r/BeAmazed • u/Kaos2018 • 20h ago
Miscellaneous / Others Some advance human positive vibes on reddit
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u/PhosphoFred8202 20h ago
Regardless of veracity it’s a cute story. Guy does something nice for the coworker and the coworker does something nice for the guy by letting him think he got away with secret kindness.
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u/2ChicksAtTheSameTime 15h ago
Yeah, here's my little life pro tip:
when there's a big event, or more importantly, a crisis: if you're the one in charge and responsible, when people ask if there's anything they can do to help: give them things to do.
When my dad was dying of cancer, my mom was "running the show" I would ask ALL THE TIME if there was something I could help them with, and I was always told by Mom that she had it under control.
I didn't realize it, but it made me feel so unhelpful.
When my sister died, I took care of all the funeral arrangements and organizing of stuff. Dad was gone and Mom was just a little too old to do it herself (and no one should have to bury their child)
But when there were little things that Mom could tackle, I'd assign them to her. It kept her busy, and it kept her from feeling unhelpful.
I now understand why people give you food when a love one dies. it's their own way of not feeling unhelpful in a tragic event.
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u/_mj420_ 14h ago
Bro/bro...ette..? This! People really dont play 4d chess now. As rare as it probably was anyway, this is fundamental metaknowledge that wasnt passed down in the way it should have been and it would help the world if more people thought like this. Its not inauthentic and is direct/ambiguous enough that there is both purpose and interpretation that allows for this act to fulfil aswell as not be dictarorial. It both satisfies and gives agency to the bereaved.
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u/oodjee 11h ago edited 11h ago
Bro/sis works better than bro/broette i feel like
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u/leavenotrail 9h ago
Nah, as a lady bro, I much prefer broette over sis. Lol but just plain bro is best.
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u/Anyashadow 13h ago
Food is so helpful when you are dealing with a death in the family. You tend to forget about taking care of yourself and having food available helps so much.
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u/twitwiffle 11h ago
We recently had a death. I wrote thank you notes to each and every person and thanked them for their meal exactly.
I appreciated it so much. Much of it would have fallen on me and I just didn’t have it in me.
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u/Hereforthebabyducks 11h ago
My wife and I did this after our son was born. We made a list of things that people could do when they inevitably asked how they could help. It was so helpful to point them to the list rather than trying to come up with something on the spot.
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u/sentence-interruptio 12h ago
it's a better system than "I'll just guess what should be done and do it." The latter approach leads to things done twice or done wrong, because of no communication between two people.
better to ask "what can I do?" and "can you do this for me?"
even the whole concept of "running the show" can be the subject of asking. "can I take over?"
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u/DeadWishUpon 10h ago
I read in another comment that suggest specific things that you can help with.
Sometimes it feels like a forced polite response or they don't want to bother people. But if you suggest: "Do you need help with something: I can bring you home-made food, walk your dog, watch your kids when you take a nap", or whataver you feel might help. People are more willing to accept because some of the suggestions might be something they haven't thought.
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u/DarkwolfVX 8h ago
Hey I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss, and really appreciate your point of view. My sister is my best friend and I can't imagine life without her, and we both went through similar feelings of unhelpfulness when our dad passed. I know it can't have been easy.
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u/SadLittleWizard 2h ago
This is a very similar reason why I actually avoid doing simple things for old folks (particularly my own grandmother who lives with my parents) unless I can see it will be a challenge for them. The more you do for them, the less they feel they can do things for themselves. Makes them feel dependant on others when they still have years of mobility and freedom ahead of them. Let older folks be independent as much as possible so they can enjoy tackling the things they can.
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u/HeligKo 2h ago
Legit. I was left out of a lot of things I could have helped my mom with when my dad was dying. She wouldn't ask even when I put myself out there, because I was dealing with some shit in my own life. I felt left out and helpless, and my sister resented me for not being more present.
