r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Friendly_Table455 • 13h ago
Missing Peace He insisted on paying for dinner, then accused me of using him when I couldn’t see him the next day
Title pretty much speaks for itself. Am I missing something??
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u/WelshBen 13h ago
He's done you a favour and showed himself early. Count yourself lucky and never speak to him again.
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u/Vivid-Hyena-5699 13h ago
All of this for $38
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u/WelshBen 13h ago
He'll call it the principle, when in fact he's the one with no principles. Straight up delusion.
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u/DDHLeigh 13h ago
He'll be one of those that complain he can never find someone on dating apps.
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u/HeartOSass 11h ago
He would also be the one following you all around and putting some kind of tracker on your car. You dodged a huge bullet and you also save yourself from an episode on the ID Network!
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u/HopefulOriginal5578 9h ago
Yeah this has Dateline episode written all over it!
“It was a night like any other night when Cady, just getting home from what she thought was a lovely date… a date with a gentleman… until of course wasn’t…and make no mistake. This man Cady would soon find wasn’t a gentleman at all… in a case that would rock a town/city/neighborhood/community to its very foundation and where $38 would be the last of anyone’s worries…..”
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u/UCFKnights2018 13h ago
All of this for him not being able to buy his way into bed with her is more like it.
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u/Strange_Explorer_780 12h ago
For $38 nonetheless, the “I’m not seeing any sort of reciprocation on your behalf” line speaks volumes.
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u/Flammzzrant 11h ago
So does "I was being a gentleman" which means he isnt one and it's just an act
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u/Ok-Shop5719 10h ago
SPOT ON. if a man feels the need to TELL you he's a "gentleman"... run.
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u/FearanddopingII 9h ago edited 5h ago
Specifically because "that's what your profile said you wanted right?" = "I even wore the costume you liked"
Thanks for the awards yall
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u/majinspy 9h ago
"I was being a gentleman! You offer to pay, I pay instead, then you fuck me! Otherwise, you're being a bitch!"
Christ, what a shitbird.
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u/Astillius 10h ago
The gobshite seemed to think his paying 38 was sufficient for her to lose 300 by skipping work. You can't make that kind of stupid up.
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u/mackiea 9h ago
He fucking had OP, too. He just had to wait until next weekend, which is an eternity apparently.
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u/Wrong-Importance3670 8h ago
“But I want to see you tomorrow!!” *stomping feet
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u/BDiddnt 11h ago
I spend more on myself when I order DoorDash and that's real talk. I don't even go crazy or anything. I mean literally if you get one entree and one side from my favorite pizza place, you are spending $50. This guy is a tool
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u/foundinwonderland 11h ago
I was gonna say $38?? Did he take her to McDonald’s??
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u/Own-Brain9658 11h ago
I spent more than that on Taco Bell doordash for just myself two nights ago. Those cinnabon delights aren't cheap but they are worth it!
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u/Delicious_Anxiety174 10h ago
Right?! If dinner is payment for sex, which is absolutely what he's insinuating, then for $38, he doesn't set a very high value for a woman giving access to her body. Go see a sex worker, damn. At least then, he'd be honest about it.
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u/FearanddopingII 9h ago
Probably can't afford it. Not for the "type of girl" he wants anyway. He's using online dating as a type of budget tricking by coercion lol
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u/neverwrong804 11h ago
Fuckin wild. It’s like 2 movie tickets. Sounds like buddy is the one needs to be hitting the door dash on the weekends.
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u/the_original_kermit 13h ago
More like all of this because he couldn’t wait past one day to see her again.
Which, honestly, is kinda the first major red flag.
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u/Alarming_Definition9 13h ago edited 11h ago
100%! Guys like that always expect women to at least kiss them goodnight on the first date, but usually expect sex too. He likely got neither and is now pissed he didn't get another "chance" at sex with her the very next day.
It may not be all men, but it's almost always a man...
Edited to add emphasis on a word some keep missing when they read my comment.
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u/Citaszion 12h ago
I experienced that recently. A guy who approached me in a street, he seemed normal, pretty good looking, good conversation. We went on a coffee date right away, it went alright, then he invited to take me to a restaurant later that day, which I unfortunately accepted.
While at the restaurant, I told him kindly like 3 times that he wouldn’t be invited to go to my apartment after dinner, he basically ignored my attempts and kept on telling me what we were going to do tonight 🥴 I ended up having to raise my voice and say “I am going to go home alone tonight, and that’s something you’re gonna have to accept”, and only then he finally got it, and he looked visibly ANGRY. I then had to insist yet again so he doesn’t walk me home. I absolutely didn’t want him to know where I live and had no faith in him not forcing his way in.
