Women's PG with strict rules, male landlord, no man allowed rule, mostly male staff and women washing their own cloths and cleaning their own rooms because there is male staff?
Better check if there ain't a camera in the mf bathroom(serious) also check if your door has a seriously good lock from the inside and not the outside.
I am of the belief that training to teach people to search for things in their houses should be common. Kind like spy movies and such but everyone has this knowledge
I agree nobody should have to(unless you are like a war criminal or genuine monster) but its a fucked up world so preventative measures are all we can do.
That not even stupid specific life event, that just sad relatable life event
im tired of this bullcrap, i have a university that very far from my home and most of the student apartments i go through have a sign saying "only for girls".
thank to GOD that my grandparent home is close to it or else i would crashed out for ENTIRE FUCKING YEAR
And in the EU too, but the thing is, its only gonna be a breach if someone reports it. Most of us just scroll past it cose its almost always a creep looking for a wife who pays to be there.
(In uni there was an ad for one where id have to have no guests over unless they were also women, help with cleaning his house I was meant to live in, and had a curfew)
My first thought if a guy is renting only to women is to be extremely concerned and assume he put cameras all over the house. I shouldn't have that as my first thought, but I don't think I am alone in thinking like this either.
Except itās okay again because the prophet that didnāt like the word Mormon is dead now. Now theyāre suing a podcast because apparently they own the legal rights to the word.
I'm pretty sure the only reason i got my current apartment is because of that, but what the landlord doesn't know is that im taking testosterone and don't look like a girl anymore
Believe me trans women don't get an easier time of this - they just go "oooh actually we meant AFAB only" which is a lovely woke way of calling trans women men
Iām in a situation like this. Male only living space. I just took my first dose of estrogen yesterday. We will see how long I can last here because the rent and location are great and itās a unicorn landlord that lives on location and takes care of all the problems in the house themself. I donāt want to leave but I am not going another day without doing HRT just to live here.
I mean, you can just kinda lie to your landlord and say you're a dude that just happens to take estrogen, or at the very least genderfluid so you're always male when you live there. No matter what angle he'd take you'd come on top since your sex is on paper as male, and if going by gender you decide.
There's people who take testosterone and estrogen for health reasons, where their natural body balance is out of whack, but them taking or not taking those doesn't change their gender, so any BS about having x amount of estrogen/testosterone in you would be complete bs as a reason to kick you out.
And like /u/pleasehelpteeth said, depending on the size of what it is, you are allowed to discriminate in the US. If it if your home, or you own a small number of apartments, or the apartments are connected to your living space (like a twoflat or something) you are allowed to discriminate.
i know i'm being very stupid when i ask this, but why do female landlords do this? as far as i'm aware the tenant isn't living WITH the landlord so i don't understand exactly the danger. i ask this because i am an idiot so please understand i'm not asking this in mean spirit
Understandable doesn't mean good, just that I can understand why. I am now irrationally wary of older men due to being SAed by one and can't really get rid of it, which also led to fear of getting old, so I get it
Nah I mean, I understand it too. I'm just saying it's kind of funny and very sad how it's acceptable, but if we changed "men" to "black/white/hispanic/etc." people, it would suddenly change the tone dramatically, although it's EXACT same thing.
Prejudice and all that.
But nah, I am not blaming you for seeking comfort and safety, everyone wants that. Sadly we have double standards about what is acceptable and what isn't.
In any case I do understand why it would be needed. I'd rather see people who got assaulted live in environment where they feel completely safe, rather than drown in stress having to live next to people who remind them of the assault every day.
It is sexist, but I'm ok with that. We as a society aren't ready to move past rape/murder/etc.
Off topic, I have no clue why your comments are disliked so much
What itās both sexism AND feeling safe, what if itās wholeheartedly prejudice thatās justifiable? Why does it always have to be either/or, why not both/and?
Almost didn't get place of residence in other city which would fuck up with higher education. I UNDERSTAND when female landlords do this (with male landlords pure creepyness), but it's consequences are not just hurt feelings
And insinuation that safety only possible with other women is weird, it would, too, be a feeling. Feeling of safety, but still feeling
I was searching for renting a room, not the whole flat, and it's usually just people who's children grew up and they have spare room (or otherwise just someone with only one flat), so... Yeah
I have it the other way, a woman landlord that rents out exclusively to men, and I live there. She says it's "because men are less trouble to deal with" which eh take it as you will idk
Honestly itās just a real problem. Coming back to the US the city I was going to had post after post looking for roommate and the grand majority of them were restricted to women.Ā
Less than half of people using reddit are from USA, therefore majority of redditors are non-American. While singularly other countries have less people, when we look at entirety of reddit if you assume someone is American the likelihood of you being right is somewhat less than you guess the side of the coin when flipped, which are not good odds
Except you don't guess whether the person is from US or a SPECIFIC other country, it would be useless. You guess whether they are from US or not from US and most of the time, they are not
I'm not saying what you can do, I'm saying what you do. By guessing someone is from a specific country, the opposite is them not being from that country, not them being from a specific other country, since this is what determines whether you'd be right or wrong. When there isn't an option that is absolute majority of over 50% it is statistically better to NOT assume specific option, since whatever option you assume, you'll be wrong more often than not
Considering I've been looking for the room, not the whole flat, it was their only home owned, therefore if we'd get rid of anything like that you'd have renting as your ONLY option. Renting from the GOVERNMENT as only landlord. Regulation of the amount of living space owned, and conditions on which it can be rented, is the must, but getting rid of home-owning as a whole would give government too much power that I personally don't trust it with
I got my room in my current house (kinda) this way. It was an all-girl four bedroom house, but one of the room mates transitioned and no longer looked like a girl by the time he moved out. So like it turned into a three girl one boy house I guess.
