So I’m a 33 y/0 sub. My Dom’s a little bit older than I am and I’ve been subbing for them for almost a year. I have started to develop feelings for them and they said they do too. The problem is that they’re in a LTR and when we met they were open but they’re closing the relationship now and they told me that while they’re closing the relationship for a while they still want me around to resume things once it opens back up.

The problem is that now the situation feels skewed and odd. We are still hanging out just not having sex but even kissing feels odd now. I understand they’re doing what they’re doing to preserve their relationship but I’m feeling very lost already and slightly heartbroken.

I also noted that their partner was still mildly sexually interacting with other people (with the Dom around them) but the Dom is not interacting with me like that, already and I’m starting to get the feeling that I’m the issue in their dynamic.

Another thing is that I’m a POC and their partner is white. The other people that I’ve seen them hook up with resemble their partner and not me so Ive already had an instance that I felt very left out and we talked it out and moved past it but I’m feeling extremely expendable and I don’t know how to bring it up without either losing the chance to be back with them after their stint is done or put undue pressure on them.

Plus just one thing and this may sound conceited but i am very aware the interest I get from other people because of the way I look and it’s significant which they have noticed as well but I think our intellectual and sexual and kink chemistry is very aligned so i don’t encourage other situations but should i just explore other options at this point?

I would appreciate advice because im very confused and my friends would scoff and tell me to to straight up distance myself without understanding that i have feelings here as well

Do you like brats and misbehavior? Just to have something to correct and take action on, as a flex of your power over your slave. I'll be honest, if I find my someone, I don't want to misbehave. Basically, ever. If Sir wants to make me feel helplessly crushed under his control, he can do that without me testing him. Personally, I just don't feel the appeal, and I think it would just send mixed messages. Cause I don't want to pretend I don't like something I do. That is, before anything else, him, and then being controlled by him.

My partner, who's a Dommy bottom in bed floated the idea of using Viagra to keep me hard for longer, and just experiment a little with it. I was interested but I also wanted to ask you guys about your experience with it.

If I recall correctly, another redditor commented one of my older posts saying that his Dom fed him small amounts of it to keep him horny, and I love the idea but also, what would the side effects of that be like? I really wanna try it out but I'm a bit scared tbh

So I’m not sure where else to really say all of this. A few years ago my girlfriend and I opened our relationship so that I can explore my bi side. As I explored I found out that I’m way into being a sub to the point I have no urge to fuck guys but I love being a slut for them. About 2 years ago I took some mushrooms that gave me a bit of gender dysphoria for the first time in my life. Since then I’ve been trying to come to terms with that and I’m scared my gf isn’t receptive to that stuff at all. I tried to talk about it once to her and she basically just denied what I was saying and got scared. This has made me scared to talk about t at all with her and it’s on my mind constantly. I don’t think I want to be a woman but femboy/nonbinary person maybe… Also around the time of the mushrooms my gf made me break it off with a dom because she thought he was getting in the way of our relationship. Now a year later from ending things I can’t get guys off my mind or the idea of being a femboy. Idk I’ve been feeling really depressed lately and I just want to talk to someone. If this isn’t the right place for this stuff just delete the post.

Je vois un homme depuis un certain temps, et il voulait explorer un peu plus la dynamique de domination/soumission.

Je suis très ouvert à l'essayer, mais prendre les devants n'est pas vraiment mon style.

As-tu des idées d'ordres à donner, ou peut-être des conseils pour ce genre de pratique ?

What are people using to get better, deeper thrusts when everyone is sweaty and slippery.
hip handles/ doggy style straps.

I find that when I’m bottoming on a sling, I have to twist around to get solid thrusts. If we’re both wearing chest harnesses, then we can pull together.
But if I’m doggy style, I get sweaty and to push back against the top, which some love, but others don’t 😭.

I’m going to a horse market as a mare and I like it kinda rough.

Does anyone use these things?

As the title suggests, currently on the look for any Discord servers that are focused on finding Doms/Subs/like minded people and a general place to talk about kinks.

Thanks!

Sometimes I wonder if I’m the only one with boots fetish. I love it when a dom put on his boots and makes me bow down to the ground to kiss them as respect. Lick them clean with my tongue. Seeing them in boots from the floor makes me feel so small and weak. Some even stepped on me. My fwbs are usually cool with it. Most of them find it interesting that I like it (I’m masc, dominant irl and workout)

Anyone else on here shares the same fetish? What’s your experiences with boots?

Hello! It's my first time getting into the BDSM community. I'm really inexperienced, but very curious. I was wondering if there were any golden rules of BDSM? Any red flags I should be aware of when looking for a dom?

Preferably, I'd like a hairy, bigger man as my dom. Someone trustworthy, safe, and reliable--but knows when to break me. Maybe someone has resources for doms in the Midwest/Kansas area?

Just want to make sure I'm going in safely!

Thanks everyone!

Met up with a new Daddy today. I was locked as it was something he wanted to see. After me giving oral i asked if he would cum on my cage. He did and after wiped it all up with my jockstrap and told me to wear it home. I did and am still wearing it and can smell his cum. Such a great and fun experience. Not sure why i can't include a pic.

I’m pretty new to this scene, I know I’m a sub but I really want to get more involved. I’m open to an online dynamic but would also like in person. Where do I look for people?

Hey all! Thanks in advance for reading!

