About 2 months ago we got a new cat. 4.5 months old, male. We noticed that he was quite lonely, so we recently adopted a second cat. A 11 week old female.

We introduced slowly, but once they were introduced all they did was play. It ended up being too much play so we frequently had to seperate them. Everytime they are in the same room they play. Nothing else.

Now everytime they play the older resident cat wont stop trying to play with the younger cat. It is genuine play, not fighting. (Lots of belly flopping, and no hissing/meowing, mostly sheated claws). And the younger cat initiates a lot too, it's pretty 50/50 up till the end. At first they play really nicely. My male cat can play roughly with us for example, but he is a lot more gentle with her since she is smaller and slightly younger.

However, at one point, she is just done with him and wants to rest. He doesnt understand that. So she takes more drasticate measures, like hissing and hitting him harder. He somehow reads those signs as 'lets play more roughly'. And we have to seperate them. And it always escalates eventually.

We seperate them each time the playing goes on for too long. And try to reintroduce them, as some sites suggested to break hyperfixation, but the moment they see eachother they play again. No matter how long or short their time out was.

How do we break this cycle? How do I teach my male that she's saying stop? And how do I get them to stop playing the moment they see eachother?

We adopted a kitten around a month and a half ago (she’s 6 months old). The rescue recommended that we give her wet food, so we’ve been splitting an 85g pouch into 3 meals per day. She also has kibble available.
Her poop fluctuates between really soft and then sometimes firm. It’s honestly so frustrating because she steps in it when she tries to cover it, no matter the consistency! 😐

We’ve been helping her out of the litter box before she even tries to cover it, but in the early mornings we sometimes don’t hear her using it, and by the time we notice, it’s too late.

We’re also looking at getting a bigger litter box to give her more space and hopefully help prevent her from stepping in it. Then we are also thinking of changing the food, I don’t know.

Does anyone have any tips or advice?

Bonjour,
J’ai 4 chats : une femelle de 5 ans, une femelle de 3 ans et deux frères mâles d’environ 1 an, adoptés ensemble en mai 2026.
Les deux femelles se sont toujours très bien entendues, malgré des caractères assez différents. La femelle de 5 ans est plutôt introvertie, elle montre quand elle en a marre, mais elle est aussi très douce et attentive. La femelle de 3 ans est quant à elle une vraie boule de poils, très joyeuse et gentille.
Les deux mâles étaient très timides au début, mais sont maintenant très gentils et tout se passait bien.

Le problème concerne surtout la femelle de 3 ans : les deux mâles ont commencé à beaucoup s’intéresser à elle et à la poursuivre tous les deux.

Avec la femelle de 5 ans, en revanche, ça se passe plutôt bien. Ils peuvent rester tous les trois dans la même pièce sans problème. S’ils vont trop loin et commencent à l’embêter, elle leur répond (elle crache/se défend) et ils arrêtent généralement de l’embêter. Je n’ai donc pas vraiment ce problème avec elle.

Avec la femelle de 3 ans, c’est différent. Les mâles peuvent parfois se mettre à un endroit et l’empêcher de passer. Si elle descend l’escalier, ils peuvent se mettre en bas et commencer à lui courir après.
Elle reste donc généralement dans le bureau à l’étage avec nous. Même lorsque nous ne sommes pas là, on a l’impression qu’elle préfère y rester.
J’ai également retrouvé des pipis dans l’arbre à chat à l’étage. Je me demande donc si elle n’a parfois tout simplement pas assez confiance pour descendre faire ses besoins.

J’ai donc installé une litière, de l’eau et des croquettes à l’étage pour qu’elle ait au moins accès à ses ressources sans devoir passer devant eux.

Tout à l’heure, je la caressais tranquillement quand l’un des mâles est monté vers nous. Elle lui a immédiatement craché dessus. Du coup, je me demande si elle commence à devenir agressive envers eux parce qu’elle se sent harcelée, ou si leur comportement est au contraire une réaction à son comportement.

