r/CPTSD • u/travel_introvert • Dec 30 '25

Question Boundary Setting Phrases/Responses to Subtle Digs

Give me your favorite boundary setting phrases in response to subtle digs. Digs that aren’t hugely overtly offensive, but given history with a person, you know they are being passive aggressive. Often, these subtle digs that are handed out by people with whom you are forced to have interaction with, so “just cutting them out of your life” isn’t always an option. Please give me your favorite responses!

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u/MrsTurnPage Dec 30 '25

Just, "You said that out loud."

If its a text then respond, "Can you reword that? Its not making sense."

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u/paramnesya Dec 30 '25

LOVE “you said that out loud”.

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u/MrsTurnPage Dec 31 '25

I find a lot of people have just never been rebuffed. A good manipulator has gradually trained their manipulatee to not speak back over time. And they've done it so well for years or decades they dont realize how evil they've gotten. Holding up that mirror does wonders.