I'm in disbelief right now, this has to be a joke cause i can't stop laughing.

I had a really emotionally bad day with many chores to do. I was taking a pepe after a long day of cooking and just....... started to walk away from the toilet IN THE MIDDLE OF PISSING.

i yanked my self back into position but it was too late, pepe everywhere.

Now i have to clean a bathroom and a kitchen.

HELP, do i tell my psychiatrist?

I went to take my dogs out for the nightly walk and out of nowhere I decided to go a different route the the way I usually go. As we are walking past a building I see a PS5 just on the ground. I look around see if anyone was around and so no one. I took it home and tested to see if it worked and yes. It’s a ps5 and it works. I don’t usually like to game, but I would like to play a game.
That’s good for ADHD people like myself. Any suggestions

I wake up and it’s like the smallest thing sets me off
It ruins the tone of the day and is so hard to snap out of.
Yesterday was the same but by afternoon/ nighttime I felt almost bubbly and like I could cope better and that’s the mood I went to bed in.
It’s as if things are easier the later in the day it is, but shouldn’t it be the other way around? Shouldn’t I have more ‘build up’ by night and be able to have a fresh slate at morning?

The other morning, my boyfriend texted me saying I put the cereal box in the fridge. I smiled to myself and thought, “Oops, not again!”

Then, I turned to my coworker and asked him, “Have you ever put something somewhere silly when you’re making breakfast in the morning?” I was intending for it to be a rhetorical question but then he hit me with an answer I was not expecting.

“No, never.” He said.

To be clear, I absolutely love my 7 year old daughter. She is funny, she is smart, she is ridiculously creative, she is empathetic, and she has a fun personality that she isn’t shy about.

But as she gets older it’s becoming more and more clear that she has ADHD just like me. Not only that but it seems like she has my temperament too in many ways; her personality is much more like mine than my wife.

This is challenging for my wife - she’s already had to work hard to deal with my quirks, and now she feels like she has it coming from two sides. Her best friend is also ADHD (more severe than mine). She will cry, “my whole life is about ADHD and I don’t even have it!”

She feels like it’s hard to connect emotionally with our daughter especially when kiddo is having big feelings. Daughter is normally a sweet kid but she will say things or do things that are uncharacteristically mean spirited when she’s upset, especially towards my wife.

A lot of times she’ll say “you know what’s going on in her head, you go talk to her.” And I’ll try my best based on what I know about how my own brain works. But I also know ADHD can be very different for girls than boys so I’m not always sure I really understand what’s going on in her head.

I’ve been working on myself a lot over the past year with a therapist who specializes in ADHD and it’s helped me a lot but now all the things I’m working so hard to overcome are starting to crop up in my beautiful daughter and it’s really hard to see that.

The negative inner voice. The constant feelings of rejection, the constant anxiety that she has broken a rule that makes no sense to her, the frustration with people not understanding her.

I love the way she is, she is such a special kid, but I also feel so guilty for passing this on to her.

Any other ADHD dads with ADHD kids, or ADHD ladies who were raised by ADHD dads who can share some experienced? I’m just looking for some perspective to ground me.

Nothing serious, just a funny anecdote where my executive dysfunction was (for once) actually helpful.

I forgot to answer a DM right away. It was a bit of an emotional one that would’ve taken some effort to answer. Got this intense paralysing feeling every time I thought about replying. Then more messages piled up.

I was too afraid of them seeing me active without getting a reply from me, so I obviously had to delete and quit Instagram and pretend that these people don’t exist because now it’s “too late”.

Days turned into weeks. Weeks stretched into months. I’ve been free since May and I still haven’t opened that DM (or any others)

I have always been complimented on my round, muscular booty, usually by women saying things like "I would kill for an ass like that. What's your secret?"

Having adhd, it's not like I'm paying attention, so I started to and realized exactly what it is...

You know when you forget something in your room, go back upstairs to your room to get it, forget why you're there, go back downstairs, remember, go back upstairs, forget, and repeat this cycle at least another three or four times?

That's the secret. The secret to a perfect ass is taking the stairs... and retaking the stairs

Been on Vyvanse for about 2 yrs now, it’s changed my life and made me be able to achieve things I simply would never have been able to do before. Ultimately I’m very grateful for it.