J’ai aussi installé un Feliway Friends, mais je ne sais pas encore si ça aura un quelconque effet.

Que feriez-vous à ma place ? Est-ce que je devrais les séparer davantage et faire une réintroduction progressive ? Leur apprendre à ne plus la poursuivre ? Les laisser gérer leurs interactions tant qu’il n’y a pas de véritable bagarre ?
Je suis surtout inquiete qu’elle commence à avoir peur de descendre de l’étage ou d’accéder à certaines ressources à cause des deux mâles.

Merci d’avance pour votre aide ❤️

Hi there, looking for some guidance & feedback with how my cat introduction is going...

Resident cat: 1 year and 4 month old tuxedo female. She has a bit of "single kitten syndrome", she was the only surviving kitten from her litter and was found abandoned at 5 weeks. She was with a foster family until 8 weeks old, and they had 3 adult cats and she enjoyed playing with them (though they kind of hated her lol). I think they adopted her out to me a week early cause she kind of struggles with bite inhibition, and she's overall very skittish with new people, prone to startling, etc. She also is a hands off cat that barely tolerates petting at best but she'll initiate cuddling with my legs sometimes

New cat: 7 month old male kitten. He is extremely outgoing and confident- huge play and food drive, total cuddle bug.

Im on week 3 of introductions. I've been going the Jackson Galaxy route with my introduction- did the scent swapping, site swapping, visual access and then attempted contact today. During visual access, I thought things were going pretty well. At first my resident cat came off as aggressive cause she'd leap at the screen door towards the kitten at times, but then she'd roll on her side and belly and that made it seem like play? She's always been a fan of rougher play so I thought she was just coming on a bit strong...

Kitten seems pretty unbothered by her antics, he'll match her energy. Though she spooks sometimes when he jumps towards her in the same fashion she does. She did hiss at him with the screen door at one point- we were playing with a toy and her and the kitten both leapt for it at the same time and their heads ended up close to each other and she was not happy about that lol. But overall there'd only been a handful of hisses, lots of seemingly ok play, and they'd even nap together on their respective sides of the screen.

They were acting chill today and had both been worn out with tons of play, so I thought I'd try allowing contact. At first it seemed ok, they sniffed each other, kitten went to go explore, she didn't chase after him or anything, and I tried to keep her focused on a toy. And that worked for a minute and then she just focused on him, gave a small hiss, and I redirected them both to the living room. We did more play there, but all of a sudden, she puffed up, hissed and lunged to swat at him. It wasn't like in the scary "I'm trying to kill you" way, but she was definitely unhappy. Kitten didn't seem too bothered honestly- he walked a few feet away, hid under a chair for 10 seconds, and then started running around and jumping in what seemed a playful manner?

Anyway I'm backtracking to limited visual access now. I left the door very slightly cracked (screen still on) and they were both acting unbothered and playful through the crack again.

Anyway I guess I'm looking for reassurance and advice on how to make that transition from screen to no screen. And input on if there were any red flags in their screen door interactions

Hello! I'm looking for help on getting my boy to use the new litter box we recently got. I've kept it on sleep mode so the sifting wont scare him, he has seen our other cats use it just fine, and is able to be inside of it without a problem but he just won't use it. I've tried Dr. Elsey's cat litter attractant and that hasnt helped.

Any advice appreciated!

Hi guys! I adopted a senior cat (he’s 14) almost a year ago. I’ve been somewhat lenient in his behavior because I’m honestly not sure how to handle him. He is really bad about climbing on counters/tables where he isn’t supposed to, he eats every plant around the house, and he recently pooped on my floor that he has never done before (he ALWAYS uses his litter box). He’ll eat food or drink milk if it’s left alone for more than 10 seconds. I left him with my roommate this weekend and came home to a destroyed room (tv, lamp, picture frame on the floor, some other things knocked down where he was in places he wasn’t supposed to be). I’m just not sure where to even begin with his behavior. It might be worth also mentioning he’s the most vocal cat me, or anyone I know has ever heard. I try to play with him twice daily, but he’s not always interested. Any advice?

