismatic. I just want to be liked so i overcompensate by being “nice” but i noticed it’s just annoying to people.

Also my ex bf said that if a man hates women who are obsessed with themselves they’re “gay” and it really hurt because he knows i don’t like myself. He also said i “deserve to love myself” but i don’t know how because i have no amazing qualities like that. I’m not a genius, talented, socially competent, fit, extremely beautiful or skilled in the arts.

I am someone who has been working on a few really hard to complete projects and goals which many people have said to me that I can't accomplish (simply put, I am way too ambitious).

However, the fear of failure doesn't even come up in my mind. It's like I have this unwavering trust in myself. Sometimes it makes me think I might be overconfident but I am also glad because I have failed countless times in my life but this confidence has always made me carry on. It's like I feel down for 3 days after failing at something big but then I bounce back no matter what.

What does this mean? Is it a bad thing? The way I look at it, it's good because it has prevented me from giving up but it's also bad because it also makes me stubbornly pursue something which has a high probability of leading to failure.