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u/VividlyDissociating 12h ago
this happened to me before i even met the guy. it literally says on my profile that im not lookong for a hookup.
the first mention of anything sexual in the conversation and i explicitly made it know that we would not be doing anything of the sort on the first meet up nor anytime soon after that.
he acted like he understoond. claimed that he respected my boundary.
yet he kept bringing it up. at first i thought he was just making jokes, because thats how he was delivering it. but them i realized it was a "im joking but not really".
so after a few more of those i was like hey ik youre kinda just joking but i wanna make sure its understood that i still have zero plans on doing anything sexual with you when we meet up. and theres no way that is going to change
he was like yea okay sure but ya know anything can happen..
i was like i understand anything can happen bit im telling you rn that it isnt. it wont.
he got SOOOOO MAD. immediately aggressive. hostile. started insulting me. sent me a crybaby emoji and told me to go back to my ex since i miss him so much.
i was like wtf?? i made it very clear i dod not like my ex. i was only upset with how things ended.
i just blocked him. he then proceeded to go back to the dating app and belittle and harrass me NON-STOP for literally 17 hrs straight
AND then he had the nerve to VONE BACK WEEKS LATER and act like nothing a happened. no actual apology. just blame it on how he has no social life because hes given up his youth to care for his dying grandpa. he said it as though it meant he was obligated to sex
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u/Citaszion 11h ago
Claimed that he respected your boundary then insulted and harassed you for having the said boundary… these guys are so fucking stupid :’)
My weirdo then tried to flip the situation and save face right before we parted ways, by thanking me for not being the kind of woman who sleeps on the first date LOL I called him out on it, reminding him how much he insisted for us to go to my place and have sex and he said “there’s no harm in asking”. He absolutely didn’t ask, straight up just assumed and took it for granted then acted like a child when I told him no.
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u/whatsthataboutguy 13h ago
That's the Applebee's 2 for $25 plus a drink and tip... before you know it = $38
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u/ohhleo 13h ago
right when I thought he can't be this upset over $38 I read "can you venmo me the $38 back" 😭
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u/Big_b00bs_Cold_Heart 12h ago
I am dying laughing. Man thinks he put a down payment on 🐱with $38 ?!
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u/poormariachi 13h ago
lol a “nice” dinner. What a buffoon.
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u/Mountain_Strategy342 13h ago
$38 can buy a nice dinner if it is in good company, $38K isn't a nice dinner if it is with a fuckwit.
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u/Haunting-Molasses-56 12h ago
38 bucks is pizza and cokes in my area
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u/Mountain_Strategy342 12h ago
Noodles or a pasta dish maybe.
Quite happy to share a pizza and bottle of wine with the right person.
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u/peppermintmeow BLUE 12h ago
I've had a nice dinner of gas station snacks and a $5 Subway with the right person. I've also had a $350 a plate awful dinner with a rat box shitskid like this.
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u/MagicalGorl 13h ago
Come on, that is exorbitantly high, she should at the very least have put out after he chivalrously paid for her meal that way!!! /s
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u/onfroiGamer 13h ago
Dude really thought his $38 is worth more than her $300 she would make off work
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u/blood_bones_hearts 13h ago
It's really nice when the trash takes itself out, honestly.
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u/WelshBen 13h ago
Just a thought too - guys like this seem to be surprisingly common. I think they presume their outrageously courteous act of paying the $38 makes them quite the gentleman, and that you'll be jumping in bed with them immediately.
We can put it down to naivety, and hope they can grow from these experiences.
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u/ian9921 12h ago
It represents a total misunderstanding of how these social rituals are supposed to work. You are not buying anything and are owed nothing when you pay for a date or a drink or whatever, it's supposed to just be a gesture of kindness.
I don't know what fucked these other guys up so badly that they don't understand how kindness works.
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u/SheServedToo 11h ago
The thing is he was pretending to be what his idea of a “gentleman” is. “Isn’t that what you put in your profile?” Like the math isn’t mathing!
Gentleman = $38 dinner
$38 dinner = unlimited access on demand
Unlimited access = second date next day
Second date = sexy timeSo often men are pretending to be what we are looking for. If they know in advance what we require from a relationship, they will act the part. Then when their true colors are revealed, we wonder how we keep picking the wrong men.