However, I feel like my life is now just one long, never ending process of chemical regulation. Before, I’d kind of just live in the fact my mind was abit of a mess, or even try to manage it through pure discipline (e.g. strict goals/ expectations of myself for the day). Now my ability to function is primarily associated with medication, which has infected my general attitude to life = the solution to everything comes from without. It’s like a snowball of finding ways to artificially maintain an acceptable base-level through meds, caffeine, cigs, sugar etc. Before, I just had bad habits, now I have minor addictions and dependencies.

Edit: a lot of people have responded saying it’s just like drinking water when you’re thirsty or wearing glasses when visually impaired. If this is how you see it then that’s great and I have no problem with that. I personally view it differently in terms of how it relates to my life. Vynanse has been majority great and I’m very grateful for it, but a reality is that it has caused a change in how I treat my body and function in the world that is negative. I think it has caused me to rely more heavily on other drugs/external stimulants, and weakened my ability to motivate myself internally through my own will. This is not universal, but an issue I’m trying to work through.

2 years in my current position, last week I got put on a pip.

I work as an Architectural designer, My boss says I am a very talented designer, that I have an intuition for good design that few people have. But at the same time that I am inconsistent with performance when it comes to things outside of design. That I don’t show interest in the more mundane administrative tasks associated with the job, (not that I don’t do it, but that my follow through on those things can be inconsistent)

I am meditated, was diagnosed over a decade ago, and have learned a lot about managing my adhd in the last 3 years, but it’s like my boss picks up every short coming I have with adhd no matter how small, even if I outweigh the shortcomings in other areas.

But the biggest thing he brought up was my not staying as late/ coming in as early as he wants.

Currently I work about 43-45hrs a week, never leave at 5, I stay very late on occasion for deadlines. I have consulted others and I believe my boss’s expectations are unreasonable, especially for what I am paid.

Last week I forced myself to stay an extra hour each day, but it was like torture, my meds wear off around the end of the day, and all I could think about is how I had to be there and couldn’t leave, just sitting at my desk going through a roller coaster of emotions, angry at my boss, angry at myself.

The good news is that I had already started applying elsewhere before the pip because I saw this coming, but I feel like this may just happen again. I was fired from my first job after only 3 months. I’m losing hope that I can actually get by and not hate my life.

I'm asking cause I want to find things ( like tools or apps) that could GENUINELY help us all ease studying , not like those apps you read " designed specifically for ADHDs" or "ease your studying tenfold" , no I want to hear the absolute truth from you guys , for example, for me, I find it very hard just to get started, I get bored easily, and sometimes I give up immediately because of how much work there is.( These are all things that affect me, I have friends who have ADHD who have different reasons of why studying is hard for them, but I'm only saying the ones that affect ME specifically).

none of this is sponsored or me promoting anything just sharing smth helpful. and you don't have to use the app i do if you find smth similar that works better 4 you

im a heavy sleeper but i downloaded an alarm app that supported nfc tags and the alarm rings with the only way to turn it off being scanning an nfc tag. i programmed my nfc tag and stuck it on my bathrrom mirror. by the time ive made it to the bathroom ive gained consciousness and know why to stay awake and so i try to. it worked on me with 4 hours of sleep so hopefully it does for someone else

app i use is called "sleep as android" but any alarm that has an nfc "task" will do(?). there are many paid ones but this is the only one i found for free. if u found anything else do tell.

Ever since I (28M) got my diagnosis last year things have slowly started to make sense to me about my needs and behaviour. What I still struggle with though is how to explain these to people close to me:

1) I walk fast, get extremely frustrated by slow walking people in front of me, and often turn up sweaty and agitated when rationally there was no need at all. I know having this inner motor is a thing, but my girlfriend (27F) and others sometimes have trouble understanding why I just cannot slow down and why this makes things arguably worse for me instead of better.

2) I often struggle with even admitting I have this diagnosis to some, since it appears to be structurally overdiagnosed (imposter syndrome is real I find myself reminding myself I have the offical diagnosis and fit most symptoms often) and is poorly understood by many. As with other disorders, how does one explain it without making it sound like an excuse (for supposed laziness, forgetfullness, etc.)?

