My girl called off work again…

[u/Peeeeyouuu365]

(Some chocolate cookies from Asia?)

Right now me (f23) and my girl (f25) share 1 car. My car… I came into this relationship with my car. We have been together 2 years now and she never got a car. Every job I’d pick her up or we worked at the same job with the same hours. This job she has now has made me lose my mind. We have almost the same schedule but it’s opposite if that makes sense. We share 1 full day off together. So when she works she has the car and when I work I only get the car for 2 days. for the other 2 days I work I have to find a ride to work while her whole work week she has the car. She told me not too worry because in three months she’ll have the money for the car but she keeps calling. In the last month she’s called off work 3 times so far. That’s like 450 we missed. It’s just super frustrating. I pay the car note and maintenance and insurance while she just drives it and puts gas and idk how my car is being driven. I just feel like I lost the one thing that felt like it was mine… she said she’ll pay this months car note I thank her for that but I really just want my car back..

Also! I’ve been the one actively looking for cars for her. I found a beater car that gets her from A to B at a good deal she declined it cuz the bumper had a dent

[u/Head_Act_585]

Girl! This is a terrible idea. She needs her own car or she needs to find her own way to work!

[u/Foreign_Primary4337 → u/Head_Act_585]

With respect, your GF is incredibly selfish. Why is SHE driving YOUR car while you’re finding other ways to get to work. And she called out to the tune of $450?? She does not respect you. She only cares about she can get out of you.
I think this is break up worthy.

[u/HyraLaurel → u/Foreign_Primary4337]

Exactly, OP is carrying way more of the burden here

[u/Silent_Possibility63 → u/Foreign_Primary4337]

https://giphy.com/gifs/Ro4ygeIQxuQZqwP5rF

[u/Peeeeyouuu365 → u/Head_Act_585]

We’ve considered ubering but that’s money wasted

[u/cheezy_dreams88 → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

Her money. Her money she is wasting on uber. Not yours. Your wasting your money on a car you don’t drive

She is the one who does not own a car. You can help her get to work on days when YOU don’t have work or need to use the car, but she needs to find her own way to work. You should not be having to bum rides when you have a car.

[u/earmares → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

You're not spoiling her, you're enabling her. Stand up already

[u/aquagrl → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

You realize it’s her money wasted tho not yours?

[u/Lanky_Bobcat_6021 → u/aquagrl]

it seems like they combine incomes to make ends meet. so it would, realistically be OPs money wasted too if i’m understanding the situation properly

[u/Shark-Compote → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

stop spending your money on her. Make her start spending her money on herself. You need to take care of you, and she needs to take care of her.

[u/multipocalypse → u/Shark-Compote]

Yes, otherwise what is her motivation to save up and buy her own car?

[u/WarriorInWoolworths → u/Shark-Compote]

Your banner is glorious

[u/Shark-Compote → u/WarriorInWoolworths]

hahaha biblically accurate furby

[u/OkeyDokey654 → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

Why can’t she catch a ride like you do?

She’s doing this because it works for her. She won’t stop until it stops working for her. Time to put your foot down and say “actually I’m going to use my car from now on. I might be able to occasionally let you use it on my days off, if you contribute toward upkeep and insurance.”

[u/No-Pianist-4371 → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

She’s already wasted $450 by calling off.. so “wasting money” isn’t really an excuse at this point tbf

[u/Peeeeyouuu365 → u/No-Pianist-4371]

When you put it that way your right lol she’s home now and I’m visibly upset

[u/No-Pianist-4371 → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

If you want to be nice, offer to sit down with her and make a budgeting plan that allows her to get a car (even a super cheap used one) as soon as possible. Tell her as gently as you want to that this is not sustainable. You are totally in the right to just say hey you aren’t using my car anymore - at the very least you HAVE TO let her know that unless she’s willing to chip in on insurance she cannot legally drive it. But if you want to be nice about it, offer to sit down and help her figure out a financial plan and gently point out that calling off work just puts her behind on her goal of getting a car. And that’s if she even actually is prioritizing getting a car - I have a feeling that if you just let her keep using your car for free she’ll never put the effort in.