Don’t put any specifics of what you are looking for in a partner on a profile and don’t tell a man what you want. Being vague will frustrate the ones with an agenda and more likely to reveal what they are really like since they aren’t molding into your description.
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u/TurnipWorldly9437 12h ago
He can't even do maths, or else he'd realise that IF she moved things around like he wanted to, she'd be out more money (losing the bonus) than he ever paid for dinner.
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u/Radioactivocalypse 13h ago
Trouble is, he will do this sort of thing with everyone he dates... and then someone will be a pushover and pay him back and cancel work to be with him. And then the abusive relationship can begin.
Good work in not bending to him, and you dodged the bullet nice and early
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u/saltyjohnson 8h ago
you dodged the bullet nice and early
Perhaps literally with this incel psycho
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u/beawwx 8h ago
Yeah looks very clearly like a manipulation tactic he has used before. It makes me sad, I can only hope no women fall for it.
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u/MovieTrawler 8h ago edited 7h ago
There should be some kind of app to share these dude's profiles so future women can see what he's like and steer clear well in advance.
Or even just a section on their profiles on Hinge or whatever. Something like, 'See what Daniel's previous matches have to say.'
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u/Sad_Disaster_ PURPLE 13h ago
Yeah just block him. So many red flags
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u/Bong_Hit_Donor 13h ago
But he was pretending to be a gentleman lol
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u/Designer_Chicken_832 13h ago
Her profile said that's what she wanted. He's also pretending to love dogs, hiking, and museums.
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u/Creative-Painter3911 13h ago
And under no circumstances venmo him that 38$ back.
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u/MaeClementine 13h ago
Legit I would have blocked him at the very first message complaining that he paid for dinner in the second screenshot
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u/turningtogold 13h ago
$38 made me laugh out loud
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u/ManagementRadiant573 13h ago
Exactly lol. I’m like all this over $38?!?! Sir you look ridiculous. Hope she blocked him.
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u/Grateful_Dad17 13h ago
Only a TRUE gentleman would spend an entire $38 on someone and expect “reciprocation.”
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u/Omnamashivaaya 13h ago
And ask for her to Venmo the money back if she won’t 🤦🏼♀️
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u/Firm_Award457 13h ago
He expected to get some ass with that full $38. 😂
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u/RebelliousInNature 13h ago
I’m sorry 38 bucks only gets you one boob squeeze, over clothes here.
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u/mangosorbet81 12h ago
Girl no. You can maybe sniff one strand of my hair if it has already fallen out and landed on the floor for $38.
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u/justdeepblueecho 13h ago
Invested 38 dollars and expected full weekend ownership
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u/Sub7viaLimeWire 13h ago
Where can he buy a nice dinner for $38? McDonald’s is like 20 bucks now
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u/ThaLunatik 13h ago
Right? 😂 In what kinda place is $38 a nice dinner? I ain't saying you can't get good ass food for that amount, but it's definitely not in the "nice dinner" price range.
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u/Vast_Breadfruit_162 13h ago
LMAO...apparently your supposed to bow down and obey his every command because he is out a whole $38.
What a choad!!
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u/Alternative-Aside-64 11h ago
Lol she even gave him a reasonable out to salvage and he blew through that too
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u/DTFIVE 13h ago
Jesus Christ what a loser, you literally said you wanted to see him again just not immediately. he fumbled so hard for no reason
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u/Valturia 13h ago
The reason is that he's a piece of shit and good on op for shutting this shit early
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u/InTheStuff 13h ago
Yeah dude's a control freak, OP offered to meet the next week but bro insisted on the very next day and was being pissy about it
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u/itcamefrombeneath 13h ago
He was disappointed he didn’t get his dick sucked that night and wanted to try and get it from her the next day, guaranteed.
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u/twinpickles 13h ago
The whole “and I’m not seeing any reciprocation on your behalf”, is pretty telling.
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u/tkdch4mp 12h ago
With the line directly before being, "I'm not holding shit over your head" to then immediately reiterate that they are, in fact, holding that shit over OP's head.
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u/Natural-Berryer7 12h ago
I had to read it twice because it doesn't even make sense. Who would be doing the reciprocating "on her behalf"? Would he not want her to reciprocate in person??
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u/Senator_Bink 13h ago
Maybe he can find somebody else to suck it for $38 bucks, but I bet he'll bitch about the quality.
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u/Mysterious-Tie7039 13h ago
You “just” drive for Uber Eats.
What a douchey thing to say. It doesn’t matter what her job is. It’s her job.
