r/DoesAnybodyElse 3h ago

DAE have a senior parent with incontinence issues and wondering how to suggest they should be wearing adult diapers?

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u/Dinosaur-chicken 2h ago

Just call it "incontinence material" like carers in nursing homes do to bypass the stigma of diapers.

u/silvermanedwino 1h ago

Came here to say about the same thing don’t call them “diapers” or “pull ups”. We call them briefs.

u/Lorrainettey 11m ago

Honestly, that wording does make it sound a little less stigmatizing

u/waggish_roger 2h ago

my mom was same way, too proud to admit she needed help. i just bought a pack and left them in her bathroom without saying anything. she figured it out herself and now she wears them when she goes out. less awkward for both of us that way

u/Background_Tower_114 2h ago

My cousin dealt with this with her mom. She made an appointment with her family physician, went with her, and she was started in vaginal estrogen. Very cheap cream. She also goes to a class at the senior center that teaches pelvic floor exercises. If it is something more than urine leakage, usually finding a root cause will improve the issue and their quality of life. I don’t think anyone wants to live with incontinence. They probably are embarrassed to say anything, but quality of life matters

u/DiceyPisces 2h ago

Mil wanted them called briefs. I’ll call them whatever you’d like

I will wear them if necessary when my time comes

u/GingerSnapped818 1h ago

My FIL kept having accidents in the common areas of his independent living place. I said I know you don't want to wear them, but do you want the reputation as the guy who keeps shitting in the lobby? That was enough to convince him!

u/Hollybmp 33m ago

Can start with incontinent pads first if that helps. Had to use a combo pad / panty and that worked well under the circumstances for mom. Just get some and put them in the bathroom. The incontinent pads are different from the period pads. They’re more absorbent.

u/Tygie19 20m ago

I work in aged care, we call them continence aids. Slightly more dignified than calling it a nappy (diaper in the US, I’m in Australia)