I’m a certified thick boy, (6’, 330 lbs, barrel chest) and I’ve been really interested in the kink scene and I’m looking to start sporting a harness. I’ve been looking online but there aren’t a ton options that I think would fit very comfortably. Are there any leather kink gear makers that specialize in plus size wear?

Thanks!

Doms are fragile and vulnerable trying to act tough. Subs are tough individuals trying to act fragile and vulnerable.

All this time that was it, and even if I read something similar, didn’t fully understand until now.

We crave what we lack. We act as what we think we should be. We aspire to what was denied to us.

What’s tougher, the hammer or the nail? Try to hit water with a hammer… you can’t, there’s no power to the hammer. Subs are what make us appear strong by being strong themselves and offering resistance.

I’m looking for more ideas for ways to indulge in a forced workout/building muscle kink in an online dom/sub dynamic. In particular, ideas relating to controlling the sub’s body to make it perfect for the dom.

I was talking to a sub recently, and he brought up the idea of numbing the penis so much during a session that an orgasm is no longer possible.

I don’t have any experience with this myself and wanted to know what you guys think.

Is that realistic/possible?? And are there any risks? Has anyone here tried this before?

Background: My Master has had me wear a cage for the past 3 weeks and won’t let me come during sessions. I’m always begging him to please release me.

He said that really annoys him and made me an offer:

He’d let me come once a week, but right after that, he’ll fuck me really hard and won’t stop until he’s done. He said it would hurt, and I believe him.

I imagine it’ll be really rough. Does anyone have experience with this? Should I do it, or should I stay in the cage?

I have a session coming up with 2 regular subs, We have played seperate many time however this time they wanted a joint session. I have never played with 2 boys at once before I can keep 1 busy easy. Any suggestions for a 2 sub session is appreciated.

Any challenges I can make them do, competitions

Rewards, Punishments

Session ideas etc

All appreciated.

Let’s face it - kinky submissive slaves like me do crazy things when they are horny and even more so when a Dom/Master is not around to put them to good use. What objects, besides dildos, have you inserted to relieve your hunger?
My favourites so far have been:-
- Chain
- Cucumber
- Eggplant
- Pool noodle fashioned into a giant dildo
- Ping pong balls
- Traffic cone
What else would you recommend? I’d love to hear views from other subs/slaves or take instructions from Doms/Masters on what they would like to see

And what are some of your best Dom Top experiences doing so?

Hello all, I'm a happily married man in the UK. I have served as a slave to two Ladies in the past but I do try and bury my submissive needs for the sake of my marriage. However they do resurface from time to time. Now is such a time but I am fantasising about serving a male, cruel and controlling. Is this just fantasy or could it be a real desire? I am confused. Any advice gratefully received.

Hey everyone,

I’m trying to figure out if there is an exact term for my style of dominance, and honestly, I also just need to vent a little.

For me, the most exciting part of D/s isn't just physical play or strict rules right away. What I really love is going deep into a sub’s mind first. I like asking a lot of questions, understanding how they tick, learning their fears, desires, insecurities, and thought patterns, then using all of that psychological depth later during play and within the dynamic.

The problem is, it feels incredibly hard to find subs who actually want this. A lot of people seem to expect instant action or surface-level tropes, but they don't want to put in the mental effort, time, or vulnerability that this requires. It gets pretty exhausting to start talking to someone only to realize they just want a script rather than a real psychological connection.

Because of this, I sometimes catch myself doubting if I’m even a Dom. It makes me wonder if I'm doing something wrong and if I should just be more literal about it, like relying on classic props, strict protocols, and traditional symbols instead of focusing so much on the mind.

Is there a specific term for this kind of dynamic?

Forr those with a similar style, how (where?) do you filter for subs who actually want to put the mental work in without burning yourself out?

I’d really appreciate any insights or shared experiences.

Thanks

I have entered into a TPE D/s relationship. Im a top by nature and from the beginning I knew I was welcomed into my Masters life as a Chore Slave, not for sexual use (although free use, as a hole for him, is still his call)

Its been 3 months locked now, and I have been VERY obedient and have performed well, I think. He has said so too. I have been locked since Day 1, and I try not to complain or mention it as I go through the de-sexualization process he insists on .... He has had a few boys over and fucks them really well (in front of me or in ear shot) and both seem to be very happy, relieved and satisfied afterward. I get nothing, which I agreed to, but ....

Do Masters/Owners really enjoy the angst and torture a boy goes through as they become sexless and remain locked? I fucking hate it TBH, but I agreed, I know this is my place ... and will continue to accept this as we both know its for my own good .... but WHY, is it so hard on us? any advice? short cuts? My balls are SO swollen now because Im still constantly horny with no release. Id love to try cumming from getting fucked, but he just has me wash the car or something if I bring it up. His favorite thing is to tell me to "go pull weeds" when I say Im horny and struggling. ugh

do bottoms go through the same process as top guys when denied and locked 24/7? Im thinking its hard for me because I loved using my cock before

Hello.

I often imagine having a dom and living with him.
I’d like dom to cum on my meals. If he likes pup, I can practice eating like pup. And i take tail plug🐶.

If he wants me to take charstity I can take it 24/7. Ruin my clit and one day i’ll dildo off and cum.

I’d like to make dungeon with him. Buy new gears, toys.

Maybe my ideas are vanilla in BDSM community. But i wanna improve it 😈