TLDR; My senior adopted cat has bad indoor cat behaviors, and I’m not sure how to break them.

I adopted these two Chaos gremlins about 3 months ago as a bonded pair.

They're 1 and 2yo Maine coons and generally super awesome kitties.

The cats I had during my childhood always slept in my lap while I was gaming, reading or watching TV. But those two just aren't comfortable with sitting/laying on people. Yuki, the white cloud sleeps next to me and occasionally uses my arm as a pillow.

I've started training with Taro to jump on my lap, and he responds very well to the training, but won't stay long after the treats run out. He actually learns quite quickly and already knows 6 tricks with minimal training.

I understand that every cat has a different personality and some just aren't lap cats, so I'm well aware that those two might never give me the experience of almost suffocating at 3am because a 25lbs gremlin decided that my chest is a good bed, but maybe there's something I can do to encourage them to consider my lap a resting spot.

Please help, my patience is so thin at the moment. My 2 year old ginger cat won’t stop opening my kitchen and bedroom doors. I have to barricade myself in my bedroom every night with a chair behind it as jumps on the handle to get in. But the main issue is the kitchen.

I came down this morning to find the door open and he’d pulled out 8 sachets of food from the box on the counter and ate them all. I’ve tried putting a hoover in front of the handle, rested a baby gate against it, a baking tray filled with water, boxes blocking it, tin foil on the handle, a baby lock and so many other things. But he still figures it out. He’s extremely food obsessed and been fat since he got neutered which I’m trying to work on. He also bullies his sister, chases her round and pins her down when he’s hungry. I struggle to give him toys because my dog chews them all.

My fiancé (39M) and I (37F) are reaching a wall with cat introductions and could really use some advice or shared experiences from anyone who’s been through something similar.

Here is the setup:

* Resident Cat: Peanut (11.5F). She is extremely timid, scared, and skittish by nature, and always has been. Her primary "safe zone" is actually hiding inside the living room couch on the 1st floor. She is not food-motivated at all, which makes classic trick-and-treat counter-conditioning nearly impossible.

* New Arrivals: Cosmo (M) and Pixie (F), two 4.5-month-old kittens. They are full of energy, super restless in their room, and very eager to explore and play with her.

Where we are at:

We’ve had mesh screen doors installed for over a month. Peanut will walk by and hiss, but mostly she just stays on the 1st floor and avoids the screen area completely.

When we tried letting the kittens out for face-to-face time, the intensity escalated quickly near Peanut's couch area, so we immediately stepped back to screen-only interactions.

The current dilemma:

To let the kittens stretch their legs and explore the rest of the house, we tried carrying Peanut upstairs to a spare bedroom while the kittens roamed downstairs. However, moving her makes her extremely stressed because it takes her away from her couch cave.

I feel terrible for Peanut because she's terrified, but I also feel awful for the kittens being cooped up in one room when they have so much energy to burn.

A few specific questions for the community:

* How do you do counter-conditioning or positive association when the resident cat turns her nose up at food, Churus, and treats?

* How do you manage room swaps or territory expansion when the resident cat panics about being moved away from her safe hiding spot?

* Has anyone successfully integrated hyper kittens with an older, highly fearful cat? How long did it take for things to settle down?

Any tips, routine adjustments, or success stories would mean the world to us right now!

NOTE: I’ve stitched three clips together to show what their interactions are usually like. First one is her reciprocating, the other two are him going after her.

OK SOOOO:
I’ve got a neutered 1.5yo male Sphynx and recently brought home a 12-week-old female Sphynx kitten.

We did scent swapping, room swapping, cracked door, then face-to-face. There are loads of positive signs. He licks her sometimes, chortles at her, slow blinks, they play together, can eat about 60cm apart, and he can walk away from her.

BUT he is absolutely obsessed with her and has zero chill 😂

Whenever she runs, he’ll chase her. Sometimes he catches her, basically topples her over, does a quick 1 to 2 second bite on the neck, then lets go and retreats to watch her. She doesn’t cry or struggle, but I can tell she’s not a fan of it.