[u/CorrectPanic694 → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

Can she take public transport?

[u/sleeptitegrimrite → u/CorrectPanic694]

Seriously bus passes for the month are way cheaper than Ubers

[u/EleanorHatesLife → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

Dude. Take your own car back! Use it as you see fit and need. She can be the one using it once or twice a week, if she's lucky, considering it's not her legal vehicle and is she even insured to drive it? You seem incredibly kind and she seems very entitled to your car.

[u/Catslizardsandrats → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

I take an uber to work every day and back. It's not money wasted to me. I make money to pay bills and I just factor in uber costs 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Tbh everyone acts like it's so crazy when I tell them about it but when you factor that I don't pay for car insurance, gas, monthly car payments, or any maintenance/repairs, it doesn't seem that bad. I just set aside the money for an average week of daily uber rides every time I get paid. IMO, your gf should figure out her own transportation.

She could also try to find a coworker to carpool with. Offer them money each way and it could be less than uber. The calling off work tho is a whole other issue. She's liable to get fired sooner or later for that.

[u/Rubycon_ → u/Catslizardsandrats]

This 100%. I have to go to work in office 1 day per week. and I haaaaaaaate driving downtown. Plus I'd have to pay for parking anyway. So I uber. It's not money wasted, it's money used.

[u/mynameispineapplejoe → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

What’s the area like? Is there public transit? Could she bike?

[u/Rubycon_ → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

I uber to work. It's not money wasted, it's money used. What's more important? To not resent your partner or to save a few bucks? Maybe if she keeps paying it, she'll feel the bite and she'll finally get a car

[u/bewildered_forks → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

That's not your girl that's a parasite

[u/No-Holiday6900 → u/bewildered_forks]

Yup, females can be hobosexuals too

[u/HouseofFeathers → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

It sucks, but I'm using turo to rent a car to get to work this week. Expensive? Yes. More expensive than my paycheck? No. Maybe turo would be cheaper than an uber.

[u/Peeeeyouuu365 → u/HouseofFeathers]

Hmm might look into that

[u/stripysweater]

Why does she have it when you're both working? Why doesn't she have to find a ride?

[u/shes-starting-over → u/stripysweater]

Because she’s a lazy ass mooch and OP is a doormat

[u/KenraScar]

Just tell her things are going to change and you’re going to drive your car more. She needs to figure it out.

[u/That-Dragonfly-9723]

Stop doing this. Make her be the one to find a ride or uber. 

I did this with a bf when I was younger & looking back I genuinely don’t know why. I was taking the bus for hours while he drove my car.  

I bet getting her own call will suddenly be more important when it’s her who is scrambling for rides. 

[u/Peeeeyouuu365 → u/That-Dragonfly-9723]

lol that’s how I feel. I’m like why am I riding with someone to work when I pay 500-800 a month for my car

[u/El_Bookworm → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

Oh my god, you are paying that much a month and not getting free use of your car!!?!!? She’s a grown woman, she would have to figure it if you weren’t together. She can figure it out. Please take your car back!

[u/That-Dragonfly-9723 → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

Ya seriously just take it back. It’s crazy she rejected a car too while you’re bumming rides. Maybe take a look at separating finances if you’ve combined them too. 

Even if she has to pay for uber rides that’s not really your issue. That’s hers for not getting a car the past 2 years & rejecting good options. 

[u/rando_nonymous → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

Makes zero sense.

[u/Decent-Historian-207]

You aren’t spoiling her. You’re enabling her.

It’s your car. Make her find an alternative arrangement for rides.

[u/fuckeiry]

stop! letting her! drive your car!!!! is she even on the insurance? you’ll be so screwed if an accident happens while she’s driving & she’s not insured. then you’ll have no cars.