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u/Coen0go 15h ago
As my dad always says: “A story doesn’t have to be true to be good”
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u/lowbatteries 14h ago
My grandpa went a bit further: "don't let the truth get in the way of a good story"
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u/sentence-interruptio 12h ago
there's something that bugged me about this story. what happened in the morning that made her think he forgot?
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u/coldpassion 20h ago
I'd whisper back: "tell'em snitches get stiches" /s 😄
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u/facebookgivesmeangst 20h ago
These are repeat posts on Reddit that I don’t mind
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u/PersonFromPlace 18h ago
There’s one I really need to find, it was about a guy who felt guilty that his mom died giving birth to him, and one of the comments was so up beautiful and nurturing, and I think about it from time to time whenever I think about my mom.
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u/SuperKirbyFan 17h ago
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u/Armin_Tamzarian987 13h ago
Wow. I was not expecting that last line. I'm gonna be thinking about this for some time.
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u/CosmicGoddess777 13h ago
Wow :’) Such a gorgeous comment. Some people are really just natural poets, aren’t they 😭
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u/Own-Cranberry-8210 17h ago
I remember that one. Tried to find it but no luck. Hopefully someone posts it as a reply here!
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u/chains_enjoyer 15h ago
Just letting you know, someone did post the link not long after you commented.
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u/fallen_one_fs 19h ago
I've seen this more than a few times, but it always brings a smile to my face.
Goddamn rats!
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u/Soggy-Caterpillar787 16h ago
It's great when something can bring a smile like that, especially in a world that can be pretty dark sometimes. Rats definitely have a way of stealing the show!
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u/ggk1 19h ago
It confuses me how some people just cant keep themselves from finding a way to let everyone know they already saw a post. Some bitch about the repost, others leave a comment like yours. But it’s weird and I don’t understand why
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u/486451456416 16h ago
To me, it is sad to realize that we have to keep reposting a handful of fake feel-good stories, because there are so few real ones, especially in our own life. We need more uplifting news and happy-end stories like this in the shitstorm of constant bad news, but the sad truth is that there is simply not enough. The world is a really, really shitty place. Maybe it's "just" my depression talking...
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u/baldmanboy 14h ago
Definitely is your depression. YouTube feel good stories and you'll find an infinite amount.
Sadness sells.
Happiness does too, but sadness/anger/drama/fear is what totally enrobes us. Suffocating. Cannot escape. Becomes your new normal.
And why do you feel that way?
Duh, you need more money to buy more stuff, so stfu and get to work.
It's all designed. All of it.
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u/ggk1 13h ago
It is. You’d be surprised the effectiveness of unplugging from the news and instead focusing on adding positivity to your circle around you.
Frankly nothing you’re probably getting upset about in the news actually impacts your day to day in any way other than making you upset. It’s taking space from your emotional capacity that could be refilled with community
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u/EntrepreneurTiny9812 17h ago
People with low self esteem/worth look for any reason to feel superior to others
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u/NaughtyGaymer 16h ago
Yup realized immediately I've read this one before but read it again anyways because it's so sweet.
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u/mrintangibles1 20h ago
Great story. Made me smile.
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u/rifain 15h ago
I find it sad. The woman was used to her husband forgetting her birthday. And for once he did something for her....because a stranger indirectly told him to. The year after, husband probably forgot again. I don't see anything beautiful in this story.
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u/Maatjuhhh 14h ago
My head canon is that the husband is embarrassed enough that his daughter called and thus will never forget the next years after..
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u/Various-Blacksmith56 14h ago
There are two probables to consider, and I think imagining the outlook of choosing the sadder one may be what's weighing on you. Considering that imagining the other one is just as probable would help make your outlook brighter. Hope all things are well with you. We can't always change the world but we can change how we look at it. Hope positivity comes to you.
