Seeing SEC frat houses from outside vs big ten, it’s shocking how much classier from outside SEC houses look. Maybe it’s just a veneer but it’s noticeable to me.

Does anyone agree and if so, why do southern frats look nicer ?

At a pre-rush event, two of the brothers invited me and two other potential new members into the basement. The five of us talked and got to know each other for a while, while most of the other people stayed outside.

Could this mean they were especially interested in us, or is that pretty normal at pre-rush events? I liked this fraternity and plan to attend its events during rush week next week.

I’m rushing at a smaller d1 school with not a huge Greek life presence, but still competitive. I’m a sigma chi triple legacy and I’ve let all the frats I’ve talked to know that. I went to some of the sigchi events and just didn’t really like any of the brothers, but I’m really wanting to join a different frat. The problem is at the other frats I’ve talked to they act like I’m not interested in them or already committed to sigchi but this really isn’t true. Am I fucked? I thought about texting the recruitment chair at the frat I’m aiming for and clearing it up but what should I do?

I have not stopped getting that question in my interviews

I’ve heard this term when to referring to clothes and I have no idea how to use it in a sentence

Rush bouse with your boys and build it into touse. Climb the rankings like it’s cfb road to glory. Bonus points if you start from scratch. Could be the move

Like the title says. I’m a premed student at PSU and really interested in rushing a social frat. I know many frats don’t have the time commitment as others, but is rushing a top frat a bad idea? I understand the time commitment needed as premed to get volunteer hours, clinical experience, etc. Has anyone here done both?

I’m a 22 you old student at Penn state, I plan on graduating with the class of 29, would my age make me rushing weird considering almost all of other people rushing are 18.

Hey everyone,

I'm trying to rush IFC fraternities at UConn this semester and already registered online.

The main council-wide IFC recruitment event is happening right now, but I can't make it today because of a scheduling conflict. There are 3 specific fraternities I want to rush, but l've never met any of the brothers. I already found their individual rush schedules on Instagram.

Does missing the main council event actually hurt my chances? What's the best way to introduce myself at their personal open houses this week when I show up as a complete stranger? Also is it hard getting a bid at UCONN?

Thanks!

I was elected as out pledge master this spring so this fall will be my first run. The only issue is this is the biggest class in my chapters history, and i’m not sure how to handle it. I go to a small school so 30 guys is a lot so i’m hoping someone from a bigger school or experience with this class size can help.

One of the best Fraternity Rush Videos Ive seen.

A brother on our European chapter decided by himself, to quit his medications in the middle of the summer, ever since then he has become more irritable, excitable, and impulsive.

We care about him deeply and we are currently considering our options, including reaching out to his parents (since he lives with them).

Thinking about getting the good old pit vipers for parties u guys reccomend? Or na

I recently got invited to beer Olympics at a frat as a rushee. What does this entail? Like beer pong tourney or more?

Being a couple years distanced from it now, I feel like I have a much less nostalgic view of my fraternity experience than many here. I wanted to share my thoughts and see if others have felt this way because I was a bit melancholic reminiscing about this.

Now, there are a number of factors involved in this, not all of which are necessarily the org's fault. COVID definitely wrecked my freshman/sophomore year, so only being able to really get into it in person junior/senior year was probably bad. I was also at a very highly ranked (~Top 25 globally) institution where academics were the forefront and Greek Life was not the focus, basically the polar opposite of a large SEC school. During Halloween etc., I'd actually go to another school across town because their decorations and theming were much more legit.

I had a stint as Pledge Master and suggested some really cool initiatives like funding for a couple bids each cycle that had waived dues for students from low income backgrounds, which I am genuinely proud of. We were always in the top couple houses on GreekRank. I came from a highly conservative, strict upbringing so Greek life to me was a way to experience everything I'd missed out on growing up.

I bought in fully to the refrains about brotherhood, lifelong connections, being with people wanting to achieve at the highest level possible in all aspects of life (personal, professional, social). After rushing I started to get the first hints that it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. Again, this is, I'm sure, very heavily dependent on chapter and org so I will try not to make generalizations, but when I thought of fraternities I thought of great men, business magnates, policymakers, titans of academia and art being members.