And then to accuse her of not wanting to go out again when she’s the one who asked him out, lol.
What a loser.
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u/howdyhowdyhowdyhowdi 13h ago
When dudes online are like "all women want is money" this is exactly the person on the other side of the keyboard
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u/SheServedToo 11h ago
Also the dudes complaining don’t actually have any real money for anyone to want.
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u/geekonthemoon 13h ago
Probably thought the sooner he gets a second date the sooner he gets to pound town
Freaking incel loser lmao
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u/twerk4data 13h ago
This for sure. There are too many men who insist on paying because they think that's cheaper than hiring an escort, and act exactly like this when that doesn't work out for them
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u/UnsureAndUnqualified 13h ago
you literally said you wanted to see him again just not immediately
Not even that. She said she actually wants to see him immediately but can't, big difference. He had basically everything he wanted and failed the Marshmallow Test, what an idiot
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u/fknsxybtch 13h ago
It’s funny because he sabotaged himself here. Instead of being a reasonable person and not setting expectations, he came into this thinking A + B = C. And when A + B did not give him C, his whole world crumbled. Maybe one day he will come to understand that the real world is more complex than that.
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u/Valuable-Talk-3429 13h ago
Truly. Also- even if she didn’t need to work- going out again the next day after a first date- is weird to begin with, and she would have had a legitimate reason no matter what to wait until a week went by. Because what?
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u/Western-Dentist2989 11h ago
I think he's angry he didn't get sex on the first date after he spent $38 whole dollars. That's why he's trying to speed everything up. He feels entitled to it
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u/Throbbing_Cock_452 13h ago
What an insufferable, insecure little weasel.
On the bright side, him showing his true colors so early on is the best possible outcome. Be grateful you didn’t waste any more time or energy on his ass.
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u/Friendly_Table455 13h ago
holy cow, i did not expect this to blow up the way it did.
i wanted to answer a few questions and address a few comments that i’m seeing.
i’m 22f and he’s 26m. we met on facebook dating and chatted for about 6 days before setting up a date. it was a bit last minute but i had the night off, so i thought “why not?” and accepted the invite.
for those asking if there was anything off about him while we were chatting/at dinner: no. he was extremely sweet, was kind with the waitress, and genuinely acted gentlemanly. he listened when i spoke, seemed interested in what i had to say, and he made me laugh. i thought it was sweet that he even checked to make sure that i got home. it never once crossed my mind that it could’ve all been a ploy.
as for the comments saying that this isn’t real or saying that this can’t be serious… trust me, that’s exactly how i felt during this entire conversation. i WISH this were fake.
also, to the random guy who said that i probably picked him because “he was tall”, he was 5’9”. i don’t discriminate lol.
i did not send him the $38 and i blocked him.
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u/maxtacos 12h ago
When I was a young lass I gave a pushy dude extra cash to pay back for dinner and told him he obviously needed it more than me.
I could not afford it at the time.
Worth it.
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u/brodyhill 11h ago
I especially liked the " I knew exactly what kind of girl you were when we sat down" ... Oh really bro, you got some bad vibes but still wanted to hang out TOMORROW like it's some kind of end of the world scenario.
I bet this loser subscribes (pays) to some online dating newsletter where they say "if a girl really likes you she'll move mountains for you and you have to keep the contact up if you want to score and stay out of the friend zone "
Dodged a bullet. Do not venmo him shit. Not all guys are like this.
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u/imtoowhiteandnerdy 9h ago
I got complete incel vibes from his side of the conversation. I'll bet you this guy thinks Andrew Tate is a righteous dude.
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u/de-milo 10h ago
“don’t you just uber eats for work” is so fucking gross and dismissive too. bullet dodged.
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u/Which-Wish-5996 7h ago
Kind of sad she felt like she had to justify herself. Who cares if it’s UberEats. If she is paying her bills that’s all that matters.
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u/overwatch 11h ago
If he could "tell the kind of person you were when you sat down to dinner." Why did he A, have the dinner and enjoy it. B, offer to pay for it. C, want to meet up with you again the very next day.
This man was not a good man. And you lucked out in that he gave up the game early and let his true colors show.
Good luck out there in future. Hopefully the next one will be better.
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u/ian9921 12h ago
So bro was definitely putting on an act all night and was expecting something in exchange for that.
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u/ThrowAwayYourLyfe 12h ago
Its soooo weird because YOU literally were the one asking for another date!!