The husband and wife seemed still together 6 years later and it seems she shared the story with the coworker in a positive way. So who knows. But the wife had a happy enough memory of it to share with the coworker, and that was a memory she carried for 6 years. Seems special
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u/Dealiner 14h ago
How do you get from that story that she was used to it or that he was doing it frequently? It might have been that one time for all we know.
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u/ColdFix 20h ago
Link to the original post by MastodonBob: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/s/cxdGP0KUbx
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u/Shaknu 17h ago
imagine being the dad. You had a big surprise planned for the evening when your wife got home from work. To throw her off he pretended he forget all morning.
But her Work Husband got all the credit
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u/TheAndrewBrown 16h ago
Just a tip for people, it’s rarely a good idea to pretend you forgot about important things to make the surprise “better”. Some people may be into it but the vast majority would rather not feel like shit for however long until the surprise comes. You should treat the day normally and then the surprise should be over and above to make it hit properly. If you need to lower expectations for the surprise to hit, then it’s probably not worth a surprise.
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u/ARandomStan 12h ago
I've like to think a better way is to plan something usual and normal and wish them but then boom, it was much bigger than you thought. You were already satisfied and happy? how do you like them apples
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u/350 15h ago
Except this is a stupid strategy for something as important as your anniversary, don't actually do that IRL.
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u/RecipeFunny2154 14h ago
Yeah, certainly someone can just build up anticipation for their partner without giving the game away or acting like they forgot. I don't get that approach, personally. It's potentially a whole day of that person feeling weird for no reason.
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u/sentence-interruptio 12h ago
genuine query. let's say i have a wife, which I don't.
if i don't want to surprise her, how early should I mention anniversary? a day before the day would be ok? or the morning of the day?
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u/Even-Application-382 2h ago
It tends to come up in conversation a couple of times before the day because you are both excited for it. If the first time either of you mention the anniversary in the month or so leading up is the day of, then something is off I think. Then acknowledge first thing (or maybe during coffee) on the day, too, because of course you do.
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u/JobInQueue 25m ago
Every person's different - some partners enjoy a lot of lead up, where the anticipation is most of the fun. Others want their partner to handle it all and not say much, because they have anxiety issues. And the enjoyment is having everything go off without their input.
The whole spectrum, the key ingredient is listening.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ask8243 14h ago
He really planned a whole romantic plot twist just to get outperformed by the office husband 😭
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u/Original_Action8858 12h ago
Well I think people forget that surprises don’t mean you have to keep the other person completely in the dark. It also doesn’t have to be the only thing you do to commemorate, a small thoughtful card goes a long way in easing someone’s mind while you’re trying to pull off a surprise.
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u/OnceMoreAndAgain 14h ago
If I were the dad, I'd be worried why my wife's male coworker was calling our home and speaking to our children. Hopefully the dad knows that male coworker well enough to not make that a concerning event. In other words, hopefully that coworker is a friend of the family and the kids know them and the husband knows them.
The reddit comment does a nice job of framing the situation in a pleasant way, but if you stop and think about what that person did then it could be creepy under normal circumstances of coworkers.
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u/HannahHoneyQueen 19h ago
that's a thoughtful way to step in without claiming any spotlight. the long-delayed thank-you from her makes the whole thing land even nicer.
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u/Efficient-Koala4417 19h ago
Right, so they magically know what the woman is referencing six years after the fact! 🤨 uh huh
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u/Trumperekt 13h ago
And the woman is fine a male coworker calling home and talking to her preteen kids. Uh huh
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u/Efficient-Koala4417 24m ago
Yep, phones a child at their home and says 'Don't tell your parents i called and spoke to you'. Doesn't whiff of anything sketchy /s I'd totally be having a safety discussion with them after that if it was me, not whispering sweetly in the blokes ear six years later what a Chad he is.
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u/etrore 17h ago
What is so cute about this? The husband forgetting the anniversary was the hurtful part. The husband still forgot and she knew since her kids told on coworker.
If my coworker went behind my back to call my kids to meddle in my relationship I would definitely not appreciate that.
