So my friend and I will be going to university soon, she leaves next week. I’m meeting up with her one last time that week, the day after I see her she’ll be putting her 3rd cat down, then going to university soon 2 days later. I’ve been thinking of gift ideas and I remembered she has the ashes of one cat in her room, so I thought maybe I’ll give her a locket, where she can put the ashes of all 3 cats into to take with her to uni so they aren’t apart. My plan is to write a note explaining that and to tell her to read it and open the gift at home to avoid upsetting her. I’m just worried this might be insensitive or smth? Like maybe being reminded of her lost cats might upset her, so I just wanted to ask what people think, is this sweet or a bad upsetting gift?
Edit: first of all thank you sm for all the responses! Here’s an update and some extra info. First of all yes, my best friend is sentimental, in primary school she’d keep a photo of her dad with her because she only saw him every 2 weeks, she’s a sensitive person in that regard and her cats mean the world to her. Also her uni is 4 hours away from home, so she will completely be away from her cat and any sentiment of her other cats (like the urn in her room)
After some thinking I think I will give her a locket with a photo of each cat, that way her 4th cat can also be included unlike if I did ashes. I’ve found a locket with 4 spaces so I think I’ll ask her for a photo of each cat and add it into the locket before I give it to her! My main concern is just timing, I’ll be giving her the gift the day before she puts her 3rd cat down, but idk if I can do it any other way. If I do it the day after she might be too upset, and then she’s off to uni so I can’t give it to her then. I think I’ll just do it on the day I say goodbye to her for uni, I might visit her right before she leaves but she may be too upset to want to see people which is understandable so in case I don’t see her I’ll be giving it the day before she puts her cat down. So my main concern is that being too upsetting for her