All it could be is that he is super h**ny and desperate to boink asap so was not thinking straight. No excuse but that's all it could be.
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u/Some-Ad901 12h ago edited 27m ago
Actually, to me it reads as a super insecure dude who views her busy schedule and 'unwillingness' to switch everything around on the spot as a personal rejection. Which it's not obviously but that is what an unhealthy attachment style will get you. My bet is he's anxiously attached. I realize that this is a really bold statement just from reading a snippet of conversation but idk, that's how it reads to me.
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u/Elebrium 11h ago
That is not just insecure but especially controlling and abusive. The moment she did not do what he wanted to started lashing out snd demeaning her, this is a massive red flag.
Also these guys “act” gentleman but are not. Dont say you want that in your profile, let the partner be it naturally. Which usually is just having respect and care.
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u/pink---noise 10h ago
Right? That was creepy... "you said you wanted a gentleman" so I performed the role for you.
Psychopathic behavior.
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u/nosecohn the lasagna was the final straw 10h ago
I also read it as insecurity. Anything that could possibly be taken as criticism, including OP not rearranging her schedule to see him a few days earlier, is a personal affront to him and signifies/confirms all the deeper stuff he feels about himself and his victimhood.
I've known people like this. She was literally asking for a second date and he couldn't see it as anything but the negativity he expects throughout life.
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u/Yommination 12h ago
Sounds like he put on an act in hopes of getting laid. Then tried to rush another date for another chance at it
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u/Sufficient_Energy_32 13h ago
Sounds like he’s upset he didn’t get to boink you for $38
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u/geekonthemoon 13h ago
I feel like his logic is definitely "we need the second date sooner bc that's when I've paid enough ($76) to be owed sex."
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u/r3dditr0x 13h ago
Sounds like he’s upset he didn’t get to boink you for $38
And he thinks he's being a gentleman in this exchange.
Girl, run.
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u/SueBeee 13h ago
"I am such a nice guy! Women are all such bitches"
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u/ButterMyPancakesPlz 11h ago
He's probably posting right now "another FEMALE used me for dinner and dipped after I treated" some people are just determined to be victims of their own making.
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u/Ordinary-Variety7256 10h ago
It’s always females with these assholes. Females and men.
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u/snootboopr 13h ago edited 12h ago
I can’t stand people who treat gig work like it’s not still a job. If you don’t work you don’t make money, plain and simple. Incredibly entitled and weird of him to assume he could decide when you would be working next. He’s for the streets.
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u/obviouslypretty 13h ago
Even so, what if she just had plans? Was he expecting her to cancel those to see him? That’s rude and inconsiderate as fuck to me, she said next weekend, so next weekend is when she’s free!! Smh
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u/Spicymoon9 12h ago
Well if he’s not seeing her everyday she’s obviously busy fucking other guys! /s
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u/geekonthemoon 13h ago
Not to mention she explained why it was important AND consider that she's an Uber eats driver, dinner times are gonna be their busiest time. so much cringe here ugh
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u/Massiveykwhat 13h ago
Ay bru at least you got a free meal out of this bum 😭✌️
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u/Thingisby 13h ago
Love how lads like this think people are just desperate to con their way all the way through the initial chat, go to the hassle of getting ready, and then spend a whole evening out sitting opposite a stranger just so they can get a $38 meal paid for.
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u/storyofmylife92 13h ago
Also the fact there's no guarantee that he's actually going to pay for that $38 meal... So she's risking spending an evening with someone intolerable and also having to buy her own food. So not worth it.
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u/Leading-Tone-863 13h ago
Except he asks for it back at the very end lmao
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u/Dragonogard549 ORANGE 13h ago
doesn't mean he's gonna get it lol. I wouldn't send him shit
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u/Eth251201 13h ago
Matter of fact id ask him for more money for tolerating that stinking attitude😂
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u/Slow_Account_265 13h ago
-Devalues your work
-gaslights you
-demeans your gender
-tries to rewrite what happened on your date
Sounds like a real catch. I’m glad he showed his real face early, OP. But I’m sorry you had to deal with it at all.
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u/lifeslegacy3261 13h ago
Jesus Christ…all he had to do was wait a few days
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u/Afraid-Way7541 13h ago
Yeah but then he couldn’t complain about women and blame women for all of his shortcomings
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u/ian9921 12h ago
If he's this upset about waiting a few days, imagine how upset he'd have been about other things...
I don't think that second date was ever gonna go well.