[u/stinkbomb6 → u/fuckeiry]

Yeah this needs to be higher. You’re “spoiling” her to your financial detriment now but it could easily become your financial ruin.

People have to file bankruptcy over stuff like this.

[u/El_Bookworm]

It’s your car. Me and my girlfriend shared a car but it was always hers. I never took her car alone. It’s under her insurance. If she needed it, she got priority. You shouldn’t have to find rides to work when you own a car. She needs to take responsibility of her own life and find a way to work. The bus, an E-bike, uber, anything. I ended up getting an E bike, highly recommend.

[u/katleessi]

This isn’t a good situation tbh :/ not like manifesting a breakup but you’re not married.. you’re the one on the car note and insurance. Everything falls under you!

My husband’s car is a 22 year old Toyota (so just saying it’s still reliable) but I have the nice newer car. He’s allowed to drive it whenever etc, but we are both on the insurance and we own it outright, neither of us is paying a note each month. He drove my last car when we weren’t married but he would never have commandeered it as his own!

If something happened to his car and we had to share mine that’s fine, but like… you shouldn’t be the one trying to find transportation to work….. it’s YOUR car!!!!!!!!!

[u/Peeeeyouuu365 → u/katleessi]

I agree

[u/katleessi → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

Rip the bandaid off girly. Just be like, “ya know… I kind of miss my car and the freedom that comes with owning it. I think you should try and arrange for transportation on the days that I have my car at work.” And then let her use it that one day if you’re comfortable with that set up!

You got this! It’s awkward but tbh shouldn’t be awkward with your gf. Now if it was a roommate who was doing that, yeah that might be awkward and cause tension. But it’s your gf so clearly she will understand. And if she doesn’t, she ain’t yo wife ✨🫶🏻

[u/El_Bookworm → u/katleessi]

This! A good relationship can handle the discomfort of uncomfortable conversations that need to be had! She needs to tell her that it’s HER car, and that she needs to figure out her own transportation. This is so unfair to OP

[u/Some-Potential-2764 → u/katleessi]

This is how it should be. Either both of your names are on the insurance and you both contribute towards the payments on the car, or the person who doesn't have a car will nicely ask if they could use the car today.

[u/Muted-Ask-8269]

Girl take those keys away

[u/what3v3ruwantit2b → u/Muted-Ask-8269]

And whatever else happens do not cosign on a loan.

[u/_TheShapeOfColor_]

Why does she get your car the whole work week while you find rides to your job?

Stop that. Make her problem hers and I bet you it gets solved. She hasn't bought a car because she doesn't need to when she has yours. And she won't as long as you let this continue.

[u/barkandmoone]

She’s getting spoiled.

Literally.

[u/FilthyDaemon]

She doesn’t step up because you’re a wonderful doormat & provider. Why work when she can freeload?

[u/Adorable_Accident_74]

She does not have the money to be picky about aesthetic appearances. Insurance will be cheaper and the car works. That is the important part.

[u/Peeeeyouuu365 → u/Adorable_Accident_74]

Tell me about it was super upset about it he was letting us do payments on it cuz he knew we didn’t have the money upfront it was only 3500

[u/Excellent_Noise6281]

She can get a job that is close enough to ride a bike.
I have a friend who is 41, never had a license and has worked up to 12 miles away and rode her bike. She actually now has a kid seat on the back for her son, now that’s she’s a mom 😂
Just saying, there are options. You have a choice in this. Sounds like you don’t think you do. Reclaim your car and make her figure out her own situation.

[u/Peeeeyouuu365 → u/Excellent_Noise6281]

Omg thisss like the job is 18 miles away WHY WOULD SHE WORK THERE IF SHE DIDNT HAVE A CAR

[u/Excellent_Noise6281 → u/Peeeeyouuu365]

You are correct

[u/siobhan_chapstick]

She's a loser.