The weird thing? It wasn't even my female roommate's idea. It was the landlord's. His rationale was that he only wanted one person per room, and girls are less likely to move their boyfriends in so he made that rule to avoid that problem. It was stupid. Anyway my roommates and I get along and we're great friends now.
As a chick I also hate womens-only rent spots. I understand having a couple, but at least in my city there's multiple 5+ floor apartment complexes for women/men only.
It's either that or it's for students only, which I also understand why you'd want a couple around town, but every other online listing having "(prioritizes student applicants)" at the very bottom pmo so bad.
I get having maybe a handful of houses or apartment complexes being dedicated to a specific group of people, but as someone trying to find an apartment for my family (which includes my father and middleschool-aged sibling), it's a pain in the ass.
Especially since we're low income, and all the affordable apartments (under $1200/mo) are either way on the outskirts of town and out of catchment for my school (that I need to attend for it's disability & flexibility programs), or are student/men/women only.
Some also state they "are looking for **insert race/religion/origin country here** applicants", which is absolutely wild when most the buildings aren't in areas of the city that are intended or primarily consist of those groups. Also really illegal but I've never heard of a landlord caring about following the law.
Anyways, this is really specific but since I'm looking for a place it pmtfo.
Well there was this show about two guys living in an all-women apartment building. It was called Bosom Buddies. It starred an unknown called Tom Hanks. Whatever happened to him?
Had the same problem here in Czechia. I am going to uni and there wasn't enough dorms and I didn't get in. Tried to look for housing elsewhere but 90% were women only and the rest were too expensive. Had the to get one through my uncle who has a lot of connections in the city.
that's just an unreasonable assumption. from what I've seen most landlords who only rent to women do it die to the stigma that young men cause havoc and are a pain to deal with.
In my city landlords(i was renting while being poor student) like "when i checking you, walls must be solid, and floor must not have non-expected holes, i wont tolerate 15 illegal migrants living with you and mails from police, if you making moonshine here, i want a share, everything other is allowed"
This reminds me of a situation I was in. I had a roommate interview with a woman. She told me that while I was her second choice, she decided to go with another young woman as she thought it would be a better match.
Like five years later, I join a bicycling club and I became friends with someone who turned out to be that young woman who was selected over me, and she said I dodged a massive bullet with the original owner. Turns out my gender saved me from a bad roommate situation.
ngl tho, as a trans woman you could never tell apart, this is sadly true. This is not men whining or some bs like that. State of our society. blink blink puppy eyes, often not even that, and you get the benefit unless you are ugly. Hey I am just observing and have been for good 18 years with those differences. It is not all situatons. But rent, police, guards, social security, haggling and so on almost certainly. Good for me but it still upsets me. It should not make a difference.
In Spain it's pretty common in student apartments. The landlord/landlady doesn't live in the apartment. I rented a room for a few months from a woman who only rented to girls and according to her it's because she had a bad experience cleaning wise with a bunch of male students. She didn't kick them out but basically decided that from that point on, she would only take female tenants and she has been happy with the change. Of course, not all women are clean and not all men are dirty, not at all. But I have to say that in my experience, a female only apartment is typically much cleaner. Not all because all the female tents are clean, but because at least 1 or 2 are, so they compensate for the rest if they don't clean much. Both my partner and a male friend have experienced being the only dude that cleans anything in their respective shared apartments and it's hell. They weren't male-exclusive apartments either, but since there are many female-only apartments, gender neutral ones typically fill up with dudes and women don't want to live there anymore (the exception to that is groups of friends to rent toguether, there are many mixed friend groups).
It isn't allowed on theory, but it is on practice. I'm not saying I agree, but I do understand. Sadly, I think it is inevitable. Plus many women would rather live with women than with unknown men (myself included) so it will just keep happening.
Idk but I have had shared an apartment with people of multiple nationalities. Regarding my landlady she had rooms rented to a middle-eastern girl (I don't remember which country exactly), a chinese girl, a japanese girl... She had also previously rented to a couple of African guys, who weren't the ones that motivated the change btw, rather regular white male students. I wouldn't say she was a bad person.
Just because you don't bat an eye at discrimination doesn't make her a bad person. If a man refused to rent to women, that's misogyny. She's a bad person full stop.
I mean. Iām not going to administrate your personal history, as itās one example among many.Ā
I too have an example of the experience of a man looking for a room to rent, itās not very positive.Ā
The three postings that were available when I was looking for a room in the East Coast USA, were a frat house, another without parking available, and one other choice that I originally intended to go with, but they had a mold issue on the property.Ā
Had my girlfriend d vouch for me with some other postings due to the limited availability of spaces for men.Ā
Eventually found one really great place, but if I didnāt have someone equipped with a vagina vouching for me, I would have been stuck with some terrible options.Ā
I think this is a privilege I can acknowledge that women have in society that men currently do not.Ā
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