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u/Dakaraim 13h ago
This is more than mildly infuriating, this is the kind of shit destroying the dating scene. Fuck that guy and good for you immediately seeing his true self when he revealed it.
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u/NDBambi182 13h ago
A "gentleman" wouldn't bring up that he paid for dinner to try and guilt someone into seeing them, so while he may have read it on your profile, he was clearly pretending as he definitely isn't one.
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u/onedwin 12h ago
That line really stood out for me. Bringing up the profile means he’d have been whatever OP’s looking for. Almost feels transactional too. “You asked for gentleman, I gave you gentlemanly behaviour. You owe me.”
Ironically that was all the “gentleman” he had in him, couldn’t even handle setting up a second date like a human being, much less a gentleman.
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u/G_HostEd 13h ago
"I know how to read women like you" Sure bro, you can.
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u/bunny_the-2d_simp 13h ago
"I've seen a women once and listened to a podcast made by alpha male on how to read females"
Probably this dude
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u/awingedaugustlady 13h ago
I hope it’s not weird to say but proud of you for standing up for yourself. You deserve someone better
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u/No1CaresWhatEweThink 13h ago edited 13h ago
At least you found out this way and not when he was trying to force himself on you while saying, “You owe me, I paid for dinner.”
He’s a fucking creep.
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u/Hippies_Pointing 13h ago
Lunatic. Be glad he showed you who he is.
“See me immediately. No I won’t wait. I’m a gentleman. Let me cuss you out real quick. Gimme my money back.”
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u/LalowTree 13h ago
What a loser. If a woman told me she enjoyed spending time with me and made plans with me on the weekend, I'd say yes? Not fight with her because she has work the next day and not doing what I want.
You do Uber for work, so what? It doesn't mean you have free time to do whatever you want. I used to do it too, and treated it like a job with a schedule. You dodged a bullet OP.
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u/AaDware 13h ago
"I know how to read women like you"
brother, you're not even reading the conversation you're participating in.
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u/faunaflorist 13h ago
Send him a Venmo request for $38 he’s probably stupid enough to accept it without looking
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u/KittieKablam 12h ago
Ah, you found an incel. This dude has zero self-awareness skills, you did the right thing. He should be going to therapy, not on dates.
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u/pavlovs_pavlova 13h ago
"I just don't understand why I can never get a second date. I'm such a nice guy."
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u/Inky_Kun 12h ago
"Im not holding this over you" -the man clearly holding 38 dollars over you
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u/get_to_ele 11h ago
He’s a fucking asshole. I’m glad you didn’t send him half the money. Let that prick feel “validated” with his accusations.
He clearly understands the basic behaviors to come off as a “nice guy” but there is no authenticity to it. He’s either extremely immature or he’s a sociopath.
Honestly l lean towards him just being super immature. He was so locked in thinking about what he wanted, to the point that he literally couldn’t recognize you were offering a date later. Then he pouted about how he paid and he should get exactly what he wants, and as soon as you said “no”, he went on the attack to try to hurt your feelings, belittle you.
Definitely do not want to reward people like this. He needs to figure it out.
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u/Grouchy-Manager4937 13h ago
Insisting that you see each other again the next night is crazy
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u/EnvironmentalSet7664 13h ago
Come on, he paid for dinner. That means you are now on his schedule!/s
I'd ask if hes willing to venmo you the $300 you'd be missing out on by going out with him again, just to see what he says 🤣🤣
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u/BakedBrie1993 12h ago
You texted far too many times after he revealed himself. As soon as he said "don't you JUST do Uber Eats."
Belittle other people's labor was red flag number one. However you make ends meet is admirable it isn't hurting anyone.
You gave him a lot more conversation than I would have after that.
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u/Vasanthe 12h ago
Huge red flags all around.
I despise when a man try to be a "gentleman" by paying for the first date and hold it over someone. Like bro, the idea of being a gentleman is NOT to expect anything in return. You just act and behave like that without effort or expectations. Fuck this guy into a deep hole
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u/vryvryberry 13h ago
girlll DO NOT send that man $38 lol you offered to pay your half and he refused, at least you got a free meal, what a walking ick of a man
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u/Bakubae_Itsuki-Haru 13h ago edited 13h ago
Bro basically pulled out a sign like Wile. E. Coyote and said "DON'T DATE ME" (Edit: I also love the use of that SpongeBob frame, was the EXACT face I made reading his messages 😭)
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u/ShadyShields 13h ago
He spent 38 bucks on you! How inconsiderate of you to not take a 300 dollar loss just to meet this jackass tomorrow.