[u/bardentreblemakers]

Girl…take your fucking car back. And for bonus points break up with your gf and see how much more peace you have. Might even find yourself a girl with her own money or her own car

[u/JupiterSoaring]

I personally couldn't ever handle dating people like that. Dependent AND entitled. No thank you. 

Its your car. You get priority. If you want to be kind, you can let her use it when she needs it and you don't. If she doesn't like that, oh well. She needs to be arranging her own transportation without taking advantage of you. 

[u/RegularAcid]

OP based off your replies in the comments it seems like you’re honestly enabling her. Theres always a time where yall can sit down and talk about how this is affecting you. There is ALWAYS a solution, she can bus it partially and then take a uber or even a train. Theres no excuse whatsoever. Yall are both adults and can have a conversation.

[u/Pitiful-Figure5411]

so you're dating a bum

[u/N1g1rix]

If it’s your car, it should be you using it as priority and she can use when you aren’t.

[u/Material-Paper-2960]

Why are you finding a ride? If you start work first, you can drop her at work early and then go to work, and then pick her up when she is done. If she starts first, you can drive her in, then go to work, then she can wait around until you are done or find her own way home. That’s how you share. You always have the car, you help her by giving her rides, and she suffers from not having a car by having to hang around before or after work, or finding rides. Right now, ya’ll are acting like it’s her car and you’re the one getting a favor by using it. Nope. Take the power back. It’s your damn car.

[u/XenaWarrior123]

From your responses, you seem to love your setup.

Is she on the insurance? Does she pay for it?

[u/Peeeeyouuu365 → u/XenaWarrior123]

I don’t love it. When she comes home I’m going to bring up the conversation about it

[u/Ill-Percentage-3276]

She's not going to change anything until she's forced to and there's no other option left. Sounds like she's going to make you be more like a parent that is going to need to lay down the law and refuse to put up with any of this anymore and make her get her own rides and go to work consistently to save up money.

What would she do about a car if you weren't together? She can do that.

[u/MajestyMay]

Why?? Why are you inconveniencing yourself for someone that doesn’t care? Why are you not having her help pay for something that she uses more than you? Why are you being a doormat? Why are you looking for a car for her? Why is she not the one that has to figure out how to get back and forth?

Why??

[u/aescepthicc]

You're the younger one and you get exploited? Oof. The same energy I get from the stories about lame men. What does she bring to the relationship? Does she pay for house/rent/bills? Or do you split everything 50/50 except for your car? Or do you pay more for other stuff too? Girl, you need to check if you're being used.

[u/Sensitive_Leader_312]

You're spoiling her to the point she doesn't need to get a car. Grow a spine and put your foot down. Free rides are done and she has to put on her big girl pants and get a car. Until than, she can't use your car.

[u/Exploringtogether23]

It’s your car. Stop giving in. She needs her own. The end.

[u/Oceanman72]

She needs to uber to work. It’ll take more time for her to get a car but then you can have your car back

[u/nagato36]

https://giphy.com/gifs/kgTyaowHRIjO8

[u/Fun_Concentrate3250]

My ex and I shared a car around your age and we split the cost of it. I got a job that was opposite his schedule to make it easier. Eventually we got a 2nd car but he made it happen so I could drive the more reliable one and he could fix up the 2nd one. We were broke, but we figured it out.

Figure it out. Stop spoiling her.

[u/johndeerelawnmower]

I had a partner who sold their car AFTER we moved in together and bought a motorcycle instead. So I became the only car. Guess who did all the shopping and chauffeuring? I can’t even be mad because I should’ve seen it coming!!

She is never going to get a car until she has no option left.

[u/Near-Scented-Hound]

No. Simple and clear. Nope. Nope. Nope.

I dated a guy for a while. He had a car when we met, it was junk but it was his. He wanted my car. Would ask to drive it - the answer was always no. One evening, he just took it. We were at MY place with friends and he offered to go pick up food. Took my keys, took my car. Did not ask. I was totally over him then. Not to be a selfish bish, but I worked for MY car and I paid for my car - and for the maintenance, insurance, and fuel. The hell with that. I did not take him to raise.