3) I struggle to explain how structural my impulsivity and forgetfullness is when others that might have no idea of ADHD life think they can relate to losing ones keys or things like that, and people coming up with useless tips like 'just' making a list / agenda / plan or 'just' don't rush. Without freeing myself from all accountability, how do I explain it's just not that easy?

YouTube Music keeps giving me "badges" for being a top listener of the artists that I obsess with. It means that I'm a part of top 1% listeners for the artist this month.

I have been a top listener of:

- Daft Punk

- t.A.T.u.

- MIKA

- Billie Eilish

Once I find something that is comforting, enjoyable or supportive of my current mood, I'm getting stuck on it. Predictability feels like another important component of it.

I've been listening to "Sacrifice" by t.A.T.u today on loop for the last 2 hours. I'm not upset about it or anything. As long as I have headphones, I can practice this habit of mine without driving anyone insane.

I was just wondering if other people have these obsessions in music and what they are.

I've got a full washing machine, a full dryer, and two full laundry baskets that are sitting there, staring at me, as I make this post.

Why am I even on Reddit? I don't remember, besides meaning to look something up 10 minutes ago.

Y'all. Don't be me.

Don't even finish reading this post.

GET UP

GO DO THE THING

I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!

I am a 21 year old woman who have been working for a bit over 2 years and I was diagnosed at 19. I absolutely hate to bring up my ADHD, I’ve recently been struggling immensely with extra paperwork from work and meetings, I had to admit that it was something I struggle with. Especially the paperwork but I could just not bring myself to explain to my boss why that is. I hate to say I have ADHD, no matter how hard I try I view ADHD as a deep personal flaw, I’m less capable, inadequate. The fact that I have to take a step back, the fact that I can’t keep up with everyone else at the same pace is deeply humiliating to me. I push myself and I just end up hitting a wall, I truly hate myself for this. Having ADHD is the worst thing about me, it has ruined my life and I feel like a broken person. I’ll never be as skilled, never be as smart, never be as capable. I am truly grieving what my life could’ve been. I feel like if I ever do say I struggle with something because of my ADHD it’s an excuse, others with ADHD can do it why can’t I? It’s just an endless battle in my head. I’m so tired of pushing myself to the absolute limit, crying myself to sleep during the workdays and laying paralyzed in bed on the weekends just to hit the bare minimum expectations.

I strength train consistently (5x a week), and have been struggling to put on muscle since I am not eating enough🥲 I have tried eating in the morning before taking meds, but I am not hungry enough. During the day, I am so repulsed by food since methylphenidate has completely killed my appetite. I do get hungry in the evening when the medicine wears out, but I’m still not meeting my protein goals from just dinner alone. All tips welcome; thank you!

My wife asked me what it was like to have ADHD, and, after some thought, I told her that when you have ADHD, it takes all your self-discipline to be mindful and live in the present.

For me, my mind is constantly active. If I'm having a conversation with someone and they mention something I find interesting, I get hyper-focused on it. My mind is creating connection after connection to that one thing they said, and then, 10 minutes later, I don't even remember anything they said after that.

It's not just conversations. My mind can easily get hyper-focused on something that happened yesterday, or last week, or 10 years ago and I'll forget everything I was doing or listening to in that moment. I could be driving somewhere and not even remember how I got there.

My ADHD also traps me in the future. If, for example, someone does something that makes me angry, I'll play out the conversation I plan to have with them over and over again. I can create entire dialogues out of nothing. I imagine them saying mean things and I imagine how I'd respond to the means things they say. Then when I do confront them, they don't follow the script I've created in my head. And I realize I've allowed myself to get even more angry at them for conversations that never even existed.

It's hard for me to live in the present because I've either hyper-focused on something that happened in the past or caught up in dozens of imaginary scenarios that will happen in the future.

I have noticed that when there is something I wanted to happen, and then it doesn’t, I tend to spiral in self blame, in imagining how it could’ve went like I wanted, and to be stuck in that thought cycle until I am fully fatigued.
Would love to hear about other’s experiences with this and what helps relief or calm down this spiral when it happens.

Studying Chemical Engineering while managing untreated ADHD without financial resources has become an unbearable strain. Living in another city to study requires working night shifts at a restaurant alongside daytime classes, creating an unsustainable routine that leads to constant stress, severe exhaustion, poor nutrition, and overall burnout.