I began to realize my ostensible brothers were… just typical frat guys. Fun to have a drink with? Absolutely. Will I remember one of them backflipping off the house roof at a party forever? Probably. But beyond partying and a perfunctory obligation to philanthropy and other programming, it felt like these men did not really strive for much. I wanted to be amongst the best of the best and leaders of the next generation.

Furthermore, and I realize this is my personal factor, I enjoyed the levity of partying but realized that the general promiscuous nature of relationships between frats and sororities was just not for me. The fact that at formals a given girl probably had been intimate with a nonzero number of my brothers was just not compatible with my internal philosophy. I realize playing fast and loose with relations is integral to typical Greek behavior but I guess it's not something I knew about myself until I was actually in the situation. But college is for figuring these things out, I guess.

All this to say, I was looking at my DMs with former brothers and it's been a year since I've talked to the guy I was closest with, who now works at a sushi spot. I'm just on a totally different life trajectory from the people I used to spend so much time with. This past month, one of the top three American newspapers published an interview with me about my career and rapid ascent. I do not say this to be elitist or flex, but rather am melancholic that I don't feel like these guys ever got the drive, ambition, and standards for excellence that I hold for myself, or understood why.

And that seems like the polar opposite with how most people here look back on their Greek days.

yooo so i just rushed my schools frat i go to usc and i rushed and it was pretty eventful. i unfortunately did not get a bid even though i thought i was close to some of the guys there. should a rush again in spring? or should i just grind in clubs/academics? lmk like i was not sad not getting a bid but frat life lowkey just seems like something i wanna be apart of. also like is rushing in spring kinda awkward especially if i rush the same frat i liked? like going to the same house meeting the same brothers and being like “hey im back like i wanna go again” like that just seems awkward to me but that might just be me idk lol. please lmk

Well today was bid day at large SEC school, at at 7 am I received an email that I did not receive a bid from any houses. Made it all the way to preference night with one house that I had been going to pre rush events for. Made (what I thought were) decent connections, got phone numbers, instas, all that jazz. Even got invited out to church with a group of guys from said frat. Watched as all my buddies got pre bids without me, which was a pretty big red flag it wasnt gonna work out, but I chugged on. But yeah who knows what I did wrong, maybe it was my social skills lacking, or maybe something else, or maybe just being forgettable, whatever it is, im not sure. I plan to rush a different house in the spring as I know they didnt bid me for a reason. Just kinda using this subreddit as a place to vent i guess.

P.S. is it weird for me to message a rush chair to ask what I could have done better?

What Are your Sneakers? 😅

Yikyak saying we aint treating women right, meeting note was eating box and buying flowers and one brother bought an edible flower arrangement for a chick with an ed. We dont think the younger guys (mostly from Jersey go figure) even know how to eat box properly, do they not teach that in jersey?

guys basically i got a bid from this frat at my school last spring when i was a fat freshman, i ended up not pledging, i lost the weight before fall. I was in the gym 24/7, stopped going out, and didnt talk to people. i came around a bit before fall , but i was smoking a ton and was high as fuck. I ddint rlly make conversation and some of em thought I didnt wanna be there when i was just nervous. I also did like 2 stupid things but dont want to go into detail bc they might be in here, but am I fucked? Or is it recoverable? Ive been sober for 2 months now from weed, and go out now but idk.

Their rush process is fucking stupid. Who starts recruiting guys during their high school senior year? Most schools call that dirty rush. No formal recruitment. And the top houses are not IFC affiliated. These guys make them live in the house freshman year with no exceptions. And the ones figuring this about KU rush are stuck with meeting a few guys in the summer and get bids the next day. Then they wonder why many of them drop in the first week of class. Make it make sense.

Hey everyone I didn’t get a bid. I’m at a big SEC school. I rushed 10+ houses of all social tiers and sizes and got walked out of all. Some place I thought was going to go well said the brothers really loved me and had great things to say about me but due to the numbers, they can’t give more bids. I don’t really know how to feel. I’ve wanted to be part of a fraternity for a really long time but now it’s hard to not feel like a reject. I don’t really know what to do and I was told even by IFC that I will get a bid. I want to rush next spring but I don’t know if that’s a good idea just because I don’t want a repeat. I’m a freshman right now. Sorry if something similar has been posted before. Just looking for advice.