r/InsightfulQuestions • u/Ok-Ocelot-774 • 2d ago
What do you think of the concept of quiet grief?
Is it a necessary evil or is it common or uncommon or what do you think?
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u/lizzieczech 1d ago
I think "It's OK If You're Not OK" is an excellent book about grief. Not stages, but experiences.
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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth 1d ago
It's not my business how anyone else grieves. I grieve quietly; so does my husband. My friend bawls her head off and falls to the floor, which of us is doing it the right way? Both of us!!!
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u/NoHippi3chic 1d ago
Its not concept. Its a reality i, and many others, live with every day. Because grief, once experienced, never quite leaves you. It becomes embedded in the framework of your past, informs your present, and, if you live long enough with an open heart, lurks quietly in the future.
Grief is the loam of compassion, and the bitter fruit of the heart. One does not know which form it will take in advance, and none is like the other. The grief of a lost friendship is not the grief of the death of a treasured friend. And so on.
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u/Mysterious_Beanz 1d ago
Speaking from my own experiences. This is the way a man goes about handling grief. In the comfort of their own space & solitude. Away from distractions or estranged family & friends. Not a whole lot of emotions involved, just time to reflect on things.
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u/Goldf_sh4 1d ago
Is that like when scientologists tell women to give birth quietly but with grief?
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u/Fluffy_Charity_2732 1d ago
Boys learn to do this at a young age. Not really healthy… but better than finding out most women get the “ick” almost instinctively when a guy openly grieves
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u/7LayerRainbow 2d ago
Everyone grieves in their own way.