recently checked into my first ever ship and I have been struggling a lot. I genuinely feel that I am not good at anything and while I am ahead of my quals, I am significantly behind someone that checked in at the same time as me. Despite being relatively new, I have made very poor impressions on the wardroom and captain and started to isolate myself from them. I feel hopeless and everyday feels like a battle. Did anyone else go through something similar or have any advice?

Currently an E5 and been in 8 years and currently on a tour for 4 years with this tour taking me to my 12th year. If im being honest im really not trying to play the whole game with picking an undesirable billet to rank up. Im just going to wait until an E6 billet opens up and try and take that one. After that I’m more than likely going to get out and go reserves and go contracting. This last cycle on the last NWAE (Fall 2025) before the first RKE I maxed out at an 80 (99th percentile) and had over a 4.0 rsca scoring a 150 but I still didn’t make it. Any other time in my career that would’ve been enough to make E6 with flying colors. They implemented the way for BBA so it felt like a big slap in the face. It’s not worth it to me anymore especially if I want to start the chase to make chief. This program is no doubt filling the gaps in the fleet but I feel like it’s definitely at the cost and expense of a lot of E5s that have been in for a while. Maybe I need some perspective? Kind of just a rant because I’m honestly burnt out and rather would get out happy than be bummed out for the rest of my career.

We are a small command less than 50 people and we are doing an actual holiday party for the first time in a few years. I have never organized one until now. We are in Japan. Please give me some ideas for gifts we have a gift budget of about $1500 no one wants TVs, Switches or VR headsets. What are some gifts you have seen or wished were at holiday parties that you thought were cool? Thank you!

I think liberty cuffs is one that I wish i could see more of.

so i officially joined the navy last year in august and the only reason why i joined was because my grandpa was in the navy and also cause i barely graduated high school so i thought “f it this is my only option” so i joined through the whole meps process i was having thoughts of backing out but i already told my friends and family i was gonna commit so i felt that i had to now it’s to the point where i feel so depressed im currently in newport news va in the yards and everyday i have to come to the ship it makes me feel so depressed and drained and when i go home to my wife i feel so much better and that only last for a little cause when i get home after i shower i realize have to go back the next day and it makes me not even wanna eat cause im so depressed i lay down and cant even sleep cause IM so stressed about coming to work the next day and then when i do fall asleep i have dreams about not waking back up ive gone on leave and i cant even enjoy myself cause im already thinking about when i have to come back like this is all i think about my wife tells me that i seem different and it sucks to not be the husband i want to be i don’t k ke what do to anymore i don’t wanna tell them im suicidal and then they send me to a physic ward i just don’t know i miss home so much i miss my family and just being here is draining i feel like im aging so much faster than i should be and it sucks if anyone has any advice on what to do or how to get out pleas help me dm me separately or something cause i cant do this anymore call me weak minded i dont care i cant do it please help me

E5. 6 years in. Single. Currently on a ship and decided ship life is not for me. I'd like to go LDO when I make First and I'd likely be back on a ship. After my shore tour, that'll put me at 10. I want to get my degree in the next four years. The only things that have kept me in is, the job security and medical/dental healthcare, the routine, and the fact that things have been going well for me so far.

There are certain that l dislike about the military and have wondered if I want to do this for the next 14 years. Having to study for exams, performing just to get good evals, deployments, being responsible for things that others did, leading others, DC and out-of-rate quals, etc. I know there would be things in a civilian job that I wouldn't like as well, but I sometimes feel as though the military is a different beast.

What made you decide to stay in or what made you want to get out? Was the other side greener for you? What should I consider before getting out or staying in?

I'm looking for the name of the program (and possibly a link to the instruction/MILPERSMAN) governing keeping my BAH in my current location temporarily after I PCS due to my wife and son staying in our current residence/location for ~90 days before joining me on Accompanied Orders.

The program is separate from OHA, TLA, TLE and DLA.

I remember seeing the possibility of this before I left my last command 6 months ago, but I've been on leave for the last 4 months (a good mix of detailer assistance setting up my PCS, Paternity Leave, Convalescent Leave, and regular leave) and after not thinking about it for so long, I've totally forgotten how to find it again!

Any help is appreciated!

As we pulled into the mouth of the Thames River, this pulled up next to us and stayed abreast all the way until we turned into the ferry landing. General Dynamics and the sub base at Gales Ferry are within swimming distance.

Anyone know what type this is?

Navy Reserves here. Just returned home after three weeks and doing my expenses. I have my receipts so no worries there. Used my GTCC for everything except for a few places that didn’t accept credit cards for lunch / dinner but that’ll be per diem anyway.

A couple of questions:

I know I have to separate taxes out from the hotel and rental car but the receipts are just in EUROS. What’s the best way for me to do that?

I’m guessing I just look up the conversion rate on the day of the transaction and hope the numbers work out to match the final charge on the CC statement. (That’s going to be a total pain in the ass.) Or I could calculate the tax rate in EUROS (tax / total in euros) then multiple that by the USD amount.

I just don’t want to do this and then it get kicked back a half dozen times.

Hello all, I am currently trying to convert my SGLI to a VGLI and I am running into an issue where because they cut me my DD214 “early” for skillbridge, so I wouldn’t have to come back, they did not put my correct sep date and instead put my skill bridge start date. To convert your SGLI to a VGLI you have a window and I’m past it due to this when in reality I officially separated on 180 days later than that.

I remember pointing this out when I was heading for terminal leave and everyone acted like it wasn’t a big deal. Dumb me, now I need it fixed and have no CoC to inquire with. Who would handle something like this?

For all my Hawaiians or people from Hawaii on the East Coast, Oceana Commissary has them. Buy them so they stick around!

I’m in the navy, I want to get a scorpion with rose tattoo on my hand. The first tattoo is the one I want. The second photo is the placement I want.

Do yall see anything wrong with this? Just wanted to ask and get some help before I do it. I have a wrist, shoulder, and rib tattoo already.

I may possibly be going to my first ship (DDG), but I have sleep apnea and use a CPAP. Has anyone's seen someone with a CPAP on a ship or is it a disqualifying condition for sea service?

Hey everyone,
​I’m a enthusiast who recently got into USN flight decks, and I’m currently building a green jersey crewman loadout for VFA-211, early 2000s. I want to make it realistic as possible and would love some input from anyone who spent time on the deck or someone who knows something about it.
​I have a few specific questions:

​1) I bought a VFA-211 green vest (first picture). Does the black vertical stripe on the back signify a specific role like a maintainer or is it just cosmetic?
​2) I’m currently customizing my own helmet and mocked up a tape design (second picture). I want to incorporate the black and white troubleshooter checkered pattern but also keep the VFA-211 red in there. Is a layout like this realistic for the early 2000s?
​3) Can green jerseys actually be troubleshooters, or is that exclusively a white jersey role? I saw a video (third picture) of a green jersey wearing the black and white checkered pattern with "2T" on the cranial, which is what inspired this specific build and which I'd like to be.
4) Is there a list of the roles or letters that are on the cranials? Like M(aintenance), W(eapons), O(rdnance), etc. I would like to portray the right role on the deck considering the markings on the vest I bought.

Thanks much in advance for any help you guys can provide! I'll be glad to hear some extra info, fun facts or your personal experiences, too :)

As the fiscal year comes to a close I still haven’t been paid for dets I’ve been on. I have the right account and routing number and even gave a paper copy to admin and it still goes eft return. I’m staring at about 3500 through a window right now after almost 7 or 8 months of back and forth. Could I just get a paper check or something from dts? Or am I gonna be stuck and fucked?

How many civilian companies would be allowed to get away with something this negligent?