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u/IlludiumQXXXVI 17h ago
Yeah, agreed. Most people don't want flowers and dinner, they want respect and appreciation.
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u/bujweiser 17h ago
My wife and I have forgotten our anniversary the last 2 years 😂
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u/OnceMoreAndAgain 14h ago
It's strange how if one person forgets then it is sad, but if both people forget then it is adorable.
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u/bujweiser 9h ago
We’ve been married a decade and a half and our anny coincides with the end of the school year so it’s always a mad dash to make sure all supplies and such are turned in with the kids. We’re both laid back people so it’s also not the end of the world to us.
Last year we got texts from family members saying happy anniversary and we were both like ‘oh yeah that’s right!’
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u/atreeismissing 15h ago
What is so cute about this?
Seems the wife was quite happy, to the point she remembered it 6 years later. You're over analyzing it and trying to find something wrong when it's far more simple, the wife enjoyed her evening which was the entire point, how she got there isn't as important you want to make it.
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u/Various-Blacksmith56 14h ago
100%
She remembered what the coworker did for her for 6 years. She remembers it with appreciation
I don't remember things my coworkers did for me 6 years ago. So this was special
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u/486451456416 16h ago
In reality, everyone would react like you. But when we are watching a movie, or reading a made up short story, we prefer to suspend our disbeliefs, and don't question the small plot holes.
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u/Majestic_Pear_3851 16h ago
Look at it this way: what if that was the (clearly neglectful) husband’s kick in the pants to get his act together—a kick in the pants that maybe saved their marriage. Some “work husbands” take advantage of those situations to drive the wedge further in the hopes of starting something up with the wife. This one saw an opportunity to be a genuine gentleman in a way, as he saw it, that saved both spouse’s dignity for a time. She said thank you. That’s how you know it all worked out for the better.
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u/Punningisfunning 19h ago
A stranger, from a phone call, will never be able to keep a secret between kids and the stranger. A mom will always be able to find out.
Personally, I think we should make it a habit of NOT telling kids “it’s a secret, don’t tell your parents”.
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u/sentence-interruptio 12h ago
I'd tell kids "it's a secret for two days" hoping they'd break it on the second day.
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u/D45ers 19h ago
Well this is definitely made up lol. It sounds heartwarming but also completely stupid to be real.
Describes her as Female coworker lets us know it’s a guy posting this cuz girls don’t call girls female.
How much does he call this married woman’s house phone to memorize her phone number that seems odd.
Kid definitely wouldn’t memorize their parents anniversary then think to call their dad lol. Like the dad woulda known something was up and the kid woulda said some guy mom works with called our house phone and told me it’s your anniversary. Dad definitely woulda been like why is this guy always calling our house phone (since he memorized the number he must call it frequently and being a house phone the dad is definitely aware this guy calls a lot already) and why is he talking to my kids about our anniversary
It’d be stupidly risky if this was your career and having to explain to HR why you’re calling your coworkers house phone when she’s with you at work and talking to her kids when the dad inevitably confronts his wife about this ma she works with always calling g the house phone and now talking their her kids lmao
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u/von_Roland 18h ago
Alright let’s go one by one.
1.) calling a coworker a female coworker used to have no political connotations attached to it, if he’s old enough to be working in an office before cell phones were common he may not know of the shift and would likely say male coworker too if it was relevant to the story.
2.) he probably has her home phone written down somewhere as sometimes you need to contact coworkers off the clock. Probably just a number he picked up in the normal course of knowing someone. This still happens in the modern day to social people. I have lots of numbers in my phone from people I don’t even know that well.
3.) again knowing a phone number doesn’t mean it’s memorized. And of course the kids don’t know the anniversary the guy told them. Further what nefarious purpose could there be to reminding her husband about the anniversary to make said husband look good. Husband probably just thought “wow what a bro”
4.) call records were not meticulously monitored back then. Even then if there’s no complaints from any other coworker the only thing hr might get into him about would be making a personal call on work time.
