A few of us have been doing game nights at my apartment pretty regularly and my boyfriend is ridiculously good at this one trivia game we play. Like suspiciously good. He'd answer really obscure questions before I even finished reading them sometimes.

A couple weeks ago he gave me his phone to send myself some pictures from a trip we took. I opened his gallery and right near the top were dozens of photos of the trivia cards from our game.

I didn't say anything.

I ordered an expansion pack and quietly mixed all the new cards into the box before everyone came over Friday.

He absolutely bombed.

Our friends were joking about how he'd finally lost his powers and he got visibly annoyed. Later after everyone left he asked if I'd changed the cards. I admitted I had and told him I'd seen the pictures on his phone.

He got pissed and said I intentionally embarrassed him when I could've just asked him about it privately. Which is technically true, but I also feel like if you're secretly memorizing trivia cards so everyone thinks you're amazing at trivia, getting exposed this way is kinda fair.

He also said it was no different than learning poker strategy before playing with friends, which I don't really agree with because you're not secretly memorizing the exact cards you're about to be asked.

Am I wrong?

TLDR: Found out my boyfriend had secretly photographed and memorized our trivia cards, so I mixed in new ones without telling him and he bombed in front of everyone. He says I embarrassed him on purpose and compared it to studying stake poker strategy before a game.

Our parents hit 40 years in October and my sister took charge of the party. Nobody argued with that because she's genuinely good at this kind of thing and the rest of us are not.

Back in April she set up a shared sheet for the money. Everyone's name down the side, what they'd put in next to it, running total at the bottom. She was quite firm on that point back then. Her line was that she didn't want to spend 6 months chasing people, and that if it was all visible then nobody would have to have an awkward conversation about who had paid.

I put in $500 in May, my brother put in $500 in June, my uncle did $600 in July and my cousin did $400 in August. All of it went on the sheet, because that's what the sheet was for.

2 weeks ago she messaged everybody in the family chat to say the venue had gone up and the caterer wanted more, and could everybody send another $200 within the week.

I hadn't opened the sheet since May, so I went and opened it. She's put in $150, and that's the whole total since April. There are also 4 rows underneath marked reimbursement, going back to her, adding up to $310 for decorations and a deposit she'd covered.

I didn't accuse her of anything. I didn't put my own number in the chat and I didn't say a word about hers. I replied to her message with a link to the sheet and said the totals were all in there if anybody wanted to see where we'd got to.

Within about 20 minutes 3 people had opened it. My uncle asked her a question about the reimbursement rows.

She called me that night and said I'd humiliated her in front of everybody, and that a phone call would have done the same job. She has a point in one respect. The reimbursements are real, I've seen the decorations in her garage, and she's done every bit of the actual work for 6 months while the rest of us sent money and then forgot about it.

But she built that sheet herself. She told all of us to use it specifically so nobody would have to have an awkward conversation, and then she asked for more money without ever once mentioning where she was sitting on it.

And I KNEW what people would find when they opened it. I'll be honest about that, because I think it matters more than the rest of it does. I didn't post the link by accident.

AIW?

My wife and I have 2 kids and she’s currently dealing with terminal illness. Things have gotten pretty bad and we’re basically at the point where we’re trying to spend whatever time she has left together as a family.

A few days ago I found out she cheated on me years ago.
I asked her about it she admitted it immediately. It was just a one time thing with a guy at work conference. I had absolutely no clue. I actually remember that period of our marriage being pretty normal, which somehow makes it worse.

She’s been crying a lot since I found out and apologizing over and over. She said it was the biggest mistake of her life, and she didn’t tell me because she was scared she’d lose me and the kids. She also told me she went sober since that incident, and I do remember her going sober 3 years ago:

I don’t even know what I feel right now. I’m obviously pretty pissed and if she wasn’t sick I think I’d probably ask for space or even consider divorce. But she’s dying. I can’t exactly tell my terminally ill wife to move out while our 2 kids are already dealing with the fact that they’re going to lose their mom. My kids love their mom, they’re super close with her and they’re taking her illness pretty hard.

Last night she asked me if I could forgive her before she dies and I told her I don’t know. She completely broke down and kept saying she doesn’t want to die with me hating her.
I feel terrible because she’s scared and sick and I just want to forget about it for now and be there for her. But I am just so goddamned angry that she kept this from me for 3 years and now I basically have no time to even process it. We were each other’s firsts, we’ve been with each other our whole lives, I thought we had a pretty special and magical relationship but she ruined that by having someone else inside her.

Our kids don’t know and I don’t think I’m ever telling them.

I seriously have no idea what I’m supposed to do here. Do I just put this aside and be her husband for whatever time she has left and deal with my feelings afterward? What has she done though to deserve this level of care and devotion from me though?

My partner has a very close female friend. I found out a few months ago that they had slept together in the past. When confronted he said it was one time a long time ago, with nothing else to it.

I recently found out that this wasn’t even the whole truth. It turns out they slept together a couple of times, chatted to go into a relationship and he even lost his virginity to her when he was younger.

I was upset when I had found out the original story, let alone finding out the rest of it that was further hidden. Am I being unreasonable by feeling upset from this? He said he didn’t mention any of it to save things being awkward and upsetting me.

