r/AmItheAsshole • u/Lliyu • 8h ago
AITA for leaving the table when my mother thanked god for my achievements?
*edit: thanked her praying for my achievements
I 18F finally got into my first choice uni after being placed on hold for a month. Last night while eating dinner with my mother, she randomly brought up the "fact" (with a smirk too) that I couldn't have possibly been accepted by my current uni if it weren't all thanks to her praying everyday. Her statement didn't sit well with me and I told her it was disrespectful to the hours I spent getting A's, working extracurriculars and other essential uni prep work I did alone. However, she immediately picked up her phone and pretended to scroll the entire time I was trying to reason, I knew all my words were going in her left ear and out the right so I left the restaurant. I had told her multiple times that she's free to believe whatever she wants as long as it doesn't involve me, AITA?
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u/GalaxxyOG 8h ago
Congrats, but it’s time to learn the next lesson- you can’t reason with religious zealots. Just accept her flaws and let it go mentally.
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u/Victor-Grimm Asshole Aficionado [12] 8h ago
NTA-I had grandparents that were the same way except they didn’t have the phone to crawl into when I would ask which god? Then say not the one I don’t believe in. That rattled their cage a bit.
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u/BlackFenrir Asshole Aficionado [13] 8h ago
Nope, NTA at all. There are ways to thank God for helping make stuff happen that doesn't devalue the person's effort. Thanking God for bringing a specific doctor on a sick patient's path is respectful, thanking god for doing the doctor's work is not.
Your mom was just trying to take credit for your achievements.
Congratulations on graduation and getting into the uni you wanted. I'm but a random internet stranger, but I'm proud of you either way :)
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u/Environmental_Art591 8h ago
Agreed thanking god for things of fate (a the right doctor, or providing an opportunity for a second consideration) is fine, dismissing all the hardwork done outside of that fated fleeting opportunity is disrespectful to everyone who did that work.
OP, this internet stranger mum os proud of you too, hugs sweetie, now keep up the good work, it doesn't go unnoticed or unappreciated to the rest of us.
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u/Urbanyeti0 Supreme Court Just-ass [104] 8h ago
NTA but just don’t take the bait, or start pointing out every time something goes wrong that clearly she wasn’t praying hard enough
Congratulations on your hard work, enjoy college and getting out of that house
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u/Calamondin88 Partassipant [2] 8h ago
NTA one bit. She could've prayed all she wanted, without you putting in the work there would be absolutely nothing. It's crazy she doesn't realise that.
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u/wickybasket Partassipant [1] 6h ago
Ask her why if her prayers pull off miracles, she isn't praying for childhood cancers to be cured instead.
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u/ari_bellz18 8h ago
No girl you worked hard for it don't let your mother take that away from you twin x
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u/GovernorBigBalls 8h ago
NTA. Your hard work got you into uni, not her prayers. Credit belongs to you. It's not wrong to want your efforts acknowledged, and leaving when she dismissed you was a boundary, not disrespect.
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u/xelvaris_ 8h ago
Your mom using a smirk to credit her prayers while erasing your hard work is a passive aggressive attempt to steal your spotlight
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I 18F finally got into my first choice uni after being placed on hold for a month. Last night while eating dinner with my mother, she randomly brought up the "fact" (with a smirk too) that I couldn't have possibly been accepted by my current uni if it weren't all thanks to her praying everyday. Her statement didn't sit well with me and I told her it was disrespectful to the hours I spent getting A's, working extracurriculars and other essential uni prep work I did alone. However, she immediately picked up her phone and pretended to scroll the entire time I was trying to reason, I knew all my words were going in her left ear and out the right so I left the restaurant. I had told her multiple times that she's free to believe whatever she wants as long as it doesn't involve me, AITA?
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u/drkmater006 8h ago
NTA. Don't take it personally. Your mom is just one of those types. Trust me, she knows what you accomplished.
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u/Professional_Proof32 8h ago
NTA - you put in the work, nobody else did. She isn't giving credit where it's due and that's totally unfair.
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u/SpeedBlitzX Colo-rectal Surgeon [41] 8h ago
NTA Also it'd be funny if she does something great and instead of thanking her you should thank god and give her a taste of her medicine, see how she reacts.
But then again maybe she'll respond also just as negatively.
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u/today-tomorrow-etc Partassipant [4] 8h ago
NTA you worked so hard to get where you are. God played no part in that.
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u/FuzzyCat_6578 Partassipant [1] 6h ago
NTA. She’s jealous and wants to both take credit for your accomplishments and make sure you don’t feel proud of yourself for them.
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u/Mischevious_tail Partassipant [3] 3h ago
Jealous mumma NTA
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u/Mischevious_tail Partassipant [3] 3h ago
Congratulations btw. I’m so glad I kept praying for you too
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u/DoucheCraft 8h ago
Life is hard. Religion and meditation (I think that's essentially what praying is) probably help your mom make it through the day. It's annoying, but it sounds like you live with her, which means she's supporting you.
There are worse things than a supportive parent who's a little annoying! Wish you the best at uni.
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u/Comfortable_Fun_9872 Certified Proctologist [20] 8h ago
NTA
Congratulations on your hard work and achievements. You did the right thing not letting someone try to take your dedication away from you.