Now I’m not saying this story is true but your points are nonsense
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u/AUTsidurr 19h ago
Today on "Things that never happened"
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u/PeaceMan50 18h ago
Upvoted you, I cause you are right, cause it's al about a karma farming post.
Things everyone wishes happened to them but didn't, and they all go "awwww"
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u/havok0159 17h ago
I choose to believe that even if this was fake, someone who's seen it in the nearly 10 years it's been reposted has taken inspiration from the post and done something like it.
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u/AUTsidurr 17h ago
Maybe, maybe they Just reposting it....cause when such an opportunity comes...this Post is Not the First thing they're thinking of imo
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u/PositiveCoyote100 14h ago
This feels like the type of fake story that's really common Reddit, but we'll never know.
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u/Sad_Pattern_220 19h ago
This is the fakest story of all time, and also creepy as shit
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u/Maximum_Overhype 18h ago
I have this rule see. The more nerds online I see calling something fake, the more likely it is real. Reasoning being it likely involved interacting in some way that tends to be dynamic and expressive in a way that someone terminally online would immediately dismiss as false, but is totally the type of genuine interaction I've come to expect as totally possible and memorable enough to tell as a story.
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u/Sad_Pattern_220 17h ago
This is a story only someone terminally online would make up and use to make themselves feel better
Only a complete moron would believe this random coworker, who called these people's children in the middle of the day, also said "This and so-and-so, don't tell your mom who I am for six years" and the kids totally remembered that
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u/Dealiner 14h ago
Only a complete moron would believe this random coworker, who called these people's children in the middle of the day, also said "This and so-and-so, don't tell your mom who I am for six years" and the kids totally remembered that
Then we should probably be glad that's not what happened according to this story.
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u/SamiraSimp 15h ago
hey genius, the kids probably ratted out the coworker like 2 days later and the mom just didn't mention it for later. if you're going to say something is fake you should at least use some critical thinking to disprove it
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u/JalapenoPopPoop 14h ago
Such a weird story to make up about yourself, definitely getting Nice Guy vibes
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u/Potential4752 16h ago
Not only is it a fake story, it’s a shit story. The husband didn’t change as a person. The fake coworker made one day better at the expense of extending a shit relationship.
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u/Arm-pit-pizza 19h ago
So refreshing to read something of this nature instead of the " so i banged her instead" i was anticipating.
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u/NewYak4281 14h ago
It’s like someone opened a window and let in some fresh air for Reddit. Helpful to remember we’re all humans doing human things.
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u/Strength-InThe-Loins 13h ago
There's a delightful Dutch (?) short film called Tanghi Argentini that tells a similar story.
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u/No_Term_1731 12h ago
What stranger calls someones house and tells the kids to keep a secret? That is some fucked up shit.
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u/PlatypusDream 12h ago
That is sweet.
BUT...
The wife can also give the husband a gift, card, night out, etc. to celebrate.
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u/shme0301 11h ago
Sometimes it's the little gestures that mean a lot. My family had a house fire right as covid lock down happened. Awesome timing. My husband's coworker/friend stopped at the store and bought us all little comforts while we were away from home. That meant the world.
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u/FriendRaven1 11h ago
I was in some type of career building class and a woman mentioned how she and her husband were having problems that week affording diapers.
So I bought some (I knew the kid's size) and some assorted baby products (food, powder, etc), lied my way into her building, left the bags at the door, knocked to alert the person I heard inside, and took off.
She came in the next day spreading the story of a the good samaritan.
Weeks later as the class ended, she gave me a knowing smile and hugged me. Apparently the person who opened the building door ratted me out the next day, but she hasn't said anything.
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u/DisorderlyBoat 4h ago
This sub is so ass I'm leaving now. This Facebook boomer slop is a top post?