[u/WarriorInWoolworths]

It’s like a sapphic version of They’re a lovely person BUT…as I said upthread, you wouldn’t let a buddy be walked on like that if they were telling you this!

Speaking of walking, that’s something she can do towards a bus/subway/trolley unless your city sucks.

[u/joreo95]

If she hasn't resolved this issue by now, after 2 years, she doesn't want to. I had a BF life this. He relied on me for things constantly, and I fulfilled his needs because I was his GF and of the mindset of "well I can't let him fail, I need to support him." At a certain point though it's not support. It's enabling. She is used to having you to solve these problems and is in no rush with no real plan to resolve the issues at hand.

And I think when you are in this type situation and your partner calls out of work frequently for no reason other than because they don't want to work, I think they are being incredibly disrespectful. She doesn't value your time and effort if she's willing to allow you to carry these burdens without picking up any slack herself.

You need to have a serious conversation about what you need from her - maturity, responsibility, and effort. Don't come at it from an attacking angle. Approach it as you are a team, and tell her you are unhappy with the current situation and want to put a plan that you both agree to that will resolve this. This includes agreeing on how much money is made, where it is allocated, a realistic timeframe/goal for the vehicle, determining what type of vehicle she will be getting, and an agreement on how transportation will be handled until then.

If she cannot follow through on her parts of the plan, then another conversation needs to happen that involves discussing how your goals and needs are not aligning, and if you guys are a good long term fit for each other. Because right now it's calling out some and sharing a car. But if the trend continues, she'll constantly rely on you to take care of her and be the responsible one that solves all of the problems.

[u/paradiiso]

grow a spine and stop letting her drive your car. if she’s not on your insurance and she gets in a wreck you’re screwed.

[u/jdoe36]

this has got to be rage bait because OP's post and comments are diabolical

[u/Standard_Category635]

She doesn't have to get a car bc you're giving her yours. Dent in the bumper my ass

[u/One_Resolution_8357]

It is YOUR car. You are letting her abuse the favour. She is not on her way to repay you, is she ? She is the winner there, why would she change if you say nothing and just complain on Reddit ?

[u/TheSlimeSartreFeared]

Tell her you're burning out and you need her to step up for you. If you put your heads together you can figure something out.

[u/Formal_Garage_5449]

You could make a rule, if you call off work that week you no longer get access to the car that whole week.

[u/AdmirableSwing3138]

Take it from someone who bought their SO a car after being done with the exact same nonsense, this is an absolute relationship killer. You’re over there trying to take care of someone who doesn’t give any fucks about how you’re struggling. She needs to help herself and not leave you without your car, that’s gotta be a firm boundary. And in case you’re wondering, no they did not pay me back either. Made two agreed payments and then said “I thought it was a gift” after I spent my savings to get us forward. This person is using you to survive, not helping the pair of you improve your lives.  

[u/Cheliz1517]

To your car. Y’all are married, stop acting like it. Why do you have combined finances with someone you aren’t married to? Take your car back and tell her to grow up. She can buy her own car or figure out another way to get to work.

[u/decayingdisaster]

Yea unfortunately you just need to have a backbone and tell her it is your car and you need to use it because again it’s YOUR car. This is very much a “I’m lighting myself on fire why am I burning” situation unfortunately. Get her a bike or something

[u/AtlasAriesss]

I don't understand why you're the one finding rides on your other days and allowing to have the car all week? If it's your car, you should have priority and it's her responsibility to get herself to work, especially if her schedule is going to remain unpredictable (the regular calling in)

[u/obliviousblues1881]

Respectfully, it’s YOUR car. If you need your car, SHE needs to find an alternative way to get to work. Right now it doesn’t seem like she’s putting any effort into getting a car of her own. Why would she, when she essentially has a mode of transportation that you pay all the maintenance costs for?