He also seems to LOVE when she goes into small or tight spaces because he’ll follow her and basically try to corner her.

Their play can get rough because his energy just builds and builds. He’ll lick her then nibble her, stalk her, run over her, etc. Most of the time she’s really tolerant and will play or swipe back, but he doesn’t always seem to understand her limits. If she does cry, he doesn’t necessarily stop, so we intervene.

We’ve separated them twice when he got way too excited, including one time where he basically held her and started bunny kicking. She didn’t really react, but she’s tiny compared to him so we broke it up.

The main thing worrying me is that he NEVER relaxes around her. He won’t sleep or properly settle when she’s there. We can play with him loads and feed him beforehand, but apparently the kitten instantly restores his energy bar 😂 Even if she’s just sitting doing nothing, he has to go over, give her a swat, light bite on the neck, walk away, then come back again. The longer the face to face goes on the more riled up he gets

Has anyone had something similar? Did the obsession or novelty eventually wear off? I can’t tell if this is fairly normal young-cat and kitten behaviour or if his energy and play style are just going to be too much for her.

My partner is in the process of moving into my apartment.

I have a bonded pair of 4 year old cats (the resident cats) and she’s bringing a 14 year old female (new cat).

We began the Jackson galaxy method today (putting new cat in her own room seperate from the resident cats with absolutely no contact). Since the new cat has arrived, one of my resident cats has been experiencing a lot of redirected stress towards my other resident cat. There’s been a few incidents where my aggressive resident cat has hissed at, hit, bit, and chased after my other resident cat.

We suspect it’s because the aggressive resident cat can smell/sense the new cat in the house, and our other resident cat is simply the only target available.

I have no idea where to go from here, any direction would be highly appreciated.

Hi. Maybe you can help me. Thank you in advance for all the advice.

One of my 3 cats has already left home (looks like for good. I still have 2 male cats who used to play together, but no more.

I have a male tabby cat, a very gentle creature who accepts every other cat, but is being bullied by my orange cat. He doesn't want to enter through the cat door anymore, he only comes home to eat and greet me (he literally does me favors by sitting in my lap for a while and then leaves), he doesn't sleep where he used to sleep before, actually he doesn't sleep at home at all. It's summertime now, but I know for a fact that winter doesn't bother cats when they're offended.

I would take the orange cat back to his previous home (he still goes there to fight other cats), but he's just so crazy, unpredictable, forceful and I also know that he ran away from there because he was abused one way or another (when he came to me, he was afraid of hands). He adores me, gives me hugs and kisses literally every time I feed him, sleeps with me.

It just breaks my heart.

Thank you in advance.

I absolutely love plants, the problem is… my kittens are very interested in chewing on them (no worries, all the toxic ones are in a separate room for now) At this point, I’m starting to think I’ll have to get rid of my plants that are toxic to cats.

But then I keep seeing aesthetic apartments online full of houseplants (including my favorite pothos!) where people also have cats. It makes me wonder, are there really cats that just never chew on plants?

If your cat used to do this, how did you train them to stop?

To anyone who has gone through misdirected aggression with their cats (especially those who had a bonded pair prior to the aggression) how long did it take you to reintroduce them and how are they doing now? Did their relationship ever go back to how it was before? I’m heart broken that I’m going through this with my 2 year old bonded males right now and it’s so heartbreaking. I worry I will never be able to have them together again safely and that they will always be skittish and stressed.

My partner's cat is a very affectionate guy, around 6 years old but still very active and excitable. He loves sleeping on the pillow with me, is very food motivated and generally wants attention like many other cats. In general he is very affectionate and loving.

The issue is he wants A LOT of attention. Being a deaf cat, he seems to vocalize a lot to interact with anything and everything, and is always quick to greet when you enter the room and wants to be petted. When he doesn't get this attention, he yowls very loudly and repeats until he gets tired--this behavior is not rewarded with petting or even looking at him, and oftentimes I will leave the room to discourage this, but none of this seems to have any effect.

