Your orgasmic process

[u/JohnSmithChip]

We’ve been talking about knowing the different processes people use to bring themselves to a HFDO. We know that it’s very individual to for everyone…. But knowing the different elements might spark some ideas for those of us who are less experienced.

What do you do to trigger a HFDO? What’s your process?

[u/galpha567]

My process is entirely physical and doesn't really depend on my mental state at all. And it's toy free. I sort of tense and relax my pelvic floor lightly in pulses. It's like I'm puckering it all in a big circle. Sometimes I imagine it as energy sort of undulating like a slow, relaxed jellyfish. Probably I tense about once a second, for about half the second. But I'm not keeping track. It's whatever feels natural and sustainable.

The tensing feels good. After doing it for a bit (it could be a minute or many minutes), I'll get to a point where my body tenses and doesn't un-tense. The pleasure stays and grows and the tensing builds over several seconds. I reach a point where I feel poised on an edge, then things feel like they drop, or relax internally somehow, and I start having rapid, involuntary muscle contractions. The contractions are more focused on my prostate. This is an orgasm. It can feel good (or not) in the beginning. Basically, the process repeats, with each orgasm better and longer than the last, and with less and less conscious attention from me. At some point it becomes more about relaxing as much as possible into pleasure, with more relaxing equaling more pleasure.

This is just prostate orgasms. Others are different. But generally they all involve either tensing (or imagining that I'm tensing) specific areas in specific ways or drawing my focus and pleasure to them. For example, if I'm already having great orgasms and I think about tensing the muscles around my balls, I can start having orgasms in my testicles (super amazing, by the way). Or if I focus on my solar plexus (and, I think, my diaphragm), I can have an orgasm there. (These are easy. I literally just did it.)

Nipple orgasms and orgasms based somewhere in the penis usually require stimulation from something unless I'm really, really going (having rolling super orgasms, for example).

Hope this helps! I've often thought there should be a community wiki of some kind where we can collect knowledge.

[u/An3ros152 → u/galpha567]

This is the same technique I use!

[u/quest4bliss → u/An3ros152]

It’s not far off what I do either but I don’t consciously control any pelvic contractions. The net result is rather similar but I just let my body drive and place my awareness on any sensations I feel develop, initially that’s the automatic pelvic floor contractions and then a start moving energy around with my hand as device to do so.

My first orgasms will come from a technique I developed for myself where I visualize the lightest touch from my fingers sending energy into my nipples. That energy is felt at the nipple and the nipple act as magnifiers. The energy is stored beneath my sternum like there’s a rechargeable battery there. This is all happening without any toys and and my pelvic muscles are involuntarily twitching and spasming lightly. Once I feel there’s enough energy in that battery, I visualize the finger tips of one hand to be like a charge carrier and the stored charge from beneath my sternum is drawn to it and resides just under my skin beneath the fingers. Slowly, I move this from my sternum to my pubic area and often I’ll have an uptick of p-waves at my belly button. Then the energy is directly injected to my prostate as my fingers arrive at my pubic bone and I’ll have my first prostate orgasm this way practically without fail.

[u/JohnSmithChip → u/quest4bliss]

So you actually use touch? You drag a finger around your body?

[u/quest4bliss → u/JohnSmithChip]

I think this was meant for An3ros152 but I find the combination of the visualized energy beneath the finger with the actual sensory information from the finger does wonders.

[u/An3ros152 → u/quest4bliss]

Very neat description! I love doing that energy transference method. Just last night I had an orgasm start in my feet and I slowly willed the pleasure to move up my body until the whole body was engaged.

[u/quest4bliss → u/An3ros152]

I’d never have believed “moving energy” around was possible but I’m a convert.

[u/quest4bliss → u/galpha567]

It’s interesting that your say it’s entirely physical and doesn’t depend on mental state. Guessing you rarely find yourself in your head, analyzing the process, ya? More like using playful contractions as a means to kickstart the process and then step out of the way and let your body do what it wants and you just sit back and enjoy where it takes you. This check out?

[u/galpha567 → u/quest4bliss]

Yes, in terms of "will this work?" or "am I doing this right?" But otherwise I can be very focused and controlling or I can totally check out. In most sessions I'll do both in variation.

[u/Potential_Bee_405 → u/galpha567]

This is similar to what a session would be like. I typically use a toy to aid the muscular part but it’s not always necessary. The hardest part is taming my mind though. It doesn’t stay quiet which seems to make it harder to get to a pleasurable place.