[u/Fun-Reindeer-5212]

I don’t understand it’s your car however she’s the one who gets priority of it? Why can’t she find her own way to work?

[u/Madame_Mad]

I would at least ask her to help with the insurance payments and ask for a solid date to make sure she's not making empty promises. At the end of the day, it's your car and you can say no.

[u/Historical-Line-2910]

I do wonder if she’d do the same for you. It’s great to look out for her but it’s been two years without a car and she is above a beater car? Try to lean off enabling her..It is very kind of you to actively look for her but know that you and your belongings deserve respect too!

[u/Rumham_0925]

Let her figure out her own shit.

[u/emt139]

Honestly this would be a dealbreaker for me. I wouldn’t mind sharing a car but it’s clear you need two cars and she’s OK  inconveniencing you and taking your car. 

[u/Punkinsmom]

When I wasn't working because I was in school I got a scooter and my wife drove my car. I had money from my former job to pay for most of the scooter and my wife paid the rest. When I started a job with a longer commute my wife used the scooter for a couple of months until we save enough for a down payment and got HER a newer car and I kept the older car. Equity and fairness is a thing in relationships.

Currently I drive my ~10 year old truck and my wife has an almost new car - after she drove her 12+ year old car until it became unsustainable. I plan to have my truck for many more years because I love it.

[u/morganXxmassacreX]

declining a perfectly good working car because of a bumper dent is crazy, beggars can’t be choosers. she sounds insufferable

[u/sleeptitegrimrite]

She needs to take the bus.

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[u/green_chapstick]

Yikes. Whats stopping her from getting a car... now? Like thats nuts. Seems a little odd you have to make accommodations when she has the car... Shes definitely taking advantage of the situation.

[u/SuitGroundbreaking49]

Why is she calling off?

If it’s for no real reason, and you have financial obligations (getting a second vehicle), just jump ship.

This won’t get better.

[u/stinkbomb6]

Ok so this person sounds like a complete user. “spoiling” someone to the extent that they’re impairing your ability to invest in your own future and have a reliable way to get to work isn’t partnership.

HOWEVER, if you are both willing to develop a healthy partnership, it could actually be time for her to reevaluate her career trajectory and consider jobs that will not require rides at all (walking distance, wfh, or being a homemaker, though I doubt someone who takes advantage of you to this extent is capable of being a competent homemaker). Because everything else aside it sounds like she makes minimum wage or close to it, and paying for rides all the time is gonna effectively mean that she’s bringing in like $50 a shift, without even considering all the other incidental costs of having a job.

[u/theStrawberryRoam]

Why is she the one getting the car and if she doesn't get the car it's Uber? I'm confused how you're able to figure something out but she isn't... And what she'd do without you tbh

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[u/babysatja]

she needs to feel the financial pain of not having a car. Not you. That's the way out here

[u/Ratedforarbitary]

Did you offer or make an agreement that you would help her out by driving her ?

It’s your car. I think it’s find that you are offering to give her rides. However, you don’t need to let her drive your car.

[u/ccsparkles]

Girl. Get those keys back. She can have rides from you when it works out, otherwise you will be driving YOUR car to your job. That’s insane you’ve let it get to this point. Beggars can’t be choosers with a dent on a bumper—maybe if she’s having to find an alternative transport method daily she’ll be more open to the cars you found. I absolutely LOVED one of my beaters and STILL miss it. Seems she’s taking advantage of you.

[u/Spare-Bumblebee-3303]

Do you see this getting better? Do you see her personality changing and becoming more responsible? Does this relationship make you happy?

[u/StressLife7080]

Stop being a doormat and get your car back

[u/mybackhurty]

This is why you should keep assets and finances separate unless you're married

[u/Sapuws]

She should get a car loan. She won’t be calling out sick if she owes the bank/credit union.

