r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/Aggressive_Flower224 • Jun 21 '26
Sex When are we going to change this sub to r/SexQuestionsTooAfraidToAsk? NSFW
Every time I browse this sub, or sort by New, it's always a question about genitals or veiled kink posts. At this point, I don't think these people are afraid to ask this, they just sound horny.
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u/RufusEnglish Jun 21 '26
Don't you mean TheSameSexQuestionsTooAfraidToAsk
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u/BeemerBaby004 Jun 22 '26
Don't you mean the same sex questions posed by teeny boppers too afraid to ask?
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u/Aristes01 Jun 21 '26
It's not the posts that determine the sub's topic; it's the sub that determines it's own topic.
Or is it?
I guess overlapping topics can shift the balance, and change the sub's topic. That hasn't happened yet — however.
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u/flexxipanda Jun 21 '26
Well the same happen to askreddit a lot. My guess, horny teenagers like reading about "hey reddit whats your sexiest sex story sex you can make up sex?"
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u/-Pazza- Jun 21 '26
90% of this sub is horny dudes asking questions they already know the answer to.
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u/that0neBl1p Jun 21 '26
Because despite the frequent (and honestly annoying) sex posts, this sub isn't specifically for sexual questions.
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u/WoodYouLookAtTheTime Jun 21 '26
Honestly, the frequency wouldn't be such a big deal if a vast majority of the posts weren't just some dumbass asking something like "if I jacked off and came is that okay" or "ladies,,,, penis?? 🤔🤔" lol
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u/that0neBl1p Jun 21 '26
Adding to the "ladies,,,, penis??" don't forget the "do women like [thing]?" or, even better, "would women like [dick size]" and variations thereupon
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u/Arianity Jun 22 '26
"do women like [thing]?" or, even better, "would women like [dick size]" and variations thereupon
Both of these are already actively FAQ'd
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u/Arianity Jun 22 '26
vast majority of the posts weren't just some dumbass asking something like "if I jacked off and came is that okay" or "ladies,,,, penis?? 🤔🤔" lol
Do you have actual examples that would fit under this? Because those sorts of posts are already actively moderated. The first under Rule 3, the second under the FAQ
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u/Aggressive_Flower224 Jun 21 '26
But it sure is starting to feel that way. Makes me wonder if this sub will go the way of r/trees and a new sub for truly afraid questions will be made.
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u/that0neBl1p Jun 21 '26
Oh it definitely feels that way, but what keeps it from actually being that way is the fact that non sex-related questions aren't against the rules.
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u/HarleyNBarley Jun 21 '26 edited Jun 22 '26
The thing is, there already is a sub called [r/tooafraidtoaskdark](r/tooafraidtoaskdark) for all such questions. That is probably just not as popular.
Edit: r/askredditafterdark and not the one I mentioned
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u/Sweet_Cinnabonn Jun 21 '26
Why would anyone be afraid to ask questions about things that aren't sex or race?
I think it is inherent in the Afraid To Ask.
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u/Aggressive_Flower224 Jun 21 '26
I'm sure there are questions that involve sex that people are afraid to ask, but something like "Ladies, give it to me straight, does size matter?" or "Ladies, how do you feel about circumsized dicks?" seem way too rampant on this sub.
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u/Arianity Jun 21 '26
"Ladies, give it to me straight, does size matter?" or "Ladies, how do you feel about circumsized dicks?"
These are literally already actively moderated out as part of the FAQ.
If you are in new, you are going to see them, because it's impossible to design an automod rule that catches all the way someone can ask about the size of their penis, without a huge amount of false positives. We could automod the word penis and you would literally still see them, people are creative.
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u/Bradtothebone79 Jun 22 '26
Let’s just get ahead of the curve and change it to r/TooAfraidToAskAI because who wants their Agent knowing these questions?
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u/noplaceinmind Jun 21 '26
Don't know.
When are you going to realize not everything is about you and your preferences?
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u/too_many_shoes14 Jun 21 '26
It's important to a lot of people and they have a lot of questions.
"A third of your life is in the sack."
-Sir Mix-a-Lot
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u/Mysterions Jun 22 '26
I don't think they are either. Sub is starting to take a turn as they naturally do. Personally, I think the soapbox threads are way more egregious though.
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u/Jirachibi1000 Jun 21 '26
What kinds of questions are people generally too afraid or shy to ask about commonly? Sex. This is like going to a soda subreddit and complaining everyone keeps talking about Coke/Pepsi like yeah thats the most popular subgenre this subreddit is about.
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u/Ok-Arachnid7442 Jun 21 '26
Do you maybe read more sex related posts perchance. Algorithms gonna algorithm my dude
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u/Aggressive_Flower224 Jun 21 '26
Even if I sort and browse this sub by New? I don't use the Hot or Popular pages, I browse this site by new posts, and lately, even on my main account, I've noticed so many horny posts here masquerading as being "afraid" to ask a question.
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u/Arianity Jun 21 '26 edited Jun 21 '26
There are currently 3 sex related posts in the top 10 on the front page. If you sort by new, you're probably going to end up seeing more, due to the nature of new. You're essentially opting into posts that probably haven't been moderated yet, either by mods or actual upvotes/downvotes.
Generally we are not going to start removing sex related posts, that is firmly within "Tooafraidtoask". It is a topic that is often considered taboo, people have questions about, and don't feel comfortable asking elsewhere. If you feel someone is posting disingenously, you can report them for violating Rule 3. For more, see this post. As I go through mod queue, there are currently not that many reported posts. You can also refer people to the FAQ which covers a large amount of the most commonly asked questions.
You can also use upvotes/downvotes for what you think is appropriate for the sub. A big part of the idea of the sub is that users can decide for themselves what they see, but if you're in new you're bypassing that.
In the past, we would also suggest people filter topics they don't want to see, but that isn't possible after Reddit killed 3rd party apps.
We already heavily remove stuff like veiled kink posts.
People have been saying this for literally years:
https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/po6117/were_not_removing_sexual_questions_hide_the_posts/
It is unfortunately one of those things where there's no way to make everyone happy after Reddit killed filters.