He also gets pretty aggressive with playing pretty quickly. And he also basically never gets tired of playing! I've yet to see him ignore the wand unless food is involved, he'll keep going even if he's tired. Play time is always with toys, but he has a nasty habit of going after my hands and arms and sometimes feet. I've tried many typical things, like ending playtime, leaving the room, hiding my hands, no attention, etc. When leaving the room he'll yowl for quite a while, take a break then yowl some more, going for upwards of 20-30 minutes.

His attention demands are consistently excessive, or seem so to me, but he gets a lot of attention already. He is a solo cat, and does get playtime, but it's possible he's just at a social deficit. And the play aggression stuff just seems to be that he's quick to get overstimulated and has basically no self-control. Any suggestions?

Title basically says it all. I got a kitten 2 months ago and since then my senior cat spends most of his day downstairs away from her. He used to be so vocal and hang with me all day. They get along, she’s just very annoying. Always jumping on him and smothering him. When will she grow out of this annoying phase? Will it get better???? I can’t take this much longer. I’m not sure what to do. I feel so guilty. It’s breaking my heart. Has anyone dealt with this before? 😞

Hi everyone! I was looking to get some experiences from people who have introduced a 6 week old female orange kitten to a 1 year old male orange resident cat!

Long story short, I will be picking up a new kitten this week and I’m super excited and probably over prepared with all my stuff from when I got my first kitten about a year ago! I was looking for some pointers beyond the take it slow introductions. The plan would be for the new girl kitten to be housed in the bathroom with her own litter box, toys, and food and water fountain until the boy cat and her get used to each other, then house them together in my bedroom at night and through the house during the day!

Currently in the house I have my 1 year old male orange tabby who hasn’t really been around other cats, but is very social and very playful. We also have two dogs who enjoy being around the cat and try to include him when they play (the cat likes being bullied)

Can’t wait to hear all the tips anyone can provide!

I have two kittens, siblings, 6 months old and recently spayed/neutered. They are bundles of energy, but unfortunately that energy sometimes gets redirected at the wrong things.

Small context: I've had cats my whole life, but never indoor only kittens (my other cat was already a year old when he became indoor only, also he doesn't live with me anymore).

So, I've tried since the beginning of owning them to give them toys and stimulation to ensure that they DON'T become destructive. They have places to hide, places to climb safely, a bunch of boxes and toys and slow feeders to try and exercise their nature and instincts on something positive. They also get played with regularly and play with each other.

Here's the problem: they are menaces when it comes to any random things they can access. We've closed off two rooms: the kitchen (besides feeding time) and the bedroom (where we now hide items that they were playing with that weren't their toys). I can hide tiny things away to avoid them stealing them (to an extent; I have no where else to put my bookshelf and they love climbing that too), but the biggest issue started a few weeks ago: they're destroying my walls.

They're classical German walls and they have texture. They are also kind of cheaply made and my cats' favourite scratching post (despite the fact they have multiple others).

I have no way to stop them from doing this. We've tried redirecting them, blowing air at them (to imitate hissing?), nothing really works. Even if they stop doing it while I'm in the room, they'll do it overnight. All the classical tricks are impossible to use (moving the item where they can't teach it, for example) so I'm just lost as to what to do about it.

We're already going to have to repair the walls before we move out, but I'd still really like to know if there's any way to get these tendencies out of them. Also is there any hope they grow out of behaviours such as these?

i'm asking because i'm reading conflicting things.

my kitten is turning 12 weeks old and so far i've been checking in on her during my lunch breaks and feeding her. apparently after 12 weeks old you should transition them to 3 meals a day? so i've been wondering how necessary it is.

she gets along really well with my resident cat so she's not alone for a whole 8h either + i kitten-proofed my entire apartment.
when would be the appropriate time to start getting her used to my absence for a workday? she does play a lot on her own and with my resident cat.

i'm not in a rush or anything but would like more chill lunchbreaks soon lmao