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u/silkdarling 19h ago
really nice to see people doing something kind just because they can ❤️ this is so cuteee
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u/Ozz87 19h ago
This is weird behavior.
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u/NotEdot_ 19h ago
How???
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u/Ozz87 19h ago
My wife’s coworker is calling my home, talking to my kids and establishing secrets with them? My kids should not be having secrets, even “good” ones with strangers, period.
Why are they so involved in my life? What on earth do they think they need to intervene in my marriage for?
This is insane overstepping and the fact that everyone is cheering this behavior is pretty creepy.
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u/NotEdot_ 19h ago
If you read the post, it says it was in the landline era people didn’t have a mobile phone.
Ontop of that, it’s pretty obvious that they were friends in the work place since the wife was talking to op about their troubles meaning they have a close is relationship.
Finally during that time it was more common for kids to answer the phone while parents were at work or busy and the kids “ratted” op out meaning the mum was told and found it sweet?
It was clearly a consensual thing, and the parent having the ability to raise their kids so they know how to avoid danger, so what’s your issue, how is it creepy between friends?
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u/Ozz87 19h ago
You honestly think it’s ok for your coworkers to call your home and talk to your kids and specifically tell them not to tell you? In whatever era?
I frankly would not want my best friend having secrets with my kids much less my spouses coworker.
In any era this shit is weird.
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u/NotEdot_ 18h ago
If someone is my friend I’m friends with them because I trust them. So why would it be weird if my friend was having fun harmless games with my kids?
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u/Ozz87 18h ago
Honestly if you don’t see the problem you’re not going to be convinced by a stranger on the internet.
I hope the people you trust are indeed trustworthy.
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u/NotEdot_ 18h ago
The only problem is you lmao. If you can trust your kids to know how to stay safe then that’s on you and your failure of a parent
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u/tortoiselessporpoise 19h ago
Yeah sure she gave him a thank you blowjob and the husband invited him over for a threesome to thank him for saving their marriage too, since this is r/thathappened
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u/LtHigginbottom 20h ago
This is not new. Always nice to hear positivity but this is not new.
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u/HermelindaLinda 20h ago
Yeah, it's very old. I haven't seen it in such a long time, but I think about it ever so often.
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u/Tigrisrock 18h ago
I'd find it quite weird if a co-worker calls our home number and talks to kids or spouse. To be honest I wouldn't share our home number with an employer or co-worker in the first place, so maybe they had some kind of work relationship or were friends as well.
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u/Zepp_BR 17h ago
Some people might say "this can't be true".
So I'm chipping something that happened to me many years ago.
I used to work at a hotel as a receptionist, and at the end of a very busy month, I looked at everyone's face and saw no one was happy. It was a rough month, we've had problems with other sectors in the hotel, a lot of complaints and whatsoever.
So I thought "I think I can boost the morale a little bit".
I called a relative of mine and said "hey, I need you to do me a favor: go to a chocolate store, buy a basket of assorted chocolates and write a card saying it's an anonymous hotel guest. Get it delivered here. I'll pay for everything".
So they did.
A few hours later, lo and behold, a beautiful chocoalte basket was delivered to us by an anonymous sender and I could see the glee in the team's eyes. It was beautiful.
Until the manager showed up.
She DID NOT like that we got that basket, said we didn't work THAT good to deserve such thing.
So, she did what every resented manager would do. Called the chocolate store and asked to know who was the anonymous sender.
And the owner TOLD HER it was a relative of one of the crew, fucking my whole plan up.
That thing happened many years ago, I don't work there anymore and I still don't go to that particular chocolate store.
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u/Dvorozhetskii 19h ago
Reading this kinda made me tear up.
This is some Faith in Humanity Restored shit.
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u/nanadoom 19h ago
Sweet story, why is it his responsibility to celebrate her on their anniversary? Why does she expect a surprise and him being romantic while she does... what? It's not her birthday, it's not mother's day, it's a shared celebration for both of them. Why doesn't she plan something and surprise him if she thinks he forgot?