Coming from a public school background, I often feel I lack the necessary foundation in math and constantly pressure myself to endure this hardship just to prove I can "take it." To relieve this weight, I have considered taking a break from the university to rebuild my academic skills, though I am terrified that entering the formal workforce (CLT) will prevent me from ever returning. Turning 24 this October, I feel as if life is swallowing me whole. Learning that the prefrontal cortex does not fully stabilize until around age 25 only deepens my uncertainty and fear of making a irreversible mistake.

Comparing my journey to peers who only have to study triggers feelings of envy that I am ashamed of, but it is deeply painful to watch others move forward while I struggle with untreated ADHD and unresolved childhood trauma. I feel like I am failing myself and living in constant fear of what I might become if I let things drift. Leaving school entirely does not feel like true relief, but the weight on my shoulders is becoming impossible to carry alone without financial or emotional backing.

Ultimately, I am looking for strategic advice on how young adults with ADHD can navigate severe burnout, financial hardship, and fear of the future without completely abandoning their dreams. Is stepping away from university really the most strategic path forward, or is there a better way to regain control? Any guidance on managing this disorder, accessing low-cost help, and surviving the pressure when you feel entirely isolated would mean the world to me.

Learning piano, learning how to program my own game, learning to draw, learning to animate... these are just a few of the things I've wanted to dive into, work hard on and become a master at, only to burn out after a few passionate weeks.

Maybe burn out is the wrong term, it certainlt doesn’t feel that way. I just quietly lose all interest and find the next thing. I am so tired of not finishing anything.

It's such a strange feeling. I want to be good at something more than anything, but I can't settle on what that something is. I just stop caring.

I thought when I finally got on some medication this would change, but it hasn't. Medication helps me focus and has brought me some clarity, but the hyper focus followed by total apathy cycle remains.

Has anybody here got any experience with actually completing a long term goal or learning something that requires time and practice? I feel like I am eternally at the "New Hobby For Beginners" stage. It's like I have a "Lesson 1" playlist which covers every hobby under the sun on loop.

What do you lot do for appetite suppression when taking medications? Especially when you are training and need to get the calories in.

My go to at the moment is getting calories in via liquid especially milk, I don’t seem to have any suppression when it comes to fluids only when it comes to food.

Parents of kids with ADHD — what was your experience with daycare as toddlers?

Hi everyone,

My son is 20 months old and is extremely active, curious, and constantly on the move. He finds it difficult to stay engaged with one activity for long, gets excited very easily, and has frequent tantrums.

We have already discussed his development with a child psychiatrist and a child development specialist. They told us that there are some things worth monitoring as he gets older, but that he is far too young for any firm conclusions or diagnosis.

At the moment, our main dilemma is daycare. We have received different opinions from professionals: some think giving him more time at home may be beneficial, while others think the routine, stimulation, and social environment of daycare could be good for him.

I'm not looking for a diagnosis or medical advice. I'd mainly love to hear from parents of children with ADHD or very active toddlers about their own experiences.

Did your child attend daycare around 18–24 months old? Did you notice that the structure and routine helped them, or did they initially become more overwhelmed? What was the transition like for your family?

Thank you!

This isnt a begging/donation post, i really just want to vent so hearing me out will help.

I am 19(F), a college student and an artist, and Im severely struggling with inattentive ADHD, it has affected my life so much especially my education and hobbies. I am currently in university/college now but i've needed to take a break due to financial instability and i have to help with the bills in order to go to uni. In context, i also have other mental (severe anxiety, adhd, depression) and *PHYSICAL* illnesses (incurable blood disorder) which makes looking for employment even harder for me. Not to mention, i live in asia where a minimum wage wont be enough to survive and ADHD meds are VERY expensive.

I wanted to vent because no matter how hard i try, i can't do shit AT ALL. The only way for me to earn is to do art commissions and even then im mediocre at that, im not necessarily a bad/beginner artist but im not amazing either. My ADHD just makes it worse because it slows my work down despite trying to pull myself back up everytime.

It hurts to see myself and my state like this, i want to be able to do more, and i know that i am more than this and that i can do better. But i do not have the privilege to function like a normal human being. Why??? Do i not deserve to live? Paralysis genuinely sucks and its ruining my life, please help and give me an advice, i genuinely know what to do