TLDR my partner hid his sexual history with his close female friend

I (37f) have a friend (33 f) who lives on a cattle farm. she also raises pigs, sheep and llamas. occasionally I visit her to get away from the city. she lives about an hour away from me

on my most recent visit, she informed me that she had taken in a bunch of kittens through sole “barn cat” program, and they were living outside. no sooner had she said this than two kittens showed up, soaked in the rain, covered in nasal discharge and giving “help me” looks in her deck. she told me not to go out to there to see them but I did anyway. I looked at them, they smelled of infection, had fevers, were skinny and they were coughing and their tongues were gray and swollen and they were covered in fleas. I told her “these kittens are really sick. they’re having a medical emergency and need to go to the vet in the next 24 hours”. she responded “idk which vet I would take them to”. angry, but not wanting to overstep in someone else’s home, I asked her why she couldn’t just google one or drive to the city. she didn’t have an answer but said that there was something called “LA 20”. she confidently said that she had looked it up and it was something she could safely administer to the kittens to save their lives. I said okay and assumed she knew what she was talking about.

she injected both kittens, and one of them she injected improperly resulting in the 6-8 week old kitten to writhe on the ground in pain like I had never seen and then start limping. I was angry but I didn’t say much. then her aunt came and I told her what happened, and she said “oh, i don’t think kittens can have that, but oh well, they were gonna die anyway”. it turns out that she had given them oxytetracycline, a livestock antibiotic that is definitely not for cats, and she injected it subcutaneously causing extreme pain as the acid separated the fat and muscle layers from the skin. she kept alluding to the fact that “we can’t bring every animal to the vet on a farm”..etc

I went home that night and couldn’t stop thinking about them. the next day I told her I was coming to get them. she had decided to give them flea baths outside with the hose despite them both having fevers. that day her family got attacked by bees and I didn’t really feel bad.

I took them back to my place and put them in a box with a heated blanket and gave them goats milk and kitten food. she had been feeding them adult meow mix.

the next day, I took them to the vet and they got antibiotics and a whole bunch of other treatments for their various infections. they didn’t know what to say about the improper injection. that cats leg had swollen to 2x its size. it cost me $600.

I spoke with my friend after that and told her I could keep them for the week but that I had a funeral that weekend and could she take care of them inside until they were better, two weeks later, assuming she still wanted them back. she said she could keep them in the garage. that’s when I got really angry and decided I didn’t like her anymore in my head. I said no, they can’t stay in a garage. they’re barely alive. they need to be in a clean and temperature controlled environment. she said if I keep them that long then they can’t come back I said okay and decided to keep them even though I already had a cat

im glad I did, because two days later the injected kittens leg burst. fluid leaked out and you could see the fat layer inside the leg. had that cat been in a garage she would have died a horrible death. we went back to the vet and they said she would most likely keep her leg if we kept it from getting infected.

my friend asked how the kittens were and I told her the kittens leg burst because of hwr negligence. she didn’t respond and two days later asked me to make plans. I didn’t respond.

a week later we had to go back to the vet because there was a lump that wasn’t shrinking on the injected cat and the other one had a cough that wouldn’t go away. so we got more help and meds and now I had spent a total of $1000 on these guys.

my friend reached out again and I didn’t respond. when I saw our mutual friend I told her the story and that I wasn’t friends with her.

tldr: my friend severely medically neglected two kittens, wasn’t apologetic about it, i took them and got angry and then told our mutual friend that she was a kitten abuser. am I wrong for outing her?

It was my 30th birthday last month. Prior to this my girlfriend asked me what I wanted from her and I said I'd like a small get together of just a few close family and friends so if she could organise that it would be great.

There's a bar near us that lets you book the place out for free if you have at least 10 people as it's a small place so I mentioned going there and she nodded and said okay.

My birthday came and I got nothing like that. I got a card and a couple of little gifts (2 gift cards and a book) from my gf but no gathering or any sort of celebration. I was upset at this and my girlfriend asked me why I was upset and I explained it to her.

She said it would have been a hassle trying to get everyone together and would have took a lot of work to organise.

I told her she knew how much it would have meant to me and that she literally asked what I wanted from her and then chose to ignore it. I said it hurts hearing her say I'm basically not worth any effort.

She said I should have done it myself then but I pointed out she literally asked what I wanted off her and I told her so why would I then go and do it myself when she didn’t say she wasn’t going to bother doing it. She said I was trying to guilt trip her but I told her I was just expressing how I felt about it.

She said I was being too unfair and that I should be happy with what I got. I told her she doesn't get to tell me when I can and can't be upset and that it obviously hurts knowing your partner doesn't care enough to even try to organise what I wanted for my birthday.

She again said I was guilt tripping her and deliberately trying to make her feel bad.

AIW for expecting a small gathering for my 30th birthday and expressing my upset when it didn’t happen

I  am open to criticism with logic behind it and elaboration.

Let's get some things straightened out: I (16F) live with my mom and dad (both 48). Over the course of my life, I've struggled with lying and hiding, which I actively try my best not to do. I want to fix myself, but I do slip up. My father also hates liars, which matters to what happened.

Now, the story.

It started with me sleeping until 9:00 AM, even though the day before I promised my dad I would wake up at 8:00 AM and put the dishes away. He was, rightfully so, angry. He was angry at me, and I completely took the blame; I should have woken up earlier. I think this set up what was going to happen later on. 

Two days pass, and I get a text from him while he's at work, saying to bring something into the garage because it was going to rain and he didn't want it to get wet (It was those bags you put leaves into when you rake). Up until that point, I'd been doing my best to get on his good side, doing exactly the chores he wanted when he asked, being wary of my actions, etc. But this I messed up; I brought the wrong bags into the garage, and by the time he returned home, they were wet and a mess. He stormed in while I was helping my mom out with dinner and screamed at me, angry that I couldn't follow directions. I apologized, as I really did try to help, but what was done was done; I once again messed up, and he was once again right to be angry. 

Here's the part that I'M mad about.

He takes a break, I resume making one of the dishes, and then he comes in and forces me out, taking on the dish itself, saying that I "couldn't do it right", though I've made it many times before. Since I thought he didn't want me in the kitchen, I was going to leave, but then he told me to come back and clean up. Whilst cleaning up stuff like the dishes, loading them into the dishwasher, he threw the rubber spatula I had used into the dishwasher at high speed. I brushed it off at first, thinking to myself, "Even if he's angry,  he shouldn't throw things. Oh well." He then spewed a torrent of insults that I don't think were needed in the situation. I took deep breaths, feeling overstimulated and trying not to cry, until he spewed this killer out: "I should just send you to boarding school so I can never see you again." 

My mom, who had briefly gone into the other room for a break from cooking, emerged, saying my dad's name in a tone that clearly said: "Stop it." He then finished the cooking and stormed into the basement. My mom, now in the kitchen, looked at me as I looked at her, choking up, saying, "The curry is done."

She pulled me into a hug where I cried. I cried for a while in her arms until we pulled away, and she told me in a pitiful tone that I only had to live two more years here and to not get in trouble. I then went to my room to sit in silence. 

Now, the reason I was so upset over that comment is that since middle school, I've been showing signs of depression, and I even came up to them in sixth grade about how I wanted to... well... you know. He KNEW. And he still showed me that he'd be ok without me. This also hasn't been the first time he's said something like this to me; he directly told me in the last three years TWICE that if I jumped 0ff a bridge or sh0t myself, he wouldn't care, both times in a fit of rage. I don't think that this is ANYWHERE near ok to say to a child, especially someone struggling with said thoughts. So I haven't been talking to him. I can't find a way to speak to him after he's shown me that my life is so little in his eyes. We've both just been living in the same house, only talking if we need something. He's also starting to enforce a rule where my computer and iPhone must be given to him at 9:00 pm, and I can receive them in the morning. I don't care too much; it just feels like he's trying to make me miserable, and it was kind of out of nowhere.

So am I wrong for not speaking to my dad after a fight about being responsible? Is there a way I can salvage things?

My boyfriend and I went out of town for a football game. We were planning on meeting up with our couple friends. Before heading to the game, we were drinking and got a bit buzzed. Once we arrived at the game alcohol started to settle down a little bit, however my boyfriend continued drinking. I noticed he started to become very obnoxious and very drunk, he was the only one on that level. I told him quietly “babe chill on the drinking”, he’d get offended then back at it again with drinking and being obnoxious. Game finally ends and we got a Uber to a near by bar. By this time I noticed my boyfriend was now stumbling. I finally told him “okay babe you’re done no more drinking you’re literally stumbling”. I was already irritated and embarrassed by his behavior.
We went next door to another bar. We were all casually talking. 20 minutes passes by and my boyfriend tells me “I’m going to get some water”. The water was a self serve at the bar, no line at all. He took a while to come back so I went ahead and looked for him where the water was at. Wasn’t there. I turn to my left where the Men and Women restroom are at and I see my boyfriend come out. He immediately approached a group of girls in line for the bathroom and he hands over his phone to this girl. I leaned myself against the wall while watching his every move. I don’t know what words were exchanged, if he got her number, social media, not sure. But he approached someone else that was not me. Then he continues walking and comments on a girls hair. Then he finally saw me standing there so furious. I told him “ F** you I’m leaving”. Apparently he didn’t know what I was talking about or why I was mad. I went up to our friends and said “Im leaving I just saw him give his phone to other girl”. I walked out and walked far from the bar. I thought I had the key to the Airbnb which I was going to get a ride to, turns out I didn’t have it he did. Looked at my phone, multiple miss calls from my boyfriend (now ex) and our other friend. I had went back to the bar we were at and I see them all outside.
My ex was confused about why I was mad I told him what I had saw, he claimed that he did not remember. I told him off right then and there. I had asked my friends if it was okay if I could go home with them, so I did. All 3 of us left while my ex stayed behind. Mind you he had his phone and keys to get back to the Airbnb. I ended up sleeping at the friend’s house and next morning got up and went to the Airbnb myself and we left back home.
Now my ex is saying that I shouldn’t have left him at the bar like that while he was drunk. That he felt abandoned and now he has bad dreams about me abandoning him. I’m having a hard time feeling sympathy for him after the disrespect he did and saying he doesn’t remember. He claims to remember the comment on a girls hair but not approaching the girl while handing over his phone? I feel like he’s trying to put the blame on someone else besides himself to make himself feel better
Was I wrong?

Edit: I need to add that he was very apologetic to what he did. However, when I told him he needed to stop drinking he didn’t care and about a week or two after the situation he was out drinking with his friends again.

My girlfriend and I have decided to be a bit more active so we’re going to the gym more regularly and have said we want to go on more walks in nearby towns at the weekends. 

We said depending on weather we want to do 1-2 per month. I mentioned wanting one weekend to just relax at home and not make other plans. I said we could just watch a movie, read, play video games etc. 

She asked if I was serious and I said yeah. I said we can’t be busy every day and need time to relax. She just said it seems like I’m going vac job what we agreed before we’d even started but I just pointed out that’s not what was happening, 

I said we’d still be going to the gym and going on more walks but she just accused me of already planning for a way out and not being committed to it. 

AIW for planning a weekend a month to relax?

This has always been a topic of debate between my wife and I but after a recent family gathering I feel like I might be the crazy one. We have a six year old son and I've always thought it was extremely important to teach him body autonomy and no means no. If we are wrestling and he says stop, I stop. My wife thinks I am uptight and lack nuance.

Last night we went to a gathering at her brother's house. He has a five year old daughter who was playing with our son and the adults were in the living room. To be honest I have never been a fan of my BIL, so maybe I'm too harsh. His wife was sitting on his lap, and at some point i can see him and my wife making some gestures to each other, then he grabs his wife and restrains her and my wife began tickling her.

Both kids came in the room because she is screaming bloody murder and very clearly saying no and stop. My wife told my son to come and help her. I was uncomfortable because SIL had said multiple times "no" "this isn't funny" "I'm going to kill both of you" BIL told his daughter to get one of the cupcakes and "mommy wants a facial"

Both kids went to get a cupcake but I stopped my son and told him we listen to people when they say no and I don't think his aunt (who he absolutely adores) wants cake smashed in her face. My wife glared at me. BIL continued to hold his wife down and let his daughter smear icing all over her, and finally he let her up.

In the car my wife told me i embarrassed her and I'm too strict with my son. She said it was a silly prank and they are family, and her brother and SIL think I'm weird.

I was looking for a place where I could get unbiased advice.

I have two daughters. Bella is married to Paul and has a three year old son. Sadie is a single mom to a five year old girl. Bella and Sadie have never been very close, and I know Sadie thinks I have favored Bella in the past. I'm not a perfect mother, but I've always tried to be fair. I don't think i favored one over the other, but Bella was quiet and passive as a child and Sadie was always getting into mischief. She is very sensitive about being corrected in anyway.

Paul and Sadie work together. He teases her a lot and claims he views her as a little sister.

Anyway we recently went to Disney for my granddaughter, Clara's fifth birthday. I offered to put the children to bed, so Bella, Paul, and Sadie could enjoy an evening out. My grandson, Simon, has been biting lately, so Bella asked me to keep an eye on that.

He bit Clara and was put in time out. I asked Clara if she was alright and she said "uncle Paulie bites mommy's neck" I was in absolute shock. I didn't want to ask leading questions, but of course I had a thousand questions.

I calmly said "oh that isn't nice" and she said "mommy laughs" and went back to playing. That ate at me all night. When Bella, Paul, and Sadie got home, I took Bella aside and told her what Clara had said. Bella blew up and demanded to go through Paul's phone. He gave her his personal phone but would not let her see his work phone. Paul and Sadie work together and she also has a company phone.

Clara kept denying it and asking why I would ruin her daughter's birthday and why I always think the worse of her. At this point I felt awful, because both kids were crying. Sadie kicked everyone out (she had paid for everything) and the next day did the park with just Clara.

Bella and Paul have been fighting nonstop and Sadie sent me a long text about how I started all of this for no reason, ruined her daughter's birthday, and how I always choose Bella.

(My apologies I am foreign and English is not my first language. If something doesn't make sense please let me know.)

So to get to the point, I am an exotic dancer. All of my friends and their SO's know this, its not something I hide. My friend Sara met a new guy and have been dating him for the last few months. I finally got to meet him at my house when they came over, and he got to see one of my stage outfits I ahd sitting out. I do a Jessica Rabbit outfit, and yes I do have red hair, natural but I dye it darker. I am also from Ukraine, here in the US and it makes me more exotic is what people tell me. He made a comment that it must be a popular look and that was kind of it.

I was on stage Saturday night, and while I was doing my stage routine, I saw him. Sara's boyfriend showed up, was right at the stage and waving mon at me. I have been doing this for a few years so I got through my routine but I was freaking out. No one I knew has ever come to my club before. I figured he might be there because of work friends, or a bachelor party or something. But when I got on teh floor for couch dances and VIP room time, he was waiting for me. he told me he loved the stage dance and wanted VIP room time. I told him, no because he was my friends boyfriend and I didn't want to be in the VIP room with him. One o f my regulars got me instead. Her boyfriend stayed for like four hours, way logner than most people do. he saw me on stage three more times before he left. When I got off work it was late, and I called Sara to tell her. She asked me if I was sure, and I told her he had come to me and wanted me in the VIP room with him. She is not a dancer but she knew what happens in the VIP room so she was super mad. She broke up with him yesterday, and now she is a mess. I feel bad for telling her, but I know if it was the other way around someone would have told me. I dont like that she is a mess now, but I think I ddi the wrong thing. Am i wrong for telling her?

I have been judged and called “immature” for still sleeping with stuffed animals at 18. I sleep with 2 childhood stuffed animals every night (one is a dog and the other is a horse) and i have a big one that just sits at the corner of my bed. I didn’t see anything wrong with it but being judged about it makes me feel like maybe i just have to put them away. i find it comforting just hugging something while im going to sleep though. am i actually immature for wanting to sleep with stuffed animals??

live with my girlfriend and we have moved into a 3 bedroom apartment. We agreed before we moved that the smallest bedroom would be my office since I work from home most of the time.

I mentioned that since the office is mine, I will be the one cleaning and tidying it and that when the door is closed that means my gf doesn't come in which she agreed to.

When we're cleaning the apartment on weekends she will still go to the office and start to tidy up the desk and I tell her to stop since I leave things how I want them.

She repeats that the office is messy but I just pointed out she has no reason to actually be in it and I’m leaving things how I need them. I said that the door was closed and she's going out her way to move things around in a room she doesn't need to be in.

She got annoyed and said I should be tidying it up more regularly than I am but I just told her that I leave things on my desk so I know exactly where they are for the next day and it doesn't affect her at all.

She said I should be compromising and tidying it up better than I am but I disagreed since it's my office and my girlfriend has no reason to ever actually be in the room. I pointed out the office is clean and it’s just some work things that I leave out on the desk.

She said it should be tidied with the rest of the apartment but I just told her that it's my space and that I leave it how I like it and I leave it how I work best.

Just to clarify, the room is clean so I'll dust, vacuum, remove mugs and things so it is just a bit of mess that is on the desk in the room and a few files next to the desk so it's not unhygienic.

AITA for expecting my partner to stop tidying things in my home office?

I can't believe this is even a problem we are having, but FIL created this ridiculous situation. FIL has always been something of a "prankster"

When my husband turned 18 he found him sleeping on the couch and thought it would be hilarious to shave his eyebrows off. A year later when my husband's stepsister turned 18, my husband told FIL it wouldn't be "fair" if he didn't do the same to her. FIL told my husband he could never do that to a girl, but then "thought about it and couldn't resist"

Of course SIL, my husbands younger sister, was super freaked out when she turned 18. FIL told her it was different, my husband was a boy and his stepdaughter was a step child and not his precious little girl. He lulled her into a false sense of security and then snuck up on her with two wax strips.

He bragged to everyone how good he got the three of them, how ridiculous they looked, etc. He still to this day says it was probably a little too far, but it was hilarious and they will never forget it.

My daughter has heard these stories and is about to be 18 and she has made it very clear she would not find this funny in the least. FIL promised he wouldn't do it and said those days are long past. My husband says there is nothing to worry about as FIL and my daughter aren't even close and hardly have a relationship.

I however don't want my daughter to feel any stress and have decided FIL is banned from the house indefinitely. She doesn't deserve to feel fear over some dumb ass prank. My husband says I am being cruel and dramatic and FIL has never done anything remotely like that to our kids

I got Nigerian Parents.

I was born & raised in London mostly till age 13 (short stint in Nigeria from age 2-4/2-5)

I then resided in Nigeria from age 13-21.

I came back to London at age 21. I’ve been back in London for 9 years now.

I have two daughters. Emma is 26 and Hannah is 28. I also have a stepdaughter, Rebecca, who is 30.

Emma and Hannah never got along growing up. I punished them when they were unkind to each other, but I also didn't attempt to force them to be friends as long as they were civil. I married Rebecca's father when the girls were in elementary/middle school and Hannah worshipped Rebecca.

She followed her around, tried to steal her clothes. It was a bit concerning actually. Rebecca was understandably annoyed, but at some point decided she liked it and began treating Hannah like her little sister. I am not trying to excuse Hannah at all, but back then she would have done anything to impress Rebecca.

One summer when Hannah was 18, she and Rebecca wanted to throw a party. I was ok with it but told them they needed to do all the work for it including cleaning out the back yard and getting rid of the dog poop. They both protested that was gross and they shouldn't have to, but I reminded them they didn't have to throw a party.

They grumbled but got to work and a few hours later I heard blood curdling screaming and ran out to find Emma crying and gagging and covered in something absolutely vile. Basically they got "bored" and decided to take the bucket of dog shit/mud/and grass, fill it with water and pour it on her.

I was absolutely appalled. To me that really crossed the line and was not a "prank" as they were calling it. Emma was absolutely hysterical. I kicked them both out of the house. I know they were young, but both technically adults and they made a very adult choice to assault their little sister.

When they realized I was serious they both cried and pleaded, but I couldn't even look at them. Rebecca didn't finish college because she had to work to pay rent for both of them and Hannah ended up taking out massive student loans (which have since been paid off. she went to school for something very lucrative)

A lot of friends and family told my husband and I we were being too harsh. I personally feel what they did was vile and needed real life consequences. Hannah is getting married and I just found out, I am not invited. Obviously as her mother that hurts but I respect her choice.

Rebecca has two children her father isn't allowed to see. This "prank" has torn our family apart. Recently I tried to talk to Hannah and her fiance decided to tell me what a "disgusting piece of shit" I am because "she was just a little girl and you threw her on the street" and "kids do dumb impulsive things"

I just can't believe ten years later we are still reeling from this like it was yesterday. Rebecca and Hannah absolutely will not forgive or hear us out.

This is my first time using or posting on this platform, and sorry for the bad spelling English isn’t my first language!!
Well then am I the ass hole for not wanting to be friends with my friend anymore!!
Me and Bella are online friends just in case this doesn’t confuse you guys that much!
My friend Bella female 17( by the way I am not using their real names)
Has her bf name Noah male 19.
I most give some context about them är her bf…
When Bella was freshly single after a resent relationship, and we usually talk in her discord server ,by the way before it became a dry.
So one way me and Bella was talking in one of the channels,
She told me she been talking with someone ,who just came out of jail for beating up a pedo when he was drunk.
Bella used to talk to him before he went all ghost mode for 6 months!! Because he went of course to jail beating up some pedo!!
Well it’s Noah and the fact the first person who he decided to text after getting out of jail, wasn’t his family members but my friend Bella!!
It just throws me off because Bella was the last person who was texting Noah but they were online friends!!
But which what throws it more off they way she was so down bad for him!!
After all he use to hack people, get their IP as well more and use to be a camboy!!
I was try to tell her isn’t a bit weird that Noah text her first and yk.
But no she was really into him and the fact he said himself to her that he was into to her!!
It just gave me the creeps!!
One day Bella told me that she ask Noah to hack her ex account to see if he was lying about his friend login on his account and try to break up with Bella!! ( by the way the ex lied about it)
I was uncomfortable with that because she told me herself ,that Noah is a changed man and doesn’t not want to do those kind of stuff anymore!!
It got to a point where a dude that Bella use to flirts with he was lying for being single and was still with his girlfriend while having a crush on Bella!!
While telling me that Bella mentioned that if Noah knows that the dude who as a crush on Bella was having the flirty conversation/text with her he would have done something bad to him… and later saying he is a nice guy and he changed!?
The fact he made himself look Like unlikable person the first time me and other were in a channel together!! He was talking in the aggressive tone and threatening my other friends I said joke, which didn’t seem like it!!
It got to the point me and Bella were in a channel and he joined
And I said a joke because there were a thing and then he decided to pull out the I’m gonna get your IP , which made me uncomfortable!! and I said I gotta go and Bella said no it was a joke. He’s not gonna do that. Well, Noah said well maybe.
And then I had my distance cause I don’t wanna get involved with him later on Bella set me up what I do named John!!
Somehow, one day, me, John and Bella and Noah were playing Fortnite so basically it was like a double date ( jokes)
It went well until Noah said the n word John question if you could say it and basically Bella defended him saying he can see it, but I can’t by the way he cannot say cause he’s literally white!!
Later on we played something else on Fortnite goofy at that sound we played brainrot which wasn’t my idea..
It went all fun and laughers until Noah decided to annoy me and use a machine that cannot go to my base. I told him in a joking way or else a flat ass!! I guess what he said you really aggressive town he called me a bitch and Bella didn’t say anything just being silent and I was shocked so I asked what did he say again and John repeated it and John thinks it was really rude to say that!! I got to the point that I don’t wanna play anymore so then comment what is wrong I said I don’t wanna play anymore!!

Later on me and John fall an apart because ghosted me which is another story if you guys would like to hear..

So this last weeks I join Bella in the game and I get to know her friends and become friends with too!!
So last week I told Bella what happened with John how we fall apart!!
Later on Bella told me that John has contact with Noah the hole time because John texted me why he was ghosting me and then never responded to me..
So Bella tries to text John and in the end me and him are back to talking!!
But my dumb ass asked if I could invite John to her server because it would be nice to talk together with him. Well I was wrong Bella was unsure then was okay with it!!
The first thing just happened John was joking around about taking Bella’s bf away from which Bella got annoyed and mad!!
I told John to stop joking around because i know that Bella would not get the jokes and take to heart!!
It got to a point Bella started to say thanks to me you ( John ) and coco ( Me ) started talking and thanks to me you guys are talking again..

And I forgot to add that Bella joined a call I was in with another friend and ask me if I wanna joined her and her bf on Fortnite, which I told her I would not join them because I don’t like her bf because they he treated me last time we were together!!

Okay back to the part that me , John and Bella were in a call
It got to a point that Bella and Noah as well John hade a group chat and John keeps joking around about taking Noah away from Bella !!

And it got to the point that Noah joined the call and started yelling at John by the way I was trying to talk to John and the fact he joined and started yelling was just wild!!

When I was trying to talk Noah told me to shut the fuck up in an aggressively many times!! I didn’t accept that he he was being so rude and insulting towards me so I said it back and confronted him for always being so disrespectful towards me and my other friends!! In the end he said coco I would make sure you never get on your account again!!

And that was to much which I left Bella’s server !!
And if you guys wonder did Bella defend me well the answer is no she never did!!
Instead she apologized for him for being rude to me and he can’t change him…!?
I told him I was happy for them but she couldn’t confront him it’s just odd!!
She told she does confront him…
This situations made me question if she wants me to not be friends with anymore because the most upsetting part is that she doesn’t defend me at all…

Some can just say just block her , well I could but I got a lot of mutual friends with her and I get along with them so if I do block her, maybe she would turn them agents me so I need to block them as well!!

Who ever reads this sorry for the long text and wired spellings I try my best to make this text short!!
But I hope you guys have a nice day today or evening!

This is my first time using or posting on this platform, and sorry for the bad spelling English isn’t my first language!!
Well then am I the ass hole for not wanting to be friends with my friend anymore!!
Me and Bella are online friends just in case this doesn’t confuse you guys that much!
My friend Bella female 17( by the way I am not using their real names)
Has her bf name Noah male 19.
I most give some context about them är her bf…
When Bella was freshly single after a resent relationship, and we usually talk in her discord server ,by the way before it became a dry.
So one way me and Bella was talking in one of the channels,
She told me she been talking with someone ,who just came out of jail for beating up a pedo when he was drunk.
Bella used to talk to him before he went all ghost mode for 6 months!! Because he went of course to jail beating up some pedo!!
Well it’s Noah and the fact the first person who he decided to text after getting out of jail, wasn’t his family members but my friend Bella!!
It just throws me off because Bella was the last person who was texting Noah but they were online friends!!
But which what throws it more off they way she was so down bad for him!!
After all he use to hack people, get their IP as well more and use to be a camboy!!
I was try to tell her isn’t a bit weird that Noah text her first and yk.
But no she was really into him and the fact he said himself to her that he was into to her!!
It just gave me the creeps!!
One day Bella told me that she ask Noah to hack her ex account to see if he was lying about his friend login on his account and try to break up with Bella!! ( by the way the ex lied about it)
I was uncomfortable with that because she told me herself ,that Noah is a changed man and doesn’t not want to do those kind of stuff anymore!!
It got to a point where a dude that Bella use to flirts with he was lying for being single and was still with his girlfriend while having a crush on Bella!!
While telling me that Bella mentioned that if Noah knows that the dude who as a crush on Bella was having the flirty conversation/text with her he would have done something bad to him… and later saying he is a nice guy and he changed!?
The fact he made himself look Like unlikable person the first time me and other were in a channel together!! He was talking in the aggressive tone and threatening my other friends I said joke, which didn’t seem like it!!
It got to the point me and Bella were in a channel and he joined
And I said a joke because there were a thing and then he decided to pull out the I’m gonna get your IP , which made me uncomfortable!! and I said I gotta go and Bella said no it was a joke. He’s not gonna do that. Well, Noah said well maybe.
And then I had my distance cause I don’t wanna get involved with him later on Bella set me up what I do named John!!
Somehow, one day, me, John and Bella and Noah were playing Fortnite so basically it was like a double date ( jokes)
It went well until Noah said the n word John question if you could say it and basically Bella defended him saying he can see it, but I can’t by the way he cannot say cause he’s literally white!!
Later on we played something else on Fortnite goofy at that sound we played brainrot which wasn’t my idea..
It went all fun and laughers until Noah decided to annoy me and use a machine that cannot go to my base. I told him in a joking way or else a flat ass!! I guess what he said you really aggressive town he called me a bitch and Bella didn’t say anything just being silent and I was shocked so I asked what did he say again and John repeated it and John thinks it was really rude to say that!! I got to the point that I don’t wanna play anymore so then comment what is wrong I said I don’t wanna play anymore!!

Later on me and John fall an apart because ghosted me which is another story if you guys would like to hear..

So this last weeks I join Bella in the game and I get to know her friends and become friends with too!!
So last week I told Bella what happened with John how we fall apart!!
Later on Bella told me that John has contact with Noah the hole time because John texted me why he was ghosting me and then never responded to me..
So Bella tries to text John and in the end me and him are back to talking!!
But my dumb ass asked if I could invite John to her server because it would be nice to talk together with him. Well I was wrong Bella was unsure then was okay with it!!
The first thing just happened John was joking around about taking Bella’s bf away from which Bella got annoyed and mad!!
I told John to stop joking around because i know that Bella would not get the jokes and take to heart!!
It got to a point Bella started to say thanks to me you ( John ) and coco ( Me ) started talking and thanks to me you guys are talking again..

And I forgot to add that Bella joined a call I was in with another friend and ask me if I wanna joined her and her bf on Fortnite, which I told her I would not join them because I don’t like her bf because they he treated me last time we were together!!

Okay back to the part that me , John and Bella were in a call
It got to a point that Bella and Noah as well John hade a group chat and John keeps joking around about taking Noah away from Bella !!

And it got to the point that Noah joined the call and started yelling at John by the way I was trying to talk to John and the fact he joined and started yelling was just wild!!

When I was trying to talk Noah told me to shut the fuck up in an aggressively many times!! I didn’t accept that he he was being so rude and insulting towards me so I said it back and confronted him for always being so disrespectful towards me and my other friends!! In the end he said coco I would make sure you never get on your account again!!

And that was to much which I left Bella’s server !!
And if you guys wonder did Bella defend me well the answer is no she never did!!
Instead she apologized for him for being rude to me and he can’t change him…!?
I told him I was happy for them but she couldn’t confront him it’s just odd!!
She told she does confront him…
This situations made me question if she wants me to not be friends with anymore because the most upsetting part is that she doesn’t defend me at all…

Some can just say just block her , well I could but I got a lot of mutual friends with her and I get along with them so if I do block her, maybe she would turn them agents me so I need to block them as well!!

Who ever reads this sorry for the long text and wired spellings I try my best to make this text short!!
But I hope you guys have a nice day today or evening!

I work in a cosmetic surgery clinic (privately owned) and one of my duties is to clean and sterilize exam rooms in between patients.

Friday my boss was using one of the rooms for Botox. Usually only the nurses do that, but he always does his wife's and she had her best friend with her. I was in the adjacent room and heard him tell her to close her eyes, and then I heard screaming.

Of course, I peaked in and the friend is covered in pie (not like whipped cream in a pie tray, like heavy bakery style pie) and it has splattered everywhere behind her. His wife said "happy birthday bitch" and of course she is scraping cream off of her face and making more of a mess.

My boss and his wife came out of the room and locked her in there for a couple minutes, because she was attempting to throw it at them, so by the time she calmed down there was pie all over the floor, exam chair, back wall, and door.

I didn't think much of it until he told me he was sorry but it was very well deserved, and then i realized he expected me to clean it. I politely told him it wasn't my job to clean it. He told me I always cleaned the rooms. I said yes, but that mess he created exceeded my responsibilities and I would not be cleaning it.

He asked me who was going to clean it then. I suggested he or his wife clean it. eventually another staff member cleaned the room and I was written up for insubordination. I feel like I did nothing wrong. My job isn't to clean up after his dumb pranks, but my husband is furious. We are having financial issues and he says I should have just cleaned it.

Hi all.

I've been separated from my husband for about 2 years now. We aren't officially divorced yet but it's in the making and have 2 children together.

Now when we were still together, during the last year of our relationship, he had an (at least emotional) affair. She was introduced to me as a family friend and actually tried to befriend me as well. We (ex and I) already had issues at the time, especially financial infidelity (he gambled away our joint savings), childcare and chore distribution and also he was very jealous and often accusing me of cheating with different people.

Now when I found out that he had something going on with the other woman, I initially asked him to set better boundaries and cut her off. He refused to cut her off but agreed to better boundaries. Sometime later I came across their messages (he had Whatsapp logged in on the family computer) and found out not only had he not reduced contact with her but they had a full on affair going on (saying "I love you"s, meeting up, discussing about me and their future). I also noticed he was showing her the same guilt tripping behaviour he did me "If you loved me you would" do this or that... Idk, I kinda snapped at the time and texted the girl that she could do better than dating a married man. She never replied, but I think their relationship ended after that.

After trying for a few more months with my ex, including couples therapy I had enough and ended things for good.

I never cheated on him btw, but full disclosure, I do have a kind of FWB situation going on with a friend of mine now for the past few months. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong here considering how long we've been separated.

But up to now, he keeps trying to check up on me. He keeps telling me what to do and whom to spend time with, demands I always be home before 10, ideally before 9. He says it's because of the kids, that they shouldn't be seeing me going out, but his kid is 19, if he should not see me coming home late, then I also don't know. He's often trying to figure out what I'm doing and whom I'm spending time with and going as far as texting friends and acquaintances of mine to both get information on me and/or telling them to back off if he assumes I'm spending to much time with them (especially men). He even went as far as texting the admin of the (mixed gender) sports team I play with to inform all members that I'm a married woman and shouldn't be having drinks with them after training.

Idk it's really bothering me. It's embarrassing and a whole lot of drama I don't need. I have asked him to stop several times, but he just gets mad at me saying I have no business going all over town while I'm still married and reminding me that I destroyed his emerging relationship as well by texting the girl those days. I apologized for that, but I still feel like it's different, because then we were still together and I thought maybe we could fix this, whereas now we are clearly separated heading towards divorce.

Am I in the wrong here for doing what I want now that we are separated and expecting him to just get over it and also get over what I did when we were still together with reading his messages and texting his girlfriend? I want us to be friendly/amicable with each other since we share children, but he's making it really hard for me (on the other hand he thinks I'm making it hard with my improper behaviour)

I became very close friends with someone several years ago. We had a lot in common and for a long time I considered her one of my best friends. We shared a lot of memories and I genuinely thought we’d always be close.

Over the past couple of years, though, our friendship has gradually changed. There wasn’t one huge falling-out that ended everything. It’s more like I slowly started feeling less important to her and less connected to her. At the same time, I’ve been going through a really difficult period in my own life. My husband and I have been living apart for a long time because of immigration circumstances, and I don’t know exactly when we’ll finally be able to live together or even where our life will ultimately be. It’s been incredibly lonely and emotionally exhausting.

During that time, I’ve really missed having this friend in my life. I wanted to feel like I could reach out to her and have her there for me, but instead I’ve increasingly felt like I don’t really have that friendship anymore. There have been little things that have hurt me. For example, I recently reached out to her about something that was meaningful to both of us, and she didn’t respond. I know objectively that one unanswered message isn’t a huge deal, but because of everything that’s happened between us, it really affected me. It made me feel like I was reaching toward someone who wasn’t reaching back.

I also feel very disconnected when we’re together with another mutual friend. The two of them have become extremely close, and when we’re all together I often feel like a third wheel. They aren’t necessarily doing anything intentionally mean, but I’ll sometimes leave feeling like I wasn’t really part of the friendship at all.

I’m genuinely happy that they became close, but sometimes it has made me feel like I lost my place in my friend’s life. One other thing that’s been bothering me is the timing of all of this. Our mutual friend’s birthday is coming up, and she’s been trying to get the three of us together for her birthday. Then, around this same time, my friend suddenly reached out to me saying that she feels like there are things we need to “hash out” and that she wants us to be on good terms.

I can’t help wondering if our mutual friend encouraged her to reach out because of the upcoming birthday. I obviously have no proof of that, and I could be completely wrong. I don’t want to accuse either of them of something I can’t know for sure. But given how disconnected I’ve felt from both of them lately, the timing makes me hesitant to fully trust the situation. Part of me wonders whether she’s reaching out because she genuinely wants to repair our friendship or because she feels like this needs to be dealt with before we’re all expected to be together for the birthday.

What hurts most is that I don’t necessarily want to lose either of them. I just don’t recognize the friendship anymore. Sometimes I’ll look at my friend and think, *I know this person, but I don’t feel like I know her anymore.* Recently, she reached out to me and said that she feels like there are things we need to talk about and that she’d like us to be on good terms, even if we can’t be as close as we used to be.

Part of me appreciates that she reached out. Another part of me is angry because I keep thinking, **where was this friendship when I was struggling and really needed my friends? I** know I probably haven’t handled everything perfectly either, and I’m willing to acknowledge that. But I’m scared that if we talk, I’ll be made to feel like I’m the only reason the friendship changed. I don’t necessarily need the friendship to go back to exactly how it was. I think what I’m struggling with is grieving what we used to have while also figuring out whether there’s anything worth rebuilding.

I (31F) had a BFF I’d known since I was about 16.
She was moving back home from out of state and needed somewhere to stay while figuring out housing, so my mom and I let her stay with us.

There were already smaller boundary issues: she could be messy, loud and inconsiderate, I overlooked a lot because she was my longtime friend and I knew she was struggling.

She would sometimes stay with family for a few weeks/months, then come back to my house for a few weeks bc their house was “too crowded.”

Right before I left on a 15-day vacation with my kids, she asked to stay one more week & said she was confident she’d have everything figured out by then.

2 days into my vacation, my mom told me she had been driving my car.
I NEVER gave her permission. To make it worse, I had temporarily let my insurance lapse bc I was away, also my car began having mechanical issues right before I left.

My aunt and uncle were at my house remodeling the bathroom as a surprise and said she was taking my car in and out all day.(mom was in the hospital BTW)

When I confronted her, she claimed she had only driven to QT to use the bathroom bc ours was being remodeled. She made it sound like my family was heavily exaggerating.

After I got home, my mom’s friend told me she had actually been using my car to go to work and other places and had even been offering ppl rides in MY car.
I lost it.

This wasn’t just “borrowing something.” To me.
I told her to leave.
Her response was:
“You know my situation and it’s fucked up what you’re doing.”
“I said sorry, WTF do you want me to do, kiss your ass?”
And, “You’re not gonna talk to me like that. IDGAF. I’m grown.”
That made me even angrier. How did this somehow turn into what I was doing TO HER?
Yes, I yelled. I felt betrayed and that was the end of our friendship.

It’s been a few months and sometimes I wonder if I should’ve handled it different. But then I think. you took my car without permission while living in my house, lied/minimized it, and then got angry at ME for kicking you out.
Did I overeact?