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u/ShizunEnjoyer 19h ago
Sweet comment, why is it her responsibility to remind him of their anniversary? Why do you expect her to surprise him by being romantic while he does... what? It's not his birthday, it's not father's day, it's a shared celebration for both of them. Why doesn't he plan something and surprise her if you think he cares?
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u/nanadoom 19h ago
I would also add the reason I said why doesn't she celebrate him if she thinks he forgot is because that's the kind of thing that happens when you aren't keeping score. You should always be looking for ways to make your partner happy and feel loved and appreciated. Sometimes people forget dates. Don't be a spoiled brat about it because no one is celebrating you. Celebrate the day together
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u/nanadoom 19h ago edited 19h ago
Where did I say it was her job? I'm saying plan it together. Talk about it like it's an event you are both a part of instead of it being a celebration of her.
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u/ShizunEnjoyer 19h ago
In your first comment you said she should surprise him, and in the next you say they should plan it together. Which is it? Or are you going to continue moving goal posts?
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u/nanadoom 19h ago edited 12h ago
I said if she thinks he forgot to plan something than she should. Much like if my wife forgot to get the icecream when she was shopping, I would go out and get it. I wouldn't sit at home and be mad she didn't. It's not either of their jobs specifically, it's a shared task. If one person isn't doing the shared task, then the other person can either do it themselves or talk to the other person. Have you never had a shared task before? Let me ask you this, is it worse that he forgot or that she remembered and didn't think he or their marriage was worth any effort on her part to celebrate? Is the anniversary about celebrating their lives together or is it to celebrate how lucky he is to have her?
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u/Original_Intention 17h ago edited 17h ago
Are you being deliberately obtuse? Their point was clearly that it isn't just on one person.
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u/LawyerAdventurous228 16h ago edited 13h ago
Are you being deliberately obtuse?
Many such cases. Can't call out benevolent sexism on reddit without everybody being disingenous and playing dumb.
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u/AmbitiousVast9451 12h ago
what is wrong with you? you could've just realized you were wrong and moved on, but you just made things up. who do you think is genuinely dumb enough to fall for this? we can all read their comment dude, we all can clearly see they did not say that. is it really that bad to admit you're wrong that you're going to blatantly lie, or in your words "moving goal posts"
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u/LawyerAdventurous228 19h ago edited 19h ago
its not her birthday, it's not mother's day, it's a shared celebration for both of them. Why doesn't she plan something and surprise him if she thinks he forgot?
They never said "she should always plan everything". The point is that since its a SHARED anniversary, they should BOTH plan something.
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u/LawyerAdventurous228 19h ago
You have a point but everyone in the replies is just going to play dumb. Good luck getting people to admit that benevolent sexism is still sexism.
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u/Maximum_Overhype 18h ago
It sounded like it was important to her you robot
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u/nanadoom 18h ago
Then she should have talked to him. If you don't express an expectation, it's not fair to expect the other person to fulfil it.
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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj 9h ago
Not really. Why didn't they both plan an anniversary instead of it being on one person?
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u/Yumi_in_the_sun 18h ago
I'm still waiting for my husband to remember our anniversary. It was in June.
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u/Afrin_Sultana 18h ago
My older sister once received an excellence award at work, a rising star. She called me, upset that her work friends had ditched her for a break and she felt unappreciated. I called up her best friend and just let him know about the award. Her friends ended up surprising her with flowers and chocolates and made up a story that they were aware of the award nomination and had gone out to get something for her. She was so happy when she came home that evening. Fast forward few years later, I learnt that sister was in a relationship with best friend and he cheated on her with the ‘friend’ he had gone on a break with.
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u/Vaguely_vacant 17h ago
I used to call my father in law every year on my wife’s birthday to remind him to call her. He was always super appreciative and my wife was never sad because he forgot her birthday. Miss you, Ed. RIP
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