[u/WallyReddiot → u/galpha567]

Could you elaborate more on the “It’s like I’m puckering it all in a big circle” part? 😂 Are you doing rolling kegels or something? When I think of a jellyfish moving, I picture it going up and down, not around in circles. 😜

[u/galpha567 → u/WallyReddiot]

Think of how the bottom of the jellyfish looks as it's propelling itself. I'm not sure how else to describe it. It's like repeated waves, but in a circle traveling inward. For me, it's a weird mix between actual muscle contractions and imagined muscle contractions. Sometimes it's like I'm moving without actually moving. I can trigger goosebumps on demand, and it's sort of a similar process.

[u/WallyReddiot → u/galpha567]

Fair enough, thanks for the reply. I'll be spending the foreseeable future conducting extremely serious research by studying jellyfish videos and trying to unlock the secrets of the pelvic ocean.

[u/maleenjeen → u/galpha567]

A little off topic, but triggering goosebumps on demand is a new one for me. How do you do that, if you don't mind me asking? I just tried, and, surprisingly, I can make it FEEL like goosebumps but not get them to phisically show up.

[u/galpha567 → u/maleenjeen]

I dunno how to describe it, except it's like I'm squeezing a muscle somewhere in the back of my neck. It's a thing some people can do, though. I'm not sure you can learn how if you weren't born with it.

[u/Potential_Bee_405]

It’s by no means an exact science but I think mental clarity makes the biggest difference so most of the things I do before or during a session are aimed at easing my mental state.

- Tantra and/or prostate stimulation with something relaxing playing, usually the sleep videos on YouTube with sounds/music.

• Occasionally I’ll use porn but it’s usually not for all that long.
  

Controlled breathing.

• A clear head (the hardest part)
  
• Being physically and mentally tired isn’t required but can help.
  
• A sex toy of some kind if doing prostate play.
  
• I have pain issues and will use THC in some sessions to help manage that. I’ve been planning to try CBD instead but haven’t.
  
• oil diffusers.

When done right I go into a trance like state and can have several non-ejaculation orgasms. Sometimes there’s contractions. Sometimes there isn’t.

[u/JohnSmithChip]

Everyone - I just want to say a massive thank you for contributing. Drawing upon your collective experiences is really helping to give me some new ideas. Honestly, I can’t thank you enough!! 🙏🙏🙏

[u/Successful_Spite_137]

Not exactly HFDO, but I can have pounding prostate orgasms through nipple stimulation. It's even more pronounced with a little THC. I used to use kegals and work my way to orgasms, but have grown a little impatient. Now I make love to myself with nipplegasms, then slowly introduce anal. Then I use an Aneros for multiples....I can go for hours. I sometimes turn my Aneros around for a completely different orgasmic feel.

[u/TheLimberJack → u/Successful_Spite_137]

How do you mean about anal (vs aneros)? I've used small silicone cupping tools on nips to get them pumped and more sensitive, but not had prostate orgasms from nipple play (yet).

[u/Successful_Spite_137 → u/TheLimberJack]

I guess what I'm saying is that I take my time with getting the Aneros in position. Slowly edging the tip around and even more slowly inserting...in and out, taking the pleasure from the sensitivity. When I finally let my toy find its place, I'm more than ready for it!

[u/LifeandLearn_1961]

Some years ago I got into Aneros and dildos for HFWO. These came (no pun intended) fairly easily for me but it was almost a form of masturbation. It felt good, was kind of amazing, but quickly became somewhat boring, one and done.

Some months ago I decided to explore the deeper pleasure possibilities and got a MGX. I had been doing pelvic floor relaxation/massage and was excitedly anticipating the feelings.

Now I approached this very differently. It was not about the end but the experience.

I usually have exercised before my session. I lay on my back on a mat in a darkened room. I stretch out and usually insert my MGX soon. I love the initial feeling.

I lay back and start with slow, deep breathing. I feel the breath down, through and out my anus. I focus on the feelings there and relaxing everything. It doesn't take long before I get some pleasant twinges and contractions. The little ribs on the MGX can feel exquisite. I always come back to the breathing. Usually long and slow but with some quick breaths to match what is going on.

I usually have my knees bent. Might raise my lower back up on to something. Will do some gentle kegels and/or press my lower back flat to the floor which will trigger some pleasant internal stuff.

I just zone into these feelings and within 15 minutes or so I am having HFDO. Some get quite intense. Sometimes I get fluid pressure. Is it my bladder or prostate? Hard to say. Feels good and kind of like edging. I usually go 30-45 minutes. There's just so much I can take of it, or I might have to just get on with the day. I'd guess every 4-5 sessions goes longer and culminates in a pounding HFWO. These are of course great but leave me in a different place mentally than just a series of HFDO.

I've started to follow this same technique sans toy. My goal is to get to the same place with just the power of the mind setting off those sensations after some gentle kegels to get it going..