[u/Separate-Rock-4894]

She won’t buy a car of her own until you stop letting her use yours

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[u/midsummercrybaby]

Come on girl, stand up 😭😭 I know it’s your gf but stand up!!!

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[u/Jblank86]

Leave her.

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[u/multipocalypse]

Sweetie, it's your car. You get to decide who uses it and when. Why are you letting her decide these things? And do you not have public transportation in your area?

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[u/DragIll4738]

Hey OP. My girlfriend and I share a car as well. Except I’m the one who uses it to drive and pick/drop her off at work or she ubers but it’s her car. The only reason I use it is because I have to take the highway to work and it would be expensive for an uber or lyft all the way up there. We worked together and bought a car for me that was a beater and a few months later and it crapped out so we are back at square one. I truly believe the only different between your girlfriend and I is that I actually feel terrible using the car so much when she worked so hard to get it. I would sit your gf down and just explain your side. At the end of the day, it is your car. You should help her look on lyft or uber and maybe work a time for you being able to pick her up. Or maybe every once in a while she uses the car and picks you up.

I’m sorry if none of this is helpful, I was just reading and it sounded almost exactly like my situation with my girlfriend and figured I could at least offer my experience

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[u/polarqwerty]

TWO YEARS!?

[u/Cinnamon2017]

So those three days she called off, you got to have your car, right? I don't get why she has precedence over you when it's your car. Why don't you take back your car and she finds rides?

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[u/Ad_nauseum11]

What the hell is going on here?

WHY are you allowing her to drive your car while you pay for the inconvenience of it?

She’s the one with no car. It’s on her to figure out how to get to work. It’s nice to be nice but don’t be a doormat. Take the keys back, tell her you need your vehicle and she is going to need to figure out alternative transportation like any adult with no car must do. WTAF.

[u/BreadPansBeauty]

If its your car, why do you only get it 2 days... I'd start there honestly

[u/LittleWitch122]

Take your car back, this is insane

[u/ajdiaobtooalv6]

I don’t think she’s saved anything for a car

[u/namastebetches]

why don't you have agency regarding your own vehicle?

[u/Thatshygurl]

You’re being used

[u/ShyStrawberry15]

Let her get uber. She’s selfish.
Definitely put your foot down

[u/OGcaptaindingus]

Girl. It’s YOUR car. She should be the one finding rides, not you.

[u/Ndmndh1016]

https://giphy.com/gifs/GBSj8zQtylzOgzkfw9

[u/Commercial-Gift-3001]

i dont think this is breakup worthy as ive seen others jump to, but talk to her and def take your car back. im sure that beater will look real nice to her in no time

[u/NomaTyx]

i fucking love those cookies

[u/pale88]

girl bye. i would feel so bad using my partners car and leaving them to figure out how to get to work ?? like i would tell them no omg take your car back

[u/Stevedabsalot]

Prime example that woman can't share anything 😭

[u/c-b-elle]

You deserve better than this dirt bag

[u/pumpkinsmurf2]

If she gets in an accident in your car without any insurance and someone gets hurt, it will be life changing for you both in the very worst way.

[u/capmanor1755]

1) Get a therapist. Someone in your life has told you that you don't deserve to be treated like an equal in your relationships. 2) Check your lease and find out how fast you can get out of this shared housing and relationship  3) Tell her sharing is over. She's welcome to borrow the car for the 1 day you don't need it but going forward you'll be using it for work.

[u/Lopsided_Panic_1148]

She's mooching off you. Tell her to get her own damn car or she can leave. This is completely unacceptable.

[u/AirborneErinys]

Because a dent in the bumper? Girl.

[u/blsbaby]

Seems like something you could fix. Some people won’t actually stand up and do something unless they HAVE to, which you’ve shown her, she doesn’t need to. How you got into a situation where you can’t drive your own car to work is beyond me.

[u/wolfpack_matt]

https://giphy.com/gifs/eaBi